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Suffer From Sexual Guilt

Thu, 01/08/2009 - 20:31
Submitted by Betty Dodson

i discovered masturbation at a very early age. i can't recall the first time, but i know i did it from a very young age. i'm not sure when the guilt kicked in, but i can't really recall a time i didn't feel guilty. i'm in my 30's now, but ever since i can remember i've had an issue around feeling intensely guilty and almost disgusted with myself after reaching orgasm, particularly after a masturbation orgasm. i've read a lot of literature on getting comfortable with my body, and that fantasies are fine and nothing to be ashamed of, but this seems to be a pretty deeply entrenched and wired issue that i'm finding very challenging to move past. it's got to a point where even if i feel aroused, i'd sometimes rather not masturbate, because i don't want to deal with the feelings of guilt and disapproval that follow.

i would greatly welcome any insights, or resource referrals. many thx

Dear L,

Ah yes, my old, enemy, "guilt". I know it well. Guilt feelings are totally worthless. Guilt keeps us stuck in one place, we don't learn from it and it rarely leads to taking some kind of action toward change. We simply wallow in our guilt while feeling sorry for ourselves. It's my belief that sexual guilt is very much like a bad habit that we can break. Think of it as an addiction like smoking cigarettes. Every time an urge to light up (or to feel guilty) comes up, you say, "No. I no longer do guilt." We have more control over our feelings than we realize. It's mostly about making a commitment to change and once your mind is made up, you can do it.

Sexual guilt is a hold over from a religious morality play that should have ended after a few seasons. But here we are some 2000 years later and thanks to organized religions that depends upon making everyone suffer guilt to control us, we continue to deny aspect of our sexuality that desperately call out for expression. Free yourself and begin to enjoy your divine sexual body with as many orgasms as you want so you can have a Happier New Year,

Dr. Betty

 

 

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Trying so hard to free myself of guilt

Sat, 01/10/2009 - 04:20
dor

I come here often and read because I too am still struggling with guilt over masturbating.  It has been so strong lately that I have been unable to even get aroused by myself. 

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