Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I have to say, I am in SO much agreeance with this man's view. Labia are beautiful.. and their uniqueness is like a fingerprint... and the idea that many women are ashamed of theirs is so depressing to me.

I definitely love the look of labia - they are the flower petals of my favorite flower!

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23 - M - Critical Relativist and Feminist (Equalist) - Canada

Vulvas of all shapes, colors, and sizes are beautiful, and it's a shame that so many people of both sexes don't appreciate their beauty. It's especially discouraging that so many women are buying into the idea that not just their vulvas, but their whole bodies, are...

I can't find the words to complete that last sentence. Sorry.

Anyway, I am reminded of a certain website, www.sexylabia.com, that I think makes a valiant effort to fight against this new form of female genital mutilation.

I agree--the bigger the labia the better. My 53 y.o. wife has recently started shaving her genitals. This really shows off her large labia. I love taking pictures and video that show emphasize her lips as well as performing oral sex on her. Her cunt is gorgeous.

And of course it is all about how men feel isn't it?

No…..it’s not about how men feel who responded to this post.  It’s about a small group of mostly men (i.e. plastic surgeons) playing on the common female insecurity around the attractiveness of her pussy. Not just how it looks, but how it smells, how it tastes and, by the way, is it tight enough?

The men responding here are graciously trying to assuage these unwarranted insecurities. I’m sure most men who have been in a relationship have been peppered with the self deprecating comments that we women feel the need to constantly voice about our bodies.

Case in point, I’m a 41 year old woman in a marriage with a man who has, from the very beginning (19 years ago!), tried to convince me that he actually likes kissing and licking, and licking, and more licking, my crotch. That has always been his favorite way to bring me. 

Until I addressed by own insecurities this past year (yeah for Dodson, Ross and friends!) and started working on embracing the joys of self loving, I just didn’t believe him.  I honestly thought he was just paying the price of admittance. 

He gets points for patience. 

And, by the way, I’m a recent inductee into the “I love dick” group (in my mouth, in my butt...) Isn’t Carlin the self proclaimed leader of this group ?

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that with my new found love for my own private parts, I have a new found obsession with his! 

Bonus points for him…he wins.

The idea of labia surgery is so insane. I find it hard to believe anyone would have a doubt about their labia appearance. LADIES:DO NOT GET THIS SURGERY. Your man wants to eat your pussy, period.  He doesn't give a hot damn about how it looks.

Women of the world, listen!! Between your legs is found the human analog of a flower, whose petals are the inner labia. A woman with no visible inner labia post labiaplasty has destroyed her flower. When I walk through a garden, I expect variety in the flowers and shrubs I admire and smell. I expect the same of women's vulvas. They should vary a lot, and ample is wonderful to stroke and mouthe.

sexylabia.com has its heart in the right place, but the manner in which women are depicted there is too close to the porn esthetic. An Abby Winters approach would have been much better.

Sorry I'm late, but I will add my voice. I regard myself as a Vulval Architect or Vulvologist (if such terms exist). I'm now 45, have seen a variety of different vulva designs, and even spent the last 15 years creating my own classification system, and have struggled because you ladies are all so unique. I must have seen countless thousands of vulvas over the last 25 or 30 years, all as different and unique as the face of the owner, and leaving me in complete awe.

For the record ladies I HAVE NEVER AND NEVER WILL SEE A "BAD" OR "ABNORMAL" VULVA!!

I find it heart breaking that so many of you hate yourselves (currently about 70% of all women). Whilst this might sound like a conflict of interests, I would love Bettie to send all of you ladies who doubt yourselves, to me for a second opinion. I certainly wish I could have met the young 21 year old girl in the Channel 4 program about The Normal Vagina that is on this site, and told her just what seeing such a beautiful flared clitoral hood and pendulous protruding labia minora does to me and most men!

Here in Australia the media is censored heavily so only "closed' vulval designs are allowed. Your recent ABC Network link concerning Australian media censorship giving a distorted view of what women look like is certainly spot on!

Whilst I adore any vulval design, I find large protruding inner labia incredibly erotic and I'm in Labial Heaven. I've been privileged to see some women, even though nothing sexual took place. Sometimes just seeing you is enough to blow my mind. I will confess that one of my biggest turn ons is seeing two or more ladies, not necessarily engaging in any girl on girl activity, but the wonderful contrasts and similarities between your havens just tips me over the edge of sanity, as it is a synergy effect, the sum of the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. We need your variety, definitely the spice of life. My favourite images involve 3 women, one with a "Closed" Design (my classification term), one with a "Labial" Design (labia minora protrude), and the other with a "Protruding Design" (prepuce and labia minora protrude), as the wonderful contrasts in designs completely blew me away at each woman's individual beauty enhanced by the presence of the other two as reference points.

My favourite activity with my wife and previous lovers is going down on her. I can't describe the sensation properly but I can feel my heart racing I'm so turned on, and don't know if it is due to a sudden hormone release in my system, but it is like I can taste blood or a metallic taste like rust in my mouth when I get so aroused looking at her and or take her large inner labia and prepuce in my mouth. Even a girlfriend who had a very tiny clitoris that was deeply recessed and almost non-existent inner labia had similar intoxicating effects on me. And what it feels like to feel my glans touch their inner labia is too much for me, and is for another email.

Also for another email, or possibly essay is the effect that Bettie's videos have had on me, I'm left blown away, humbled, aroused, elated, awestruck, breathless and will forever be in awe at just how incredibly beautiful you ladies are.

I love the colours shapes, textures of you all, and the effect you have on me. so I hope that this encourages any of you female readers who are unsure about yourselves and have just got to Bettie and Carlin's site out of desperation for answers to your question "Am I Normal?"

Yours Forever Blown Away By You All
Pete

As a woman growing to learn to love her pussy, I say THANK YOU to all the man who initiated this post and the men who responded with their agreement.  It's nice to hear! I pray I am blessed with a man who feels as all of you do because I absolutely love receiving oral pleasure.

Thanks Boyz...no wonder I love MEN!!

Chris, I have to agree with you!!  though I've never had the labia issue, (im now too old and wise for the adverstisers to guilt and market me) I still have the "smell" insecurity (damn those FDS commercials from the 60's and 70's). 

My man loves to lick and suck me til I cum yet to this day, I still pop into the powder room for a quick swipe before playtime...

btw...I'm also a long time member of the "I love dick" club!!