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Please help! I'm 26 years old and my sex life with my boyfriend is being ruined! I keep getting really sore through sex to the point where we sometimes have to discontinue. I've been tested for all the STD's and I'm all clear. I'm on the pill so we're not using condoms, so its not an allergic reaction to them.

I've never really had this problem before and although sometimes our sex is rough, I've had rougher and bigger guys. Granted sometimes it happens when I'm not maybe in the "right frame of mind" for sex and a little dry, but it also happens when I'm really turned on and very wet.

It doesn't happen every single time but frequently often. I'm now developing an almost anticipatory feeling of dread that sex is going to hurt. It hurts sometimes on entry and also sometimes actually inside on the vaginal wall. Some positions are worse than others. We now use bucket loads of lube which sometimes helps but sometimes almost seems to dry me out more! We use KY jelly. And I don't know if this is relevant at all but I'm also prone to getting thrush a lot. P
lease help,

I don't know what else to try or do! My boyfriend is really patient but this is really beginning to upset me.

Dear V,

Pain is always an indication that we are doing something wrong. l am suspect about your comment: "sometimes it happens when I'm not maybe in the "right frame of mind" for sex and a little dry." That would mean you're not sufficiently turned on. So a big rough guy with a big dick slamming into your not ready vagina would definitely hurt.

I recommend a period of sweet slow fucks until you get past your fear of pain. Since you are not using condoms and you're on the pill, I recommend you try our [url=
http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-lubricants/water-based/sliquid-organics-silk#pcode-U3F]Sliquid Organics Natural Lube[/url]. Most other water based lubes are full of chemicals. The Thrush which is often a yeast over growth needs to be healed, so go online and research "Vaginal Thrush". Finally look to your health and diet. Trust your body. It is signaling you to change something. Let me know what you discover.

Dr. Betty