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Oh Goddess divine Betty, I have problems with penetration. I've been sexually active for four years, and it's always been an issue. It really hurts when a guy enters me, and I feel really tight. But after he thrusts a little while the pain goes away and I enjoy it. I'm wondering if I have a tilted uterus-because I've read that you can have problems with sex if you do. I also cannot use tampons because of the same penetration factor-it's agony wearing one. Any ideas? Thanks in advance.

Dear JJ,

First, never doing any kind of penetration without lubrication. This is a must. Also, women are rarely ready for penetration with sufficient arousal while her partner is instantly prepared to "stick it in" as male arousal is often far more immediate than ours. Use our search engine and go to Betty's Vaginal Barbell and read the information I have there. Practicing penetration with yourself while learning about your pelvic floor muscles will help you to release as well as strengthen these muscles.

The tilted or tipped uterus has nothing to do with penetration pain so forget it. I was told I had one in my early twenties and fortunately I ignored the doctors suggestion to put in a pessary to alter the position of my uterus. After a long life with the same old uterus in the same place, I'm just fine. Make friends with you PC muscles and practice your Kegel exercises for toned pelvic floor muscles.
Dr. Betty