Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Dear Betty,

Last time I had sex, I realised something - or rather, I noticed it the day after. My inner thighs were bruised (most likely from staying too long in the missionary position), which was quite painful, as I'm a curvy girl, my thighs touch when I walk. It's not the first time I've been bruised this way - in fact, it happens almost every time I've had sex. During though, it doesn't bother me at all. I was just wondering, apart from switching positions more regularly, or not using missionary at all (It's possible that my lovers are just too skinny/bony!!) is there a position I can put my legs in to avoid this bruising whilst being on the bottom?
N

P.S. I'm loving all the new ideas for the site! Can't wait for it all to be finished =]

Dear N,

Back in the day when girdles were a must, my upper thighs would rub together and the skin would get raw and eventually bruise. It was very painful. Finally I got smart. I lost weight and threw out all my stupid girdles. One was made of rubber by Playtex. Ugh!

You really answered your own question. Yes, dump missionary altogether. I have drawings in my book "Orgasms for Two" that show my favorite positions that include the use of the vibrator. Doggie style is always good for BIG folks. Also the side position. Next time tell your partner you want to try a few new positions. Don't just let those bony horney men climb on top when you have to pay the price of discomfort later. Take control of your sexlife. We're busting our tits here to keep the info flowing but summer has slowed things down. We must all be patient.

Dr. Betty