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Hi Betty,Hi Betty,

i'm 26 years old, female. I have a bf and he's very loving and caring partner trying to do everything to satisfy me. But i am not able to reach orgasm during intercourse, even though it feels very great. I have reached a few in the past, last one maybe a year ago. about half a year ago i started to masturbate with a vibrator by stimulating my clitoris and i am perfectly able to have orgasms in this way. but nothing during an intercourse.
And i feel too sad because my bf can make love to me sometimes even for an hour and all that for nothing! It feels really great though... what would you advice me? Another question, why is it so difficult/impossible to reach an orgasm masturbating with hands after i have started using electric vibrator???

Thank you

Dear N,

My book Orgasms for Two would benefit you right now. Very few women can consistently come from vaginal stimulation alone. As you observed, the last one you had was a year ago. All you need to do is add the kind of stimulation that works for you during masturbation. Once we get off on electric vibrations, many women just stay with it. I call the vibrator my sexual preference. Take the vibrator to bed with you and have an abundance of orgasms during one of those hour long sessions. Otherwise, if you insist upon just using your hands, retire the vibrator and suffer through the transition of weaning yourself off of a perfect form of stimulation. Fucking is fun whether or not you have an orgasm. Don't get hung up on having your orgasm represent his sexual prowess. We are each responsible for our own orgasms. Get my book and liberate yourselves.

Dr. Betty