Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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In Orgasms for Two, I break down how to use a vibrator during partner sex. The positions that work best for different couples will depend on their body type, age, and flexibility. The following are some positions I have enjoyed.

Man on Top: This is also known as the missionary position. Whether a woman uses her fingers or a small battery vibrator like Betty's Water Dancer for clitoral stimulation it will be similar. When he sits on his haunches she can use a Magic Wand but if he leans forward on his arms there is only enough room for her to reach down with her hand or to hold a small battery vibrator. If the man has a large belly it's better for him to get on the bottom. If both partners are big, doggie style works better.

Woman on top: In this position, fingers, small battery like Water Dancer or a wand vibrator will all work nicely. However, she can't be self-conscious about her body because she'll be sitting up at a right angle to her reclining partner. Quite a few women have told me they don't like their sagging breasts or fat bellies showing so I suggest they wear a sexy lacey bra or some other kind of lingerie. Believe me the men I've talked with could care less about their wives' breasts or bellies while she's riding his dick with abandon doing direct stimulation of her clitoris heading for a first rate orgasm or two or more.

Two Women: The most important element for two women using the same vibrator is to decide who has the control. Usually the woman on the bottom holding the vibrator puts it where it feels best to her while the one on top moves around to get what she wants. More often one at a time uses the vibrator while the other women heightens her partner's orgasms with kissing, erotic touch, or finger penetration. If they are into strap-on dildos, all the positions for heterosexual couples will work the same for them.[= 14px] [/]

Right Angle Position: This will always be one of my favorites since this is how I first had clitoral stimulation combined with intercourse. The woman is lying on her back and the man lies at right angles to her body on his side. The leg position will vary with couples but usually she has one under his and the other leg over him. He can prop his head up with a pillow or lean on his arm to watch her.

The right angle position is also great for the wand type vibrators with longer handles. Both the man and the woman have complete freedom to move their pelvises in this position.

Leg Up Side Position: The woman is lying on her side with her top leg raised up resting on a couple of pillows. The bottom leg is stretched down between her partner's legs. He's kneeling and thrusting into her vagina while he holds her ass cheeks apart or lifts her top thigh with one hand. She holds a wand vibrator under one of the pillows with her top hand because she is lying on her side. He gets to see everything and if she wants to look at him, she can turn her head.

I focus on what I'm feeling instead of watching my partner. Men however are such visual creatures they want to look whenever they can. For me, the feeling of penetration in this position is exquisite and very intense. I can push into the head of my vibrator as I lift my pelvis to meet his deep thrusts, as the head of his cock gently presses against my uterus-- very sensuous.

Modified Doggie Style: A lot of women have a problem with this position because they feel it's too "animalistic" but that's exactly why I like it. After all, we are human animals. This position gives the deepest penetration so a man must be gentle and not shove an oversized cock in up to the hilt. This position is a bit difficult if both partners are on the bed due to the long handle of a wand vibrator. But my lover discovered that standing behind me while I was kneeling on the edge of the bed made penetration much easier and effective. He also suggested I hold the wand with one or two hands, allowing the handle to hang over the outside edge of the bed. My head and upper body is resting on a pillow. I focus on using my pelvic floor muscle squeezing and releasing his penis as he slowly glides in and out of my vagina while I vibrate my clitoris. To soften the vibes on my Magic Wand so I can last longer, I put a washcloth on the head of the vibrator and secure it with a rubber band from a bunch of broccoli.

Remember to be creative and experiment. Let me know if you discover any new positions I could try.

Betty