Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Hello,
Hello,

The reason I'm writing you is that they showed a program on Swedish TV tonight with three ladies from UK visiting you. I liked your open approach to females learning how to masturbate. I am a middle aged Swedish woman angry about the established "knowledge" regarding female orgasm. If I search the internet many expert articles say there is only one climax for the woman to reach and that is the clitoral one. But there are three! Through clitoris stimulation, vaginal orgasm and the G spot. And there is a possibility of combining! I have had personal experiences from men telling me that most women never have orgasm. Consequently, they don't have to make an effort. Please, tell the world it is not so. Then both men and women will get a better sex life.

Best regards!

Ms. G

Dear Ms. G,
We are both angry about the established "knowledge" regarding female orgasm. It's really a lack of knowledge that begins with us girls. We can't blame men as long as there are so many women who don't know how to give themselves an orgasm. That's why masturbation is so important. This kind of sexual self-discovery is central to every woman learning about her body so she can share the good news with her partners.

However, your orgasm information needs to be expanded. I believe all orgasms are centered in the clitoris and "vaginal" or "G-spot" orgasms are simply a form of indirect clitoral stimulation. The internal clitoris is far more complex than what we see on the outside which is the clitoral glans and shaft. The clitoral legs, bulbs, urethral and perineal sponge are all internal erectile tissue. Actually, women have nearly as much erectile tissue as men.

There are women who also claim to orgasm from breast stimulation, fantasy and breathe or energy orgasms. I've never experienced any of the above. I'm perfectly happy with the combination orgasm which is external clit stim using my vibrator along with vaginal or anal penetration all at the same time.

I think it's up to women to tell their partners the truth about what they like and whether or not they had an orgasm. We've been protecting the male ego as a survival tactic for centuries. I go into more detail in my book "Orgasms for Two." When my new website is up, you will be able to search for all this information with ease. Thanks for getting in touch.

Betty