Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Dr. Betty-

I'm in my mid-20s and have been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. We have a wonderful sex life and are both happy with each other sexually. However, whether he's masturbating or have sex, he can only cum when he's lying down on his back. Usually it doesn't bother me, but unfortunately it makes for routine sex. I always end up on top to please him. We've tried a million different positions and methods to try and get him to cum in a different position and he's tried masturbating in different positions to try and cum but to no avail. Is there anything that you can suggest to help him cum in another position? He thinks something is wrong with him and I feel bad because I've tried everything I can think of to get him to orgasm. It doesn't bother me as much as it bothers him and I really want to help him out. Any suggestions? Thanks so much and I'm a huge fan!

Dear C,

I'd recommend he stop trying to cum in some other position. Just accept the fact that he needs to be on his back. Throughout my twenties, getting on top was my favorite position and it was considered "unlady-like" back then. In my thirties, I finally found a lover who preferred being on his back. Once he lets go of fighting this, it will happen naturally some day. And if it doesn't, so what? Don't turn this moe hill into a mountain. As long as you are both enjoying orgasms together and with yourselves, just relax and count your blessings.

Dr. Betty