Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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HI there!!!

I dont know what's been happening but I've starting touching myself at odd times. I find myself coming to a peek very soon. It seems there is little sensation- from what there used to be- i kinda feel nothing, and dont respond for a good five minutes, then all of a sudden, it becomes "too much".

Betty: You are describing a Tension Orgasm that I described in "Orgasms for Two." Coming to a peak very soon or too soon can be controlled by you. Lighten up on your clit stim. Five minutes of harsh clit stim creates a kind of numbness and yes, "all of a sudden, it becomes too much!" That's when your clit rebelled and signaled "Too Much!"

A: and i feel my vagina doing these - what feels like- in and out movements really quickly- but i do not really feel a release. also at this point i notice more wetness.

Betty: What you are most likely feeling are vaginal contractions that happen at the point of orgasm in some but not all women. If you are pushing down on your pelvic floor muscles, you could be squirting or peeing or just releasing a lot of pussy juice.

A: what happens is, when it comes to this peek point, my legs tighten up and i get all rigid and tense and start rubbing even harder, and then QUICKLY it becomes too much - like uncomfortable/painful. etc. it always feels like i MISSED the part where there should be an orgasm- and its replaced with a feeling like "oh my god oh my god..shit its too mucH!"

Betty: Yup! That's a Tension Orgasm for you. You just had a not so fulfilling, quick and nervous little come. But don't knock it! They are better than nuttin.

A: this is the exact problem i used to have when i started clitoral stimulation with my ex boyfriend..before all the problems started, i couldnt handle him going down on me..eventually i would start closing my legs= at this "too much" point.

Betty: Closing your legs was a form of protection from a sensation that borered on Pain not Pleasure. Too much is what it is. But we are so focussed on protecting the male ego that goddess forbid we suggest he "back the fuck off" and then show him how you prefer to be touched by demonstrating on his dick.

A: is this orgasm? i cant imagine a full body orgasm. i just feel something, in the vag area i guess. its a weird feeling. i cant even tell if it feels good. or what.

Betty: Your clitoris is your primary sex organ that's designed for pleasure. Time for you to use our search engine for First Time Orgasm.

A: I just had my routine ultrasound performed, transvaginal. And the cysts or endometriomas (they dont know exactly what it is until they go inside and see) they don't want to go away. THe scary thing (i am sure you have heard about this) is that I cannot even handle a damn "pretend penis" the tool they use to do a transvaginal ultrasound. Im in hideous pain and discomfort especially if they move it around lightly, or go deeper in. =(

Great that i can tell somebody this. wow. I remember telling doctors LONG ago- over 5 years ago- the problems i was experiencing, especially the loss of sensation inside, white vaginal goo, etc..but it felt very pleasurable, and they just told me to keep having sex, not worry about it. that all ended badley. ofcourse blame doesnt solve anything. but i still do blame myself.

Betty: Again I repeat: Stay away from doctors. They are not trained in sexology. Why would you expect very much sensation from your vagina (the birth canal) when it's your clit that's the star of your orgasm (with 8000 nerve endings). We all have white vaginal goo to some degree or other. Google vaginal discharge. This society remains obsessed with vaginal orgasms because it's the way men prefer to come. Smart men could care less how we come as long as both partners enjoy their orgasms.

LOVE YOUR VULVA! LOVE YOUR BODY! MASTURBATE!

Dear AS,

Well, this is quite a different story than what I got in your first email. Please take advantage of all the information on our website. The vagina has a minimum of nerve endings and not all women respond to the g-spot. I hope you are not stuck on the idea of having all your orgasms from vaginal intercourse.

I too was diagnosed with an inverted uterus, endometriosis and painful periods in my twenties. All vaginas have mucous than looks like "white stuff" and varies according to our periods and diet. As for polycystic ovarian syndrome, many women have cysts on their ovaries. All of these problems usually go eventually.

I hope you are not rushing into surgery at 22. Please get a second opinon before you go under the knife from your "normal gynecoligists" prognosis. Scar tissue being removed? It's well documented that "sensation" will gradually return in most cases but not where there's scare tissue. Instead of being so fixated on your vagina, remember the clitoris is our primary organ for pleasure with over 8,000 nerve endings. I'm sure there are many left. Let me know what happens.

Dr. Betty

Dear Betty,

Thank you for your response. In the last few years, every single test/smear I got, showed NO infections or yeast. YET, there is itching and abnormal white stuff. Also, I have a retroverted uterus. And endometriosis and suspected polycystic ovarian syndrome.
This was all recently shown after finally finding a normal gynecologist. I am scheduled for surgery for removal of the scar tissue. The surgery is diagnostic as well as a treatment. Endometriosis is highly suspected becuase I have all the symptoms, including bladder issues, painful periods, and pain upon a simple gynecological exam..so not only would penetration be painful, but i have no feeling.

The thing that creeps me out the most, is that it seemed like one day I had gspot sensation. Incredible pleasure. (and i hear some women do not) and the next, it went away. I am sure it was more gradual than i now describe.

Will the nerves really regenerate? (inside the vagina) have you heard of this before? I now do not have a sexual partner, becuase evidently, it is so "gross" down there. And I am irresponsive. My previous long term relationship deteriorated becuase of my sexual problems and insecurity/self hate around the subject.

Thank you for your responses.
And recommendations.