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Hi Betty,

I am a 27 year old healthy female and have a major problem. I feel very little pleasure when masturbating or having sex. I have never had an orgasm before and I have never been in a relationship. I've only had sex 5 times but feel nothing. It's like the inside of my vagina is numb. 

I recently purchased Orgasm Doctor and the Hitachi massager. The massager did feel good but I got very tense when using it. My body tightened up and I had to stop. It's very frustrating when I read about other women experiencing these problems because they still enjoy sex and masturbating while I don't. Could I have a medical problem or do I need to keep on working at it every night? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you, xx

Dear LJ,

Yes, you need to continue to practice masturbation but not every night. And don't work at it. Think of masturbation as making love to yourself, not as a chore or work you must do. I would suggest not using the Wand directly on your clitoral glans with it's 8,000 nerve endings. Put a cloth between you and the vibrator and don't bear down with it. The tightening up is your body building up sexual tension which is a good thing. You are not going to be relaxed and looking lovely before you come. Forget Sleeping Beauty and become an athlete who knows how to use her body by tightening and releasing muscles.

Check out the info under Betty's Vaginal Barbell to get in touch with your pelvic floor muscles and combine that with your clitoral stimulation. Before your next self-loving session, try looking at some hot images of sex or have a sexual fantasy to get your head in the game. Remember, the vagina is the birth canal while the clitoris is your sex organ of pleasure. Get out a free standing mirror and massage your entire vulva with Sliquid Organics Natural Lube while admiring your charms. For now, forget partnersex. It's time to become your own best lover.

Dr. Betty