Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Dear Betty,

I am not able to have an orgasm while having sex! I have been sexually active for 9 years, with several partners and have yet to achieve maximum pleasure during sex. I know it's sometimes difficult for women to have an orgasm through sexual intercourse. However, 9 years, several long-term relationships, and sexual partners later, it seems crazy and leaves me hopeless. I am now (and have been for a while) finding it hard to even want to have sex, to get excited during foreplay, and to even get moist. This is taking a toll on my relationship. I want to be able to enjoy sex and i want to orgasm with the man I love. Is there any way you can help?

Carrie

Dear Carrie,

Get my book "Sex for One" and after you understand what I've said about the importance of masturbation, start practicing orgasms with yourself. My message to women is that the kind of stimulation you use for masturbation, whether it's manual or vibrator clitoral stimulation, is what you want to include during partnersex. Very few women can orgasm from penis/vagina sex alone without some kind of additional direct clitoral stimulation, preferably under a woman's control. My other book, "Orgasms for Two" continues to develop that theme. Selflove comes before loving a partner is successful. So get busy. When all else fails, follow my directions on the website, in my DVD's and in my books.

Betty