Can You Get Addicted to Your Vibrator?

Wed, 11/05/2008 - 14:50
Submitted by Betty Dodson

I'm 50, 2nd marriage and love your book Orgasms for Two. I've have read it a few times, as has my husband. When I first read it it felt like you'd written the book for us! We both enjoy mutual masturbation, in fact we do that more often than penetration. My question is, or really asking your opinion, do you think it's possible to get addicted to using a vibrator, and if so is it wrong to depend on a machine to give you the best orgasms? 

I'm sure I know what your answer will be though! I have a variety of vibes, but always go back to the trusty rabbit for guaranteed pleasure. My hubby likes me to rub it on his perineum when he comes too. Please let me know what you think.

Ali, UK

Hi Ali,

Consider my book Orgasms for Two was written for you and your husband. I'm glad you enjoyed it. My opinion on using vibrators whether electric or battery operated is that I support them 100%. As for becoming addicted to using one, let me ask if you're addicted to your morning cup of tea? Addiction or preference is a fine point, yes? Back in the seventies when vibrators were first taking hold, many of us worried that we would become vibrator addicted which meant we would no longer be able to orgasm any other way.

Years later my concern vanished when I decided vibrator use was simply a sexual preference like preferring specific foods. It was a matter of personal taste. Why would it be "wrong" to depend upon machine, a partner or a certain fantasy as long as we can enjoy our orgasms? Given the prohibitive sex negative culture we live in thanks to organized religions, I'd say any method a person can find to enjoy sexual pleasure is totally acceptable as long as its between consenting adults and no one is harmed. I think you might consider having more than one vibrator just in case. Fill up a chest with your favorite sex toys. Adults deserve to have fun too.

Dr. Betty

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