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Can My Clit Come Back to Life?

Wed, 09/09/2009 - 14:00
Submitted by Betty Dodson

Hello, I have just left a five+ year relationship with a man who never got me off. I must say I feel partially responsible for this, as I've never been a masturbator, and know very little about my vulva. I watched one of your videos and am now determined to orgasm, but I feel like my genitals have lost sensitivity. Is it possible to kill your clit by ignoring it, and can it come back to life with practice?

Dear Frustrated,

Not to worry. I have never heard of a woman who killed her clit by ignoring it. But your clitoris will obviously be delighted once you begin to give her some tender loving care. Use our search engine and go to "First Time Orgasm." Follow my step by step suggestions.

Also check out the info on my Barbell and get in touch with your pelvic floor muscle. Later on consider investing in a vibrator if you don't get any results from manual stimulation after a while. Then enjoy your orgasms first with yourself and then with your next lover.

Dr. Betty

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too much pain association

Wed, 01/06/2010 - 20:34
Anonymous (not verified)

I love your site so much and the amount that I have learned from Carlin and Betty is immense. I was so relieved to hear such cool, lovely, honest, humorous and frank people talk about sex. I even go so far as to say that on discovering you, I have entered my own sexual revolution. So thankyou, thankyou so so much.

But here is my story......My first boyfriend gave me scabies, I had to tell my Mom as I was scared and didn't know what to do. She treated me with disgust and contempt. My second boyfriend gave me pubic lice... I was so ashamed I didn't even go to the doctors. I got rid of them by cutting them out. I used to have orgasms with my first boyfriend but he cheated on me and when the trust was gone I didn't have them anymore. I tried to masturbate when I was 14 but I didn't know about the clitoris then. Many years later a boyfriend gave me genital herpes. I have linked so much pain and shame to my genitals that I am now 34 and haven't had an orgasm since I was 17.

I haven't got the money at the moment but as soon as I do, I'm going to buy a hitachi magic wand and your 'sex for one' dvd.... so wish me luck, it's very scarey probably the most frightening hurdle I've ever had to face. But if it wasn't for you I wouldn't be about to embark on this adventure. There is a big part of me disbelieving that I will ever be orgasmic again and that the links from my brain to my clitoris are gone. The only time I feel my clit throb is when I dream... I wake up from the dream and as soon as I touch myself it goes away! It just makes me so so sad I feel like such a failure and I can't tell boyfriends incase they think I'm broken.

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