Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Hi Betty,

I'm a man, and have recently started using a vibrator to achieve orgasm. My wife uses a fairly powerful pocket rocket on her clitoris, and I was curious if the same stimulation would work for me. I tried it one day, and voila, it did work. What's interesting is that when I don't focus on pumping and penile stimulation, but rather the 'internal' tingling feeling of using a vibrator on the underside of my head, I can really feel everything as it happens. First a build up, then as I peak with my orgasm, I can very clearly feel my prostate contract and my 'plumbing' fill up, and then when the contractions start, I get that great feeling when the ejaculate leaves my body. When I pump with my hand, I miss these details. Have you heard of any other men who can do this?

Dave

Dear Dave,

Yes, yes, yes! I have heard of other men who can do the same as you described. How fortunate you are to have tuned into what some people call a "woman's orgasm." It's more internal and subtle. Far too many men believe that vibrators are for women. I often wonder if they think their dicks might shrink or drop off if they tried one. As you have fortunately discovered, sexual pleasure comes in a variety of flavors. I bet you're ready to explore some anal penetration which will more directly contact your prostate. The Silky Dildo is my favorite anal toy. If you and your wife get around to experimenting with the Magic Wand, which is also a great massager for sore muscles, start with a soft washcloth between your glans and the vibrator. I will post this on my website in the hopes that a few more men will be inspired to experiment with vibrators. Congratulations!

Betty