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Dr. Betty,
I love your site - its the best place I've found for helpful, sex-positive advice. My question is this: I just started to have sex with a new partner. We enjoy oral sex and mutual masturbation, but I can never reach a full orgasm through those - very pleasurable, but not the rocking waves I've had before through vaginal penetration and masturbation. The problem is, as soon as he puts on a condom, he goes limp - maybe after 10 seconds. We've tried a few different condom and lube combos, but he says that always happens when he wears a condom. Is our only option to stop using condoms and for me to go on birth control?
thanks!
Dear M,
This problem would be best solved by your boyfriend. He has a condom aversion and it's up to him to change. I would suggest he start masturbating alone while wearing a condom. Have him put a little lube inside the condom and use like it like a foreskin. Meanwhile he could hold your dildo while you get what you like, clit stim with vaginal thrusting. Otherwise, you have answered your own question: "Is our only option to stop using condoms and for me to go on birth control?" Yup, it looks that way.
Dr. Betty
anal sex
Hi.. I have a question for u...
I have anal sex with my foyfriend. He likes, but I dont feel any orgasm. B4 it was very hainful, but now I'm getin used,coz he knows how to do it. When I feel pain, he stops and entering too slowly. After that, my all body begin shaking, but I know it's not orgasm.. it is like becoming numb... I dont feel sensation. Just doing it for him. And now,I want to know... it if's dangerous for health or not? I heard, after few years ass hole is gettin big, and women cant keep the shit
Tristan's suggestion
Use lube and PLENTY of it! Also use the magic wand on your clitty. Use a thin elastic band to hold a lube-soaked small kitchen sponge agound the wand's head. Take your time. Your patience will be rewarded by both of you when your sphincter goes into orgasmic contractions.
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