Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Dear Dr Betty,

I emailed you almost a year ago asking about orgasm and not having feeling when trying to masturbate. I took your advice to heart (or rather, to clitoris), ordered a few different things including the Magic Wand and your Vaginal Barbell. I have to tell you how much you have improved my state of mind and by being able to help to guide me through this discovery process.

I am 35 years old, and FINALLY have control of my own orgasms. Yes, there are a few times when I try and do not orgasm, but for the most part, I'm getting it done. Actually, the orgasms I can give myself are even better than what I was getting from my partner. I wonder why that is so. I no longer have a sexual relationship with anyone but myself although that same partner is still a major part of my life, but I no longer need one. I feel SO much better!

It relieves stress, lightens my moods, helps to put me to sleep after a stressful day, and on occasion, is just plain for the fun of it! I wish I had discovered this years ago! I get several different types of orgasm depending on what I am using. I am just unendingly grateful for your help and advice (and Barbell). Thanks a million for people like you who are brave enough to stand up and tell the world it's OK to give yourself an orgasm!

GetnItGood

Hi GetnItGood,

It's emails like yours that makes this old sexologist feel good. Since your orgasms with yourself are only a year old, be patient. All kinds of interesting things will occur. Your orgasms are bigger with yourself now but some day you will discover they will be as big or bigger with a partner. For now just enjoy yourself. For the record, I was 35 when I had my big breakthrough after discovering the electric vibrator. Ain't life grand?