Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I just came across your site and I love your videos!

I am relieved to know that some of my masterbation techniques are common. When i was very very young i would orgasm from climbing poles in the playground. A couple years later i moved on to household furniture and shortly after i discovered the bathtub trick. (:

However, I have never moved on from these childish ways and I am afraid that they are limiting my ability to orgasm with a partner . I have given up on using a finger to stimulate my clit...because, it just doesnt feel like anything to me. I recently bought a vibrator and the only way bring myself to an orgasm with it is to return to the same positions I use for masterbation, and those are almost impossible to duplicate during sex. (I have to put my vibrator at the edge of my bed and rub myself against it.) Please tell me what I can do to train my body to enjoy different types of stimulation!

Dear L,

To retrain your body to respond to other forms of stimulation with positions that translate into sex with a partner takes patience, time and practice. You not only need to learn a new dance step but you must break an old habit that's been ingrained. On a regular basis, spend at least ten minutes practicing a new skill and then finish with "old faithful" so you don't feel frustrated. Each time push yourself to go a bit further lying on your back with knees bent apart so a body could join you. Use your best fantasy material to sustain interest. Go to First Time Orgasm and bone up on the information provided there. Then practice, practice, practice.

Dr. Betty