Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Dear Betty,

After looking through some information in the internet about how to achieve an orgasm I came across your name so many times that I felt I must try to get some help straight from the expert herself! I am nineteen years old and have been having sex for almost nine months.  So far, I have not been able to achieve an orgasm. I have tried to educate myself about the best ways to become sufficiently stimulated but no luck so far!

While I am quite convinced that I need to spend more time exploring my own body through masturbation, I am struggling to get aroused going solo. Ultimately, I am looking for adivce about how to please myself and how to make sex enjoyable. I realise that everybody differs enormously but some suggestions would be appreciated. Also, I am considering purchasing your book 'Sex For One', and am wondering whether this would have any answers for me? Thank you for your time and efforts. Your response would be so appreciated.

E

Dear E,

Yes, both of my books would help. Also pulling up my info on "First Time Orgasm" with our slick search engine (I know it's hard to see up there in the right hand corner) and as they say, "When all else fails, follow directions."

You already realize you need to discover what feels good by exploring your vulva and focussing on your clitoris while doing lots of massage with my Almond Oil. Do this while looking into a free standing mirror. (We also have one available in the sex shop). This way you are creating a relationship with your sex organ through touching and sensing while observing. How about a pet name? Check out our genital art gallery and introduce your vulva to us. Get involved in a passionate love affair with you. Once you uncover your own sexual pleasures, then you'll have something to share with a partner. Remember, this whole process is fun!

Dr. Betty