Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
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I want to do a documentary on sexuality where we pose a list of 10 questions to individuals to ascertain their "sex profile". To make it interesting, I want to question sex therapists, celebrities, prostitutes, homemakers (all walks of life) and have them seated behind a silhouette so they tell the truth. The point is to determine how similar or dissimilar we are and what has influenced us sexually as a culture.
So read over what I have so far and give me your thoughts and recommendations - and answers too:
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
1. Describe the greatest
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
Hmmm... I have many. But, the one that comes to mind is when I had my first orgasm at age 16. I've never taken a shot of heroin before but based on what I've heard it was (and still is) similar to that.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Hm. Depends. If it's penetrative sex and I don't orgasm that's fine because I enjoy the physical aspect... and the sensation is overwhelming enough to make me feel fantastic. But, I get more so aroused by sex-play and often have to orgasm one way or another (It's my drug!).
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
In a dream I had a couple of months ago, I thought I was being followed, when i turned around a man had approached me and tackled me to the ground. He was trying to restrain me and slapped me hard. At that point I told him he didn't have to force me. And we fucked. It was amazing. When I woke up, I was masturbating. I woke up with the sensation of being dreaming of a nightmare, but it turned me on so much that I was able to orgasm from that fear alone.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Neither. Sex is sex. "In love" doesn't really mean anything to me in that regard. More so important to me is caring and respecting the person enough to allow them to share this pleasurable moment with me.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
I suppose.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Yes! I never watch while I masturbate; my imagination is better. But, in order to turn me on I like watching animated porn and cartoons.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
When my partner doesn't listen to me. Period.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Hmmm... honestly...? Satan.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
My sister had medical books under her bed. From there on out I would borrow books from the library that were all about sex. Then, I watched Cinemax... which really was just masturbatory fodder.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
To cum in seconds using just my fingers. I used to when I was college but I didn't have a choice (My roommate was on the other side of the room!)
"Illusion is the first of all pleasures" - Oscar Wilde
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1. Describe the greatest
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
making love for the first time, the passion and emotion made it 100 times better then anything physical i have ever felt
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
of course, if i didnt i wouldnt have sex as much as i do.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
i really cant really think of anything that shocked or scared me
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
better, he genuantly cares if i like how it feels and if i get there... nothing can replace the caress of love
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
yes
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
being honest here, i tried to watch porn/look at pictures and instead of getting all hot i felt guilty and dirty....
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
when i feel disrespected, i dont want to be called a dirty whore or anything like that thats too far, i like dirty talk but idont like that..
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
slim, dark hair, in tune with my emotions and physical wants, knows how to please me...
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
my sister
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
for it to be easier to reach the big o
elasticsam's answers
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
It hasn't happened yet.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
I suppose it's possible, although it would not be as resonant or memorable.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
I think maybe having fantasies about fat, older women that I once thought I never would have wanted to fuck, and a recent vivid dream where I was in bed with Susan Boyle and I felt myself entering her. I was shocked how much I loved it.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
I have been in love before, but although I haven't honestly had sex with those I've been mostly in love with, but I think the depth of feelings you have for the person might take precedence over sexual desire to fuck them, (but obviously, there's nothing wrong with the sexual desire to fuck somebody as long as you're both consenting to it). But I'm only speculating. I guess I would be primarily focused on my overall synergy with the one I'd be in love with, and the sexual connection would depend on a lot of other matters involved, but that's not something I could know based on speculation, obviously.
5. Do you believe in monogamy? That's interesting. It doesn't work for everybody, yet for the most part, it is expected of us. Why is this? And yet, just because it isn't for everybody doesn't necessarily make it wrong. Speaking for myself, yes, I could, if I was with the right one, but that's just me. You can't dictate that to other people, you can only know for yourself.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
yes and yes.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Men looking at me a certain way. I'm all for gay, lesbian, and transgender rights, I have gay friends, but when I was a kid, an older boy molested me, and a man sexually assaulted me when I was in my twenties, so a predatory look from some men can be a bit much for me.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
see question 3. Somebody older.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
IT gradually dawned on me. I liked having a penis from an early age, and didn't mind showing it off, before I knew it wasn't socially acceptable. (But no, I don't flash it in public today).It's a basic human function, so primally, we all are aware in some way or another. I consciously became aware of it when I was eight, when other kids who knew explained sexual intercourse to me, and around that time I also saw the Monty Python film that had the sex class with the live demonstration.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I guess my ability to communicate, or be in the right situation.
My Answers
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
This may sound cliched but I lost my virginity at age 20 to a 33-year old divorced Cuban woman who dominated the entire experience. From the face sitting to the blow job and finally sex. To this day, I have never had a woman ravage me. I am usually the one that does the ravaging!
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yes. If I know my wife climaxed I enjoy it!
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
Not really into the whole bondage thing but I have frequently had a dream where I am tied up and my cock is in a glory hole. And a woman or women proceed to suck, jerk and fuck my cock.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
A loving relationship absolutley makes sex better
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Yes very much so. Since the age of 12 when I started watching the Playboy channel and masturbating to magazines like Penthouse and Hustler. Now I prefer movies/websites than magazines
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Anything too taboo
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Understanding, stimulating conversation, full figured, large breasts, sense of humor, creative and caring
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
A combimation of health class, friends and porn. Mostly porn.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
That I was not so concerned with the size of my penis. Whether you look at when it is flaccid or erect.
My answers
Good questions, Carlin. I don't think I like the one about the fantasy that shocked or scared you as much, because I want everything sexual to be so positive. But the opposite side to that is that by talking about them, maybe we're realizing that they're not so scary and learning to accept our fantasies that may not be so excepted by society. I'm going to try to answer it honestly and candidly
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
I have so many great sexual experiences! It's very hard to pick one. I'm going to go ahead and go for the cheesey, romance factor on this. I think it was the 3rd or forth time I had sex with my current primary partner, I remember riding on top of him and the 2 of us just coming like crazy at the same time for like a minute or longer (it seemed) and thinking "this is love that I'm feeling." I had never before experienced such a strong emotional connection through orgasm.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yes. I am very interested in satifying my partner(s) during sex and so sex without orgasm is great for me. I am a voyeur and I love watching other people get off or just have fun themselves. I have started to try to take my orgasms into my own hands (pun intended) more over the past year or so, though, and so I rarely have partner sex without at least one orgasm these days.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
I have always been turned on by the feeling of urinatation and also watching other women do pee. I have many, many fantasies about that and I do feel ashamed of it and don't really understand where it comes from. I feel like it's so rare and that I'm so alone in it. I have recently started opening up to my lovers about it though and have gained comfort in the fact that they don't find me weird or disgusting because of it, though they may not be willing to participate in it. I'm not even sure if I would want them to! It's more something I like to think about at this point than something I want to act on.
I am also turned on by the thought of being dominated and "used" my a man who I despise. I would say it's almost a rape fantasy, but the line is very blurred. It's like I want him to know that I hate him and I'm not enjoying myself, but secretly I'm loving it in my mind. I'm scared that some day this will cause me to go further with a man than I want to and that I won't enjoy it at all, leading afterwards to a feeling of "rape" without it actually having been rape because it was "consensual".
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
I would say being in love does make sex better, or perhaps deeper or more meaningful would be a good way of describing it. I do frequently enjoy sex without love, and don't think it's needed to have a great time. But I definitely keep going back to the ones I do feel love for and want to have sex with them the most.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
You may have noticed by the sort of language that I have used in this post so far that I definitely do not believe in it for myself. I struggle with the idea of beliving in for others, however; I think that whatever makes a person emotionally and sexually happy is what's best for them, and so if someone wants to be monogamus then I want to respect that. But I often wonder if many people aren't monogamus just because the pressure of society is strongly forcing people into that choice that they think it is a choice that they have made for themselves when it really isn't. I have yet to meet someone who is monogamus because they tried non-monogamy out and it just didn't work for them; everyone I know who has given polyamory an honest and thoughtful try has stayed polyamorous. So it's tough to know if someone is monogamus because it really is what they prefer or if they just haven't tried things the other way and are afraid of what might happen if they did.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Yes. Definitely yes. Infatically yes. I actually work in porn because I am so interested in it. But now that I've been promoted and my job involves watching A LOT of porn professionally on a daily basis, I have to admit that's it losing some of it's allure. I'm into really kinky outrageous porn now, and I'm afraid it's just going to have to get kinkier and kinkier to keep my interest.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Not much. I guess I would have to say anytime things get "awkward" and I'm not sure what to do next nor is my partner(s). For example, I was involved in a very drunken threesome just last night where the male didn't think to change condoms between us 2 females. We were both like "umm, no" at the same time and it felt a little strange and quiet. To me it sort of felt like it ruined everything, but I really didn't it want it to. I just wanted us to all be relaxed and able to laugh about it, but everyone seemed so angry! We did continue after a condom change, but it was very hard fo me to concentrate and enjoy myself after that.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
OPEN MINDED, adventerous, sensitive, caring, able to laugh at any situation, dominate or able to be truly submissive if I'm going to switch, willing to allow me to take control of my own orgasms and to learn from what I do so they can do it too, and overall sweetness and an easy going aditude.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
It was a combination of all these things: my parents open mindedness and all of the sexual learning materials they purposefully left around so that I could learn for myself; my friends and all or wacky ideas about how things worked before we really knew, and our ability to talk about these things and learn from each other; the various health classes I had throughout my secondary school career and the openess of sex education in the 90's; and let's not forget movies! Though they do have a pretty silly looking version of sex in most movies, I never would have had any idea at all what it looked like without them as a youngster. Especially Basic Instinct. I didn't realize a woman could be on top until I saw that movie! I thought it was so kinky at the time.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I would like to be more truly bi and interested in women because I always feel like I'm letting my female lovers down. I would say I'm probably about 70% hetero and 30% gay, so this leads me to think of the women in my life as more of play partners of fun sex friends. I think this can be hurtful to some of them as they are looking for more of an emotional connection from me.
Surven
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life? When I was in college 3 girls that I knew pretty well and I were drinking one night and the topic turned to masterbation, they wanted to know what was especially pleasing to a guy when he jacked off. I said I would show them, they said really? OK and we went back to my dorm room and they watched, full clothed, for awhile as I jacked off. One of them decided to join in and then the other two, so we traded information on what felt really good. We all climaxed. I have never cum so hard and shot cum so far. They were impressed and wow it was great. I learned a lot that night.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm? yes, I have had sex with my wife and she got so wet that I couldn't cum but enjoyed give her mulitpules
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you? Gooding down on a guy during a 3 way with a women
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse? neither
5. Do you believe in monogamy? yes, but I am insecure
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"? Way excited love porno
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually? Violence
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner? Athletic, knows her body, has a sense of confidence. Not afraid to try new things.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other? Masterbation for the most part
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be? Allow my sexuality to really engage my lfie
This was very hard for me...
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
--- I honestly don't think I've had anything mind-blowing so far. Maybe the first time ever, just because it was so new and exciting.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
--- Yes, sometimes all the foreplay is even better than the actual sex.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
--- This is hard for me. Because it shocked/scared me that I thought about it and even more so that I acted on it, which I'm ashamed and embarrassed about and haven't ever admitted before because I'm too terrified to tell anyone. When I was about 13, I had a friend who was sexually active and she would always talk about her boyfriend going down on her and how great it was. Now I didn't have a boyfriend and this was the first I'd ever even heard of oral sex, so I was very intrigued and curious. I did some searching online and I found a porno of a woman letting a dog lick her pussy. I felt ashamed that this somewhat turned me on, watching the video, and even more ashamed that I thought it was a good way to experience it since I didn't have a boyfriend. What shocks me to this day is that I actually tried it. I put peanut butter on and around my pussy and tried to have a family dog lick it off. It was a horrible experience and I was horrified that I tried to do this, and I felt horrible for the poor dog, who I actually really loved, that I would molest the dog like this. I did not enjoy the experience, I regret the entire thing and am so ashamed and it is a horrible feeling that I have to live with knowing I did this for the rest of my life.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
--- Better... MUCH better. Without that connection, it does NOTHING for me.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
--- Yes, sadly, I'm one of the few people left that does it seems.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
--- Not as much as reading about it. Erotica turns me on much more than porn.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
--- The second he calls me a "bitch", I'm outta there.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
--- Dominant. Willing to try anything but knows when to draw the line or knows when I draw the line that I mean it. Can be tender and soft and sensual but also at other times crazy and wild and frisky. Someone who leaves the bedroom in the bedroom.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
--- Through sexual experience.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
--- I'd take back #3.
RSVP
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
Well, I now have a boyfriend for the first time ever, after only dating girls my whole life (I'm also a girl). It is The Best Sex Ever - and I don't think it has to do with gender as much as it does with how much I genuinely am attracted to him, physically, emotionally, intellectually, passionately. We have amazing sex, it's just out of control. The best so far (it seems to always get better) was the other day when I was sitting on top of him while he was fucking me in the ass, and I decided to lean backward and let him watch me masturbate while he fucked me. It was amazing for both of us. He's also the only person who has ever made me cum during sex. Intense.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yes, defintely.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
I'm pretty no-holds-barred. Nothing really shocks me. I did see three of my friends publicly getting it on the other day, and it turned me off, which surprised me, but that wasn't my fantasy to begin with... (public sex - I'm all about the threesome!)
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Better, but that's not necessarily as an Always-statement.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
No.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Yes, I <3 porn.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Violence - choking, restraint, etc.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
My current partner - loving and sweet and simultaneously dirty, naughty, and always ready to go.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
My mother is a social worker and when I was growing up she worked at Planned Parenthood. We always had literature about sex around, and she openly talked about sexual health and sexuality. She strategically placed books like "Our Bodies, Ourselves," and Nancy Friday's books around the house, and had a bowl of condoms on the coffee table. Her strategy definitely worked, because I read the hell out of those books - but only when she wasn't around, ha! And I have to say, I am still a little confused about the whole condom/pregnancy bit, but that's because until now I didn't have to worry about it... I know, I know, the Planned Parenhood social worker's daughter doesn't even know how babies are made. Ironic.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
Nothing. I'm awesome!
modern life is rubbish.
Sex Poll
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
Well, for me, the greatest sexual experience of my life has been being able to achieve orgasm on my own. I have enjoyed it with partners, and have had orgasms with a partner, but the very best is finally being able to do it for myself! I had gotten so frustrated with my partner's control over my orgasms once I finally knew what they were, and his not being available due to scheduling conflicts between the two of us. I was unable to get myself off, and bound by the inconvenience of time. For months, I had tried repeatedly, but the first time it finally happened while masturbating, I had a plaster smile and all I could think was "Wow, I can do that again anytime I want!"
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
It really depends on a number of factors. The basic answer is Yes, I do. I love the closeness and intimacy of a sexual experience with another person. When I am masturbating, if I am going for orgasm and do not achieve it, I get frustrated, but I do also enjoy the masturbation without orgasm sometimes.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
I was shocked the first time I was attracted to a woman.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
There is an excitement factor to sex when not in love, but I think the experience as a whole is better when you are in love.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
In a relationship, most definitely. I had a partner at one time who didn't, and it was insanely crazy to me. I was not able to understand it, but at the same time, there are scenarios involving more than one partner which excite me. I just don't think I could actually participate in a relationship like that again. If it were just casual sex, that's different.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Oh most certainly. It has since I was a young child sneaking into my dad's room to get his playboy mags and porno BETA tapes. I also enjoy erotic fiction just as much.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Anything I'm not in the mood for at the time... and animals, children, and non-consentual acts (outside of the BDSM scene).
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
My ideal partner is open and honest with me about wants, needs, desires, and fantasies. He trusts me completely. He is intelligent enough to be able to challenge me intellectually, and has the balls to stand up to me. He doesn't coalesce to EVERYTHING I say, yet tries to please me whenever possible. Basically, I want his willing participation. I do not want to use or be used. He is willing to try new things with me at least once, and confident in our relationship, not paranoid and overbearing. These doors must swing both ways and not be all from one person in the relationship.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
Oh, everyone learns a little in health class and from friends. However, most of my learning has been from online research, emails with Betty, and encouragement and help from my partner coupled with my own self-experimentation. It just took convincing myself that it was natural, healthy, and OK.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I would be a hermaphrodite so that I could experience all aspects of sex from both sides of the coin!
My response
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life? I'm honestly not sure. Hopefully it's still to come.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm? I usually orgasm one way or another, on the rare occasions I don't, I feel cheated, but it is very rare.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you? Can't think of any. I would be concerned if I had anything that shocked or scared; that is not good.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse? Possibly better.
5. Do you believe in monogamy? No.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"? If it's real, very much so. If it's acted no, particularly if it involves women making silly noises and pulling stupid faces at a mere touch.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually? Anal or anything involving pain; I love soft and gentle.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner? Caring, gentle and preferably with his head between my legs.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other? Friends.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be? Abolish periods (although I'm not quite sure that's sexuality) and totally stop pubic hair growth so I could stay smooth forever without the need to shave.
1. Describe the greatest
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
I don't have a single greatest experience. I think that in general my experiences have dramatically improved since I came out to my wife (and myself) as bisexual. The freedom I have experienced since I have been open about that has improved sex overall.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yes
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
Wanting to have sex with a T-Girl. I was shocked that I would desire that but now that I'm over being shocked about it.....I still want to do it.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Better.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes, for some. It may be the right relationship structure for some folks but not for everyone.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
YES, YES, YES !!!!!!!
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Anything non consensual and anything to do with children. Other than that, if activity is between consenting adults........have fun.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
For me there needs to be some emotional connection. Someone open to experimentation.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
Porn and friends.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I wish I were more open about my fantasies sometimes.
1. Describe the greatest
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
I had a lover who could ejaculate during orgasm - be it by fucking, fingering, or oral. It was a MAJOR turn on. My favorite was her sitting on my face and cumming all over my face and in my mouth, while I masturbated.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yes. Orgasm isn't the point, though I DO enjoy it. :-)
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
I am pretty open minded sexually.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Better
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
YES!!!!!
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Same sex sex, children (obviously) and animals
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
One who is as open minded as I am, and who is kinky.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
Through living life.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I would be more assertive about what I like and want. For instance, I would like to try golden showers, but am too shy to ask for it.
1. Describe the greatest
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
I haven't had it yet. I only meet men who are into 'vanilla' sex. I have a kinky side and have never found a man who is willing to be kinky.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yes.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
No, I am not afraid of anything, the kinkier the better.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Better because I have tried one night stands and it is the worst sex ever!! The guys don't put any effort into it at all. They just want to do missionary with you, cum, roll over and fall asleep. It is the most boring and unsatisfying sex ever. When a man 'cares' about you (doesn't have to be love necessarily) he is more willing to please you instead of being selfish and only focusing on his own pleasure.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes, but it is not for everyone. What is most important is honesty. If you are not interested in being exclusive, say so. Don't claim that you are exclusive and then screw around on them behind their back.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Yes, I love porn.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Probably one night stands, which I refuse to do because I have done it enough to know it is the worst sex ever. It's better to masterbate because it is satisfying. ONS are completely useless.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Somebody who is willing to experiment and have fun, doesn't have any hangups, likes creampie, loves to give and receive oral, isn't selfish.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
Dr. Sue (SUnday Night Sex Show on Oxygen--although years ago she was only broadcast in Canada on the radio on SUnday Nights and she had a show on the Canadian network)
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
To be able to get over the fear of 'peeing'. When my g-spot is stimulated I become very close to coming, but the 'pee' feeling freaks me out and I hold back instead of let go. SOmeday I want to be able to get over that mental block and just cum everywhere.
1. Describe the greatest
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
The first time I ever had sex with a woman...that was my "a-ha!" moment. Growing up in a Catholic family I never heard the word "lesbian" until years after I left home.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yes.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
Nothing scary and nothing really shocks me anymore.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
How about "in like"? I have never really allowed myself the luxury of falling in love...too much work and so little time for myself, nevermind another person. If I really like the woman (strong feelings, not just 'she's a really nice person') then yes, it's much better. There's a stronger emotional connection.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes, but I am unsure if it is right for me.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Yes, it doesn't matter the sex or gender of the person(s) involved. I am fascinated, and aroused, by all types of sexuality.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Anal sex and sexual violence. I have tried both and with one I am physically uncomfortable and the other one is very difficult emotionally (I do not like to harm another person, even if they say they want me to).
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Sexually - someone who will not only tell me what she wants, but will also want to hear my thoughts and desires.
Physically - I like tall women (I am rather short) who are smart...glasses are a huge turn-on.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
My parents gave me a book when I was 8, but it was extremely clinical. Later, I found Dad's Playboy's, but once he caught me looking (I was simply curious, I had no idea I was gay) they were hidden away. Once into adulthood, I watched porn at college parties and once I realized I am gay, my focus turned to lesbian erotica and lesbian magazines. I was a late bloomer experience-wise so much of my early "personal knowledge" came from masturbating.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I would like to have sex more often, but since I live in a rural area and don't have much access to other lesbians it is very difficult to meet women.
Experiences.
Life is too short lets make the best of it x x x
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
It was the first time I ate pussy , it was whie my girl was fast asleep and I moved down between her thighs and kissed her pussy , it certainly was a pleasure for both of us .
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Sure I feel the most satisfied when my parner enjoys the most .
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
I am too scared and never can imagine to be had analy.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Certainly SEX becomes a pleasure when you like or love your partner if not it is more mechanical for me .
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
I would not mind provided my partner was equal or extra in matters of SEX
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Sure I ma I do love to see beauty in every form and it does get me excited .
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Violence of any type puts me OFF I prefer to be smooth soft and romantic while I just cna not think of being penetrated analy .
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Any Female who is loving caring and understanding while ready to respond with all the i vigour in matters of love making .
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
Well it was mostly through friends , books, pornography, some personal experiences.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I certainly would love my GENITALS to be more above avarage like the ones seen in porno
I would include a question regarding masturbation, something like do you masturbate, how often, how?, to releive stress, eliminate sexual tension, etc.
onto the questions.
1. greatest sexual experience was meeting a man i had formed a 6 month relationship with over the internet and scared to death we wouldn't have the chemistry in person, only to discover that was all we had! within minutes of meeting him for the first time we were having the best sex of my life.
2. depends on my mood, but in general, no.
3. fantasy about being a hooker, but the twist is there is a wall between us with a hole in the wall for him to put his penis in, while i suck him off. we never see each other. (fear of intimacy??)
4. doesn't make "sex" better, but it makes the emotional side of it more fullfilling.
5. yes, yes and yes.
6. visual and audio both get me excited.
7. not being in control, it's why i don't drink or do drugs.
8. ideal sex partner? maybe not having a preconceived notion of what he is or would be. just enjoying each session for what it is. i'll think on that 1.
9. mother was very open about sex, but mostly from my first lover who taught me everything. he was more a teacher then a lover.
10. nothing to change about me sexually, i'm open to almost anything, but i do wish i could seperate daily mental stress better so that i think about and want sex more often. oh, maybe being able to have an orgasm without the need for clitorial stimulation.
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life? Wow. Probably the first time a girl went down on me. She kept bringing me to the brink and back again, and then when I finally came, it was amazing! Either that or when I had sex back stage during the school play. The idea of all those people out in the audience having NO CLUE what we were up to, and the idea that we might get caught...plus we were in costume. Kinky.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm? Yes, I do. But I prefer to get off.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you? I once had a thought while almost to the brink of orgasm about my best friends boyfriend being in the closet watching and jacking off. Really pushed me over the edge, but afterwords I felt kinda weird that I thought it.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse? Hmm...don't know. I've had GREAT sex with people I don't love, and vice versa.
5. Do you believe in monogamy? When married, yes.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"? I posted the "Desensitized" topic, so...not really anymore.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually? Hmm...if you mean what will turn me off, then the whole excrement thing is just DISGUSTING. Used to live in Europe where they have tons of videos about beastiality, and I don't get that either. If you mean what makes it hard for me to have sex, alcohol.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner? Open, adventerous, fun.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other? Friends, pornography, and personal experience.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be? I'd be more willing to be more open w/ my husband. I used to be very open, but not so much anymore. I'd make him more adventerous if I could though!
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
As boring as it may sound I cannot recall a specific experience. There was one experience(s) with a girl who had a filthy mouth and was very upfront and aggressive. She would say stuff like "feed me my cum," "I am going to suck you to sleep." "put it in my ass like you mean it, etc. Not to mention she would not hesitate to give herself a smell/taste test right in front of me........
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
If my partner orgasms, yes. I want her to cum more so than myself.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
Attacker/rape scenarios (I use the term rape loosely if there is such a thing). The idea of completely dominating a partner not even for the sake of penetration but to just tie them up and have my way with them using all types of toys and pleasantly torturing them. The wifee gets scared when the idea comes up because I can be quite the actor.......
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Indifferent. Sexual gratification and love operate on different hemispheres of my brain. I have never felt a correlation between the two.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
To be honest I cannot say that is a natural instinct for me, if I were to let nature takes it course I would have hundreds of notches under my belt. As much of a rebel that I am, I must admit that society has conditioned me toward monogamy, the fact that I have kids adds more imposed pressure.....no alimony or child support payments for me!
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
I am a full-blooded man.......of course I am visually stimulated. I do however have the control of allowing myself to become excited or not when watching sexual images, like a light-switch.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
The suggestion of ANY phallic symbol being used on ME. Hygiene is a big deal for me as well, I do not want any parts of sweaty puss and ass no matter how spontaneous the encounter may be. Even slightly stank puss and ass are like Kryptonite for me.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Completed uninhibited, the ability to let go of preconceived notions of sexuality and focus purely on pleasure. Not that they would do ANYTHING but being open to the idea of just about anything. Once this mindset is in place, the rest of the puzzle pieces will come together.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
I learned the technical stuff by reading and experimenting, everything else was by trial and error through my own experiences or through the experiences of others. I believe that if you do not understand people you cannot fully understand sex and all of its intricacies.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I like to think that I have all the technical bases covered with all the reading and observing that I do and physically I am above average in all categories. This question would be better suited for my wife to answer and she would probably say some BS like be more affectionate and cuddling :)
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
Well, the time that I got half a blowjob at work a few years ago had the potential to be the greatest. It would have progressed further, but the delivery guy showed up when the bj was just picking up. (I worked at Tim Horton's on the graveyard shift for 6 months. That's a donut shop, for all you yankees that have never been to Canada before.) Funny thing about that is that she looked almost exactly like one of the waitresses I work with now, only she looked to be about my age (10 years younger than said waitress).
Discounting that encounter though, the best experience was with a complete nut-job. The one that wanted to pick an imminent wedding date after only a couple weeks of knowing each other. She was crazy (some serious abandonment issues that I'm sad to say I didn't help in the end) but she had an appetite like mine. In the space of I think 3 hours, I came well over a dozen times, and neither of us has any idea how many she had because towards the end it was like a continuous wave of them rolling over her.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
I enjoy the look on her face when she orgasms. If she's emjoying herself, I enjoy myself (and I'm far more likely to cum) but if she's not into it, i can't get into it either, and I don't cum (usually anyways). I can enjoy sex without orgasm, but I find it a pleasant way to sort of wrap things up. Keeps them from worrying about why I didnt cum, or wether or not they were good enough, or stuff like that.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
After my introduction to sex, not much can shock or scare me anymore.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
It makes things more emotionally satisfying, but sometimes not as physically satisfying.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes. If I'm not in a relationship, I have no problem with having more than one woman just for sex. But as soon as I enter a relationship with someone, that's it.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
I think it would be better to ask what stimulates us more, but yes, I am visually stimulated. However, audio stimulation I find more effective. See, I've always had a good imagination, so when I play a porn vid sometimes I just sort of lean back, close my eyes, and imagine myself with someone else, making those sounds. It's far more gratifying, to me anyways, than watching 2 people I don't know going at it. Particularly if what I imagine is more creative than what they're really doing.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Men. I don't want them involved, I dont want them watching, either at the moment or on a recording after the fact, I just can't stress enough how uncomfortable it makes me to have men or anything related around or involved in even the slightest way. Like DJ, anything phallic other than my own phallus is out of the question. (except maybe a vibe to use on her, but that's never come up before, so I dunno yet.)
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Well, if Yuki were a bit more open and adventurous, she would be. Her skin is responsive, so sometimes I can get her off just by playing with her breasts, and she is naturally talented. Personality-wise, we're just a perfect match sexually, in most ways.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
I had my first introduction the hard way. A lot I learned in therapy afterward, from the shrinks and the books/videos that they showed the group of us so that our little minds wouldnt be scarred for life. The rest I learned through firsthand experience. Very pleasant firsthand experience, I might add.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
Well, my first answer would have been "my introduction to sex" but if it wasnt for that I'm not sure I'd be who I am today.
So, though it's not strictly speaking sexual, I would get rid of the padding that's covering my sixpack. (I know it's hiding under there somewhere.) I'm happy with the equipment that I have (as are my partners, though it's not like I'm hung down to my knees or anything), and I've never had any complaints, or even constructive criticism about my talents, so I don't see much need for change elsewhere.
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life? While I was in the Army I had sex on the desk and all over the office of my commanding officer with 2 women for 3 hours.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm? Yes
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you? My wife with someone else.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse? I think it helps.
5. Do you believe in monogamy? Yes
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"? Yes
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually? Thinking about my wife with someone else.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner? Someone that is willing and wants to try new sexual experiences. Someone that enjoys being sexual and likes to be adventerous.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other? All of the above and then some. I am constantly learning about sexuality.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be? Being able to control my ejaculations. I have started practicing some tantric breathing and doing keagel exercises so I am on the right path!
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
Well urgh, i've had a few in my short existance. Well one of the greatest was when my man went down on me and i was so hot for it and suddenly he's working me up to a mindblowing orgasm already and he starts stimulating my g-spot at the same time and i had the most intense orgasm i've ever had! Unfortunately he has not been able to do that to me again since. It literally was a one off :-(
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Oh hell yeah. i just love the feeling of him inside of me and the whole connection that we share.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
Well one time i had a wild sex dream when i was like in grade 11 of me having wild passionate sex with my english teacher, who was like in his fifties (although he was really in good shape for his age)! I gotta say, one time i say his dick and i really wouldn't of minded riding that humdinger of a beautiful cock.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
I think sometimes it complicates things when all you want is to be fucked, but most of the time i would say that i think it definately does help and it certainly doesn't hurt does it...?
5. Do you believe in monogamy? Sometimes, i mean 99% of the time yeh!
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
I love watching porn if that's what you mean!!! Such a turn on
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Anal Sex, it's just not the sort of thing i'm really comfortable doing it's like shit comes out of there its like ewww! But hey that's just me...
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
A man who knows how to please me, both physically and emotionally!
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
I learn't through all those domains but mostly from self exploration with friends and partners.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
That i could have a vaginal orgasm, i mean during intercourse. I've only ever experienced one and i haven't since. I'm just not easily orgasmic. I need full on clit action to get me off!!!
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1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life? i met this woman who did movies and she did her own films, plus others were there
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm? yeah i never had orgasm so its hard to say but yes
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you? none that i can recall
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse? never been in relationship
5. Do you believe in monogamy? yes but never been in relationship
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"? yes
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually? doing gay stuff or painful or gross stuff
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner? attractive, nice, friendly, basically perfect, tall , nice figure
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other? class, internet, friends, videos
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
probably getting in better shape, but its coming along
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
A one night stand with someone I had recently met. A great all night fuck-fest.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
It's not horrible but it doesn't leave me with shaking knees the next morning
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
being completely helpless with someone I don't know
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Unfortunately I have never had the pleasure of being in love with one of my sexual partners
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
Yes, yes I am
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
S&M
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Assertive, fun, curious, loves sex
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
Heath class, friends, experiance, internet
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
Be able to come from penetration
Excellent Survay, CB.
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
- the one that comes to mind right now is my first time actually. I discovered then that I am a sexual being and I knew from the start that I'd be good at it.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
- Yes I do. Most times it's more about getting the woman I'm with to Orgasm that makes it pleasureable for me. I don't need to Orgasm to do that.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
- I had a nightmare once where I couldn't stop myself from french kissing a baby. Baby's mouth turned into large jaws just before the kiss though.
- Also one time I found myself thinking sexual thoughts about a 9 year old girl, and that really disturbed me.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
- better, hands down.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
- with the right person.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
- yes.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
- the wrong kind of pain, a terrible smell.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
- I don't know that there is an Ideal, if there is, I can't imagine her.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
- Newspaper articles, my brother, TV, books, intuition !!!
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
- I would like to learn to have more control over my ejaculations. other then that... not much.
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
There was this one time that comes to mind - when I was first getting into bondage, and I had just bought this great black leather open cup body suit. Then lover I had then could just go like crazy and we were so athletic together. We actually wound up breaking my roommate's desk chair, but it was worth it.
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm? Yes, I still enjoy it, but I usually orgasm.
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
Some of the more violent S&M or rape fantasies I've had kind of scare me.
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.
5. Do you believe in monogamy? I believe it's possible.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"? Yes, sure, but not when it's fake.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
Anything with urine or feces or animals turns me off cold immeediately. I also MUST kick the dog or cat out of the room during sex. However, there are a lot of things that are sort of just outside my comfort zone, that I'm starting to consider more recently.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner? Tall - I love tall men. Other than that just someone who can laugh at things, and can laugh and take things lightly during sex.
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
In the begining just from friends, but in college I took this great biology class, on the Biology of Sex. It was wonderful. It explained so many things that I hadn't known up to that point. I believe that it is the greastest trajedy and disservice we are doing to the youth of America by NOT teaching them the facts about sex.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
I'm really not sure that I would change anything right now, after all everything changes with time.
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
Well I've only had sex a few times, but it would probably be my first time. My then girlfriend & I were making out while a whole bunch of fireworks were being let off. It was such an amazing experience. Talk about sparks inside & outside the car!
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
Yep! Sex to me is more than a build up to an orgasm, but an awesome act between two people totally into each other!
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
Don't know about this one. Maybe when a group of friends were talking about boys & I noticed that I wasn't into so much the boys, but the girls. I was 15 at the time, so it was very strange at the time
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
Better, so much better. It's better because the emotion puts more...energy between the two people!
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
Yes
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
I've always been pretty visually stimulated. Porn to me is juuuuz fine! Although I need it to be tasteful & not fake
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
If my partner wanted to introduce a male into our r'ship? I know for a fact that urine & bodily matter like that is juz not cool, at all. That is a maaajor turn off.
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
Strong, caring, energetic, smallish breasts, thin, vocal but not Overly vocal lol
9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
Growing up in a middle class Christian family, sexuality wasn't discussed very much, so i learnt the bulk of my knowledge from friends, first hand experience & health class!
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
Once again, i'm not sure. I pretty have accepted a long time ago that i was into girls & not boys. I don't know if i'd change this if I could. Oh, i know. Something that if i could change, would be to become more able to have orgasms easier, as in a shorter period of time
There's me!
1. Describe the greatest sexual experience of your life?
-So I've got to say that my lovely partner lets me do the best I can give her, but for a killer knock em dead type of experience it would have to be orgasm with a delayed ejaculation after continual stimulation
2. Do you enjoy sex even if you don't orgasm?
-I really want to connect with my partner when I have sex. Anything extra is just a bonus
3. Describe a fantasy or sexual thought that you've had that shocked or scared you?
-Nothing had truly scared me until I heard of that Loretta Bobbit in the States who apparently took to her man with a knife. Can still send shivers up my spine. (and just did)
4. Does being "in love" with your partner make the sex better or worse?
-Knowing the comfort we take in each other makes the sex more memorable, but I have had "bad sex" and we have nothing to fear in regards to that.
5. Do you believe in monogamy?
-I can easily perceive monogamy. Can it work is another question.
6. Are you visually stimulated? Does watching images of sexuality get you "excited"?
-I have archives of celebrity images, and some playboy photos.
7. What pushes you out of your comfort zone, sexually?
-Pain. Pure and simple discomfort at having my shaft bent to odd angles
8. Describe your ideal sexual partner?
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9. How did you learn about your sexuality: health class, parents, church, friends, pornography, or other?
-Personal effort. And a clear aversion to being penetrated.
10. If you could change something about yourself sexually, what would it be?
-flaccid and erect length. Stamina and ability to remain aroused. Core flexibility. The list goes on
I wouldnt change a thing.. cause i love how i am sexually its fun.. :) i'm fun.
Still open for answers?
Not sure how I missed this one in all my comings and goings.
If purely sexual, it would have to be my one and only experience with the multiple orgasm earlier this year. I think I blacked out at the end of the third wave. Incredible.
Oh yes, very much so. In fact, I will often seek sex knowing I won't orgasm. I find a tremendous personal satisfaction in being desired and being the cause for someone else's pleasure.
Yes, many thoughts and fantasies have at first, including BDSM, watersports, and watching two men together. But the more I explore them through reading about them (both fantasies and nonfiction), watching porn featuring it, and discussing it with people - usually strangers via IM chat whom I never interact with again, the less shocking/scary they become. It also helps me discard a thought/fantasy without having to live it. I believe that fear is only in the unknown, and uncontrolled, and being familiar with our fantasies and power makes ideas less shocking or scary.
Unfortunately, I wouldn't know. I would love to believe that there is no better sex than a complete emotional and physical connection, but the two instances in my life when I have been in love with someone who felt the same about me, there was no sex at that time. Even the man I am currently involved with has forbidden me to fall in love with him, so part of me remains hardened. I do have a girlfriend who is a serial monogamist, cannot do casual sex, and often cries when she orgasms from the emotion involved with her partner. That concept is completely foreign to me - in an intriguing way - and may be more scary as a concept than any level of kink could be.
I believe in it as an ideal, like I believe in peace and democracy, but think that in practice it is rare if not impossible to attain. I would like to think that one day I will fall in love with someone with whom I choose a permanently monogamous relationship (and him with me), til death do us part and all that stuff, but it would be a very rare connection indeed. I suppose that if I believe in soulmates, I believe in monogamy, and vice versa.
Yes, very much so. As well as reading about it, and hearing it.
Not being able to trust my partner. I will avoid any sexual situation in which I do not feel that I have control, even when I choose to relinquish it.
Wow. First and foremost, his attraction to me must be more than physical; he must believe that my mind is the sexiest thing about me. He is verbose, articulate, very physically affectionate. He understands that the sexual tension between us is everpresent, but the actual extremity of that tension is always being loosened and tightened like an ongoing dance. He has no discomfort feeling or expressing his emotions. Most of all, he is versatile: gentle and rough, kind and powerful, a giver and a receiver, deliberate and spontaneous. Oh, and he wants me just as much after the orgasm as every point leading up to it.
Mostly my own personal drive leading me to self-discovery. I remember masturbating at the age of 3 or 4. I learned the mechanics of it in school, but a lot of images of "what is sexy" through pornography laying around the house at about the time I hit puberty. However, it was my own personal experiences, that pretty attracts a man for a few moments but clever attracts him for much longer, that led me to really develop my sexuality as it exists now.
I would wish for more self-control. I am doing much better now than I used to about "snacking in between meals" as it were, having a booty call in between relationships, but I would need to be far less forgiving of myself if I could truly abstain from sex every time I felt an encounter were beneath me.