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passion vs. loyalty

Thu, 12/07/2006 - 10:48
Submitted by Carlin Ross

I have a question to pose that's been rolling around my head for a bit.

Would you choose incredible passion with someone that you know will burn bright and burn fast or unwavering loyalty? Which is more important?

And what can and can't you live without? If you forego passion, does it leave scars that never heal....or is loyalty what matters for your soul?

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Thu, 12/07/2006 - 12:12
eleni223

your timing for that question is really weird.

I've been with a wonderful man for many years, he's the guy you want to grow old with, you know will love you no matter what and be there for you, we have a comfortable sex life, a good friendship and now he is talking marriage.

last week, after 10 years, I heard from an old lover. We had the kind of passion that you only read about, but we didn't have "future" material, at least not at that time.

He keeps asking me to call him, but I can't, partly because I feel it would be unfair to my partner, mostly because what we had scares the hell out of me, not sure I want to play with fire.

Hearing from him has brought up a lot of feelings that are confusing me. Fuck! why can't life be simple.

Thu, 12/07/2006 - 12:16
kayten

I read this when I got up and thought about it while in the shower. My first response would have been that I would hold out for both incredible passion with loyalty; that without absolute trust passion couldn't reach its best depths. But then I realized that we don't really have to choose. So few of us meet one person that we then proceed to spend the rest of our lives with.

I suppose part of the reason that I've been insistently single for the two years since I left my marriage is that I want incredible passion and unwavering loyalty from the same man. As well as many other things. I can offer it in return, so why not demand it?