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Wearing stiletto heels can be good for a woman's sex life, a new study has revealed.
Experts have discovered that wearing the high heeled shoes tones women's legs and strengthens pelvic muscles - decidedly improving a woman's love life.
The study said that the heels "directly work the pleasure muscles which are linked to an orgasm".
In the past stilettos have been blamed for stress factures and joint pain but now is seems that the pain may be worth the gain
Urologist Dr Maria Cerruto, based at the University of Verona, in Italy carried out a series of tests and research on women who wore high heels.
She discovered that wearing a pair of "moderately high heeled shoes" had beneficial effects for a woman's sex life.
Dr Cerruto said: "I adore high heeled shoes and I wanted to find something positive about them and in the end I achieved my goal.
"The heels influence and work the pelvic muscles and reduce the need to exercise them.
"We now hope to prove that wearing heels during daily activity may reduce the need for pelvic exercises that are necessary to keep that part of a woman's anatomy toned and elastic."
The study involved 66 women under the age of 50 and questions were asked of their sex lives, their exercise lifestyle and their high heels.
Results were published in the journal European Urology and involved measuring electrical activity in the pelvic muscles of women when they held their feet at different angles.
Dr Cerruto discovered that women who held their feet at a 15-degree angle to the ground, the equivalent of a 7cm [2in] heel, showed up to 15 per cent less electrical activity in their pelvic muscles.
The results suggest the muscles are more relaxed when women wear higher heels, increasing their strength and ability to contract.
High heels have been a fashion item since the 1600s but over the past 50 years they have been blamed for a variety of health problems ranging from bunions, stress fractures and knee pain to an increased risk of arthritis.
Dr Cerruto added: "Women often have difficulty in carrying out the right exercises for the pelvic zone and wearing heels could prove to be the solution.
"Like many women, I like high-heeled shoes, and although they are sometimes uncomfortable I continue to wear them in an effort to appear more slender and taller.
"It's good to know they have potential health benefits."
An official guide to better sex, provided by NHS Direct, advises women to become more aware of their pleasure muscles (pelvic floor muscles) and advises them how to exercise them to aid sexual arousal.
The NHS recommends that women, particularly before and after pregnancy, should do pelvic floor exercises up to five times a day.
You wear 3" to 5" heels
You wear 3" to 5" heels every day? Kayten - why haven't you been in my life? Just kidding - somewhat.
Don't worry about your sex frequency because what you need to do is let things happen naturally. I can tell you this - high heeled shoes are a turn on for most men period. Of all the men that I've know in my life most have at least a small high heel fetish. Generally, men notice women wearing high heels over those who don't. Granted there is a caveat in that most men notice attractive women first and then differentiate between them based on how they dress.
However, most men vary significantly based on the types of high heeled shoes and boots that they find sexually arousing. As an example, for me what really turns me on are classic closed pointed toe stiletto high heel pumps or boots without a platform with about 4 inch heel. I see a woman wearing those and my eyes get glued to her and her legs and feet. It just makes that woman so much sexier for me and at times can actually put me in a somewhat stunned state. The exact same woman in flats or even high heeled open toe shoes, sandals, or clunky heeled shoes or boots will not entice the same reaction in me at all.
Good luck.
Yes, I was told this years ago by a man who tried to pick me up on a plane.
Unfortunately, while I wear heels between 3" and 5" every day, it doesn't do a whole lot for the FREQUENCY at which I manage to get sex. But they sure are fun to look at. And maybe they'll come in handy if I ever manage to actually lure a man into bed.
you shoe whore.
I'm just jealous because you have 2 more pair than me. But my birthday is coming soon so a girl can dream.
Kayten, Don't underestimate your power of appeal. It will happen when you least expect it.
Oh, and nice rack, btw... :cool:
I'm so jealous....after too many years of running around showrooms and merchandising marts, these feet only accept 1 1/2" heels for anything longer then dinner out.
the good news is I have great lower legs...I just can't showcase them anymore!
LOL, that doesn't include my boots, c-bitch! And I have a few more pairs in special Ikea boxes in my closet.
I DID get sex twice in January ... none in December, three times in November, so I guess I'm not doing TOO bad. We'll see if February turns out better. Just wish there were something different than recycling one-night-stands when they find my number again after a four-month dry spell or in between real girlfriends.
Until then, at least I have my darling shoes! They're like my pets!
Now what is it with women and shoes? lol
Not that I can really say a whole lot... I typically go between 3 pairs of boots and sneakers (plus a pair of sandals and a pair of dress shoes) to as many as 7 pairs of boots and sneakers. But I have to because shoes that fit are so hard to find. If I get anything less than a size 13 extra wide (which not many stores carry), I get really bad ingrowns no matter how well I care for my feet. So when I go shopping for new footwear, if I find something that fits I buy extra.
I wear heels everyday, and have never had an issue getting sex when I want it. I don't think it's necessarily due to the heels, as my personality kind of leads to easy sexing, but whatever :D
Recently I've been wearing flats, but that's because the boyfriend likes the "casual" look and for some reason my wardrobe has bent and twisted itself to his gentle nudgings, haha.
God, I envy you Closet, never having an issue getting sex when you want it. I mean, I could walk into any bar in my neighborhood and leave with my pick of men within five minutes, but stranger sex is repulsive to me. Among the men I have counted as lovers, I am the callee, as if I am the caller there is.
I haven't had a boyfriend in 16 years (I was a wife until about 4 years ago). The concept of an exclusive, affectionate relationship seems to be a foreign one in the single world. Sex seems to be something that's done with as little communication or reality as possible, like everyone wants to pause their life for a ten-minute porn star interlude and then forget it ever happened. Is that really all there is?
I wear my high heels because I like the way I look and feel in them, but I'm beginning to wonder if I'm some kind of unwitting advertisement for cheap sex. Do they trigger something in a man's mind about a woman being non-relationship material? ARE there still single men who think of sexual women as being relationship material at all (it seems I'm only appreciated or desired by the married ones)? I can assure you that beyond the heels I dress quite conservatively, nothing particularly revealing or inappropriately snug. My measurements are approximately 38-28-36 and since I'm barely 5' tall, it makes me a little top heavy. I have to make sure the girls don't get more attention than is fitting.
I'm truly beginning to wonder whether I just have expectations of interpersonal relationships which are completely unfounded in reality. People DO still fall in love and actually want to get to know one another, right? There is sex beyond the relationship value of a typical porn scenario, isn't there?
I've always found high heels on a woman to be very sexy, sometimes even the ugly pairs that some women wear. For me it's gotten to the point, where the sound of heeled foootsteps gets my blood flowing. I just love that, click, click, click on the ground.
That being said, I've never thought of a woman: Wow, those are great heels, she must be an incredible lay.
That just seems like a really unconnected thought to me.
Does that mean a woman not in heels is a bad lay?
Does that mean ugly heels aren't as good as sexy heels?
What about short heels or tall heels?
Stilettos or thick heels?
Am I supposed to decide in advance what kind of a sexual experience I might have with a woman based on her heels?
Take for example, stripper heels. Those are some of the trashiest things I've ever seen, but obviously someone thinks their good for an image of some kind.
Now I will honestly and happily admit to having been to a number of strip joints, and having partook of a lap-dance or two as well. Some were good dancers, whereas others just didn't have the moves. All of them though, were really hot to look at. Were the heels supposde to be any indication of which was a better dancer or more sensuous? What a ridiculous notion.
This might be the problem, honestly. They aren't connecting you to a sexual being, and the heels are probably a little out of place with "quite conservative" clothing.
You need to draw them in by being a little sexual, then if you're interesting, proceed. I never have sex until the 3rd date, and that gives me enough time to know if someone is a waste of my time, and normally they tell me if it's purely a sexual attraction by then. I had a guy I stopped dating this year say "well it's probably for the best, because I only asked you out because I really want to see you naked". That attitude is fine with me, I'm just not going to start a relationship with it, OR sleep with it. The guy I'm dating now asked me to come home with him (begged really) after about 2 weeks of daily interaction. We'd gotten the kinky out in the open, and he was attracted to me, and I thought he was rad, so we jumped into it and had a blast.
I also like telling men "I don't like one night stands, because they're never any good", and if the man reciprocates with a similar attitude (or says it first) then I'm much more willing to enter into a sexual agreement with them.