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I WANNA KNOW WHAT5 THE GIRLS THINK ABOUT PENIS SIZE? DOES IT REALLY MATTER NOW IN DAYS?
Yes and No
Yes, size matters to a certain extent.
I always used to say it doesn't until I met my current man. I haven't measured it, it looks like it's around 4 inches and he has a small girth. Sometimes he is only semi erect or he loses his erection. A woman is not going to be sexually fulfilled riding a semi erect 3 inch (it's shorter because it's not fully erect) dick.
I am trying to be patient because he is practically a virgin even though he is almost 40yrs old. I have to teach him the basics including female anatomy. He didn't even know what a clit was. I had to explain to him why I didn't cum after he performed oral sex on me for about 1 minute and performed intercourse for less than 1 minute. I told him it takes longer for a woman to cum. You can't expect her to cum in less than 2 minutes.
It wouldn't be so bad......being with a man who is small if he made up for it in other areas, which he doesn't because he is clueless about the female body.
I am performing my own version of bodyshop sex sessions with him. There is some improvement, but he has a long way to go. We haven't been together long.
There is only one other time in my life when I was with a man that had erection issues. He would only get semi erect too. Once I turned up the heat a few notches by introducing kinky play he got rock hard and no longer had issues becoming erect. We had a great sex life but he spoiled it by becoming too clingy. I only wanted him for sex because he was not boyfriend material. I know this technique would not work with my current man because he is more conservative, he would probably freak out and go soft.
I have to be honest, I think about riding a cock that 'fills' me. An average size cock is enough.....a semi erect 3 inch cock does nothing for me.
I was married to a man that had a thick girth and was 7.5 inches long. Some positions hurt because he would bump my cervix. After I became divorced I had the best sex of my life with a man that had an average size cock because we could have intercourse in many positions without pain. He was also very good at pleasing me orally and other ways.......that's what makes a good lover. A man with knowledge about a woman's body, takes time to pleasure her in other ways (orally, manually, etc) and likes to experiment. I am bored with men that think sex revolves around their penis and puts no effort into sex.
Yes, size does matter...
Yes, size does matter. If I guy is too thin it feels like there's nothing in there- but also, too thick and it hurts. It all depends on the size of the vagina, of course.
For me, 6-8 inch length is perfect- about 5-6 inch circumference... anything smaller or larger and I just don't enjoy it as much.
Shape is also key too- a head that has a thickness larger than the shaft is something I enjoy very much.
Or course, if a guy has the perfect cock but doesn't know how to use it, then size makes no difference.
it does matter to me
i think just how every man has a different size penis, every woman has a different size vagina. and i have nothing against interracial fucking, but i DO think that there is something to the penis/vagina size of the different races that are meant for each other. i'm just basing this on personal experience and on what friends/exes have told me... i've been with an asian man, and he was WAY too small for me. even if he did know how to use it extremely well, it wouldn't have been enough. It was only about 4 1/2", 5" and not thick. now, i've had plenty of male friends and a couple of exes tell me that they've been with asian women and they ALL said that asian women have really tight, small vaginas... so i think it just seems to match up. asian men are equipped to please asian women, black men for black women and so on. not to say you can't mix n match, but i just have a feeling that that's the way we were all "made".
to me, there is a too big, though, too. i think i have a short vaginal canal, b/c anything really over 7 1/2" hurts in certain positions, like it's hitting my cervix or something.
i WOULD break up with a man if we had sex and his penis was not pleasing me phsyically. aside from the asian guy i was with, the smallest has been 7" and the largest was 9". the length also doesn't matter if there's no girth, because one of the guys that was 9" was really no girth and i could barely feel him, the other one that was 9" was as thick as a redbull can, and wow, was it amazing.
on giving head, i'd MUCH rather they have a smaller dick though. i couldn't even fit the one 9" in my mouth properly.
also, certain positions just don't work with a smaller dick, and they happen to be my fave positions... the laying down dog (where he lays on your back and your legs are together, you laying on your belly)... that can't be done, so far that i've found, if he's under 7 1/2 inches. this is also, though, affected by the size of your butt. i personally have a "bubble butt", and i can see how that can affecct penetration or get in the way a little bit during penetration, than if i'd had a FLAT ass...
and even if he did have a smaller dick, and worked wonders with his tongue and fingers, i'd still be craving a good fucking, so i probably wouldn't date him very long.
what i think is that MOST men are AVERAGE in legth (which i consider 6"-7") and that is just FINE. you don't need to be bigger than that. so no, size doesn't matter if you are AVERAGE in size... but i'm sorry, if you're cock is under 6", it's not gonna do anything for me, no matter how you work it. so i do agree with what someone else said, that size DOES matter and any woman who says it doesn't probably hasn't had to experience a really small one.
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What matters to me is, the guy needs to know how to use it.
What matters most is: attractive, well-shaped penis that tastes good and is friendly, on a man who does not just mindlessly pump and hump.
I think if you guy had a 2 inch stub dick it would matter, but most guys in general are equiped nicely. (5 to 8 inch)
IMO if it's well maintained, tastes good and brings you pleasure then its all good. Nobody wants a big dick that smells and looks like it's been playing in sewage water. :lol:
Now there's something I've never considered.... Taste.
I mean I know women taste differently, and I assumed it was just because, well, we ARE sort of licking inside you. Whereas women are licking exterior skin, we are licking interior. So, unless the guy had terrible grooming habits in general, wouldn't they all be relatively the same tasting?
Lord knows that I'VE NEVER, had one of them in MY mouth, so this just struck me as something I've never thought much about. I guess that's good.
As far as the original question above goes... Remember...
It's not how deep you fish, but how well you can wiggle the worm!"
i think size matters to an extent. But it definitely matters how it is used. I had sex with a guy who was 7 or 8 inches, and it hurt like hell. My fiance is 6 and curved upward. He hits my g-spot very well, especially from behind. I seriously love his dick and everything about it, from the size and shape to this cute little freckle just below the head. I think love has a lot to do with how much size matters.
Taste
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taste?
well, i think taste has to do with smell, TOM! so a dick that's been trapped in pants all day can smell (and taste) a bit stale, on the shaft, etc. so the taste is a bigger thing, also connected to the smell of a man - in the pubes, in the spot where the balls/sac touch the top of the thigh...some guys just smell good there and some just smell, well, sweaty! (kind of like pets - some stink no matter what, some smell clean and fine, like my kittycat)
and then there's the taste of the cum, which we've all discussed. BTW...TOM, your avatar makes me laugh because it's a guy's hand on that impressive shaft, and i dig gay porn. :wink:
love does have a lot to do with it, but i used to hump around and could find beauty in even a near-stranger's penis. and yes, kojak, if it was tiny it would matter, but once i slept with a guy (and fell madly for him) who really did have about three inches erect. he wasn't uptight about it and he also (being tall) had a way of using his long middle finger while penetrating me. so it has to do with the guy's attitude a lot. a big-dicked man who is stupid about it is not very appealing.
vixxen... Thanks for the clarification on the taste. I guess that makes sense. I was aware of the taste of the cum, but simply had never considered the taste of the smell.
Regarding the avatar... yes, I know. I realized it was a another males hand, when I looked at the direction of the fingers in relationship to the hand. I'm NOT gay, and I also got a good laugh about it. I had already mentioned this to kojak_kitty, but decided to leave it up for a little bit. I'll change it here soon.
Does size really matter
Yes size really does matter!
I can't stand a man wit a small penis. I really don't like it when they asked like they don't have a small penis......
it dosnt matter, ive been with a guy who was huge, but in the bedroom he has really boring, and wouldnt do anything different than missionary.. on the other side, ive got a man who is smaller, but WOW! does he know what to do!!! :D he is the best lover ive ever had, :D makes me orgasm at the slightest touch. :D at the end of the day, if you know what to do.......... size dosnt matter
For people like me it really matters (5'2 and very petite) I get pounded into tears if he is over like 6 inches. It really sucks.
(anyone under 5'4 is petite, doesnt matter if you're overweight, it just means you're short)
my torso is extra petite because is is really out of proportion with the rest of my body; it is extra short. I didn't mean that I was specifically very petite (height) but also my entire body is extra petite.
hey yuall, So I am new to this...but I love this topic!!
I have been debating this one with my girls for ever...
I see it as for the most part as long as the MAN knows how to work it
it really does not matter the size...but there is all ways a BUT..
I have had one that was tooooo small, and I have seen some too big.
There really is never a real answer to this question. It is one of thouse
on going never ending questions!!
Remember lifes like a DICK when it gets Hard FUCK it!!
i don't think that size really matters. it's all about the attitude of the guy. i've had wonderful sex with man with a 4in penis. he wasn't insecure about it, and his confidence made up for his length. now the worst sex i've ever had was with a very insecure guy that was about 6 in long. he was so worried about his size it ruined the sex. He really didn't have a clue: in the middle of it he stopped and asked me if size was an issue and if i thought he had a small dick! its all about the attitude.
size isn't as critical as shape. If it's huge and sticks out straight or curves down - yuck. But it can be of average size and if it curves up you're in g-spot heaven. I'll take smaller and curved over large and straight any day. :twisted:
Lex brings up a good point... I generally prefer the petite variety of women. Most of the girls I date are no taller than 5'4"... but I've had my dick compared to a soup can (mostly that's a joke, but 6.5" long and 4.5" around isn't that small, either).
I'm often worried I'm going to hurt the poor dears, especially if they've never had sex before, so they're not stretched out.
Any suggestions? Am I overly concerned when I don't need to be? Just curious.
Ok - i hear what everyone is saying - and for the most part everyone is right in their own minds, speaking of which, the guy comes as a whole, if he is good looking, good personality, well built etc., and you find yourself attracted to him in other ways then size doesnt really matter. There are so many different ways to have sex that if you arent fullfilled one way then there are other ways of being fullfilled. If he doesnt wanna go down on you or try anal, and is teeny tiny, then you have a problem. I say dump him there are a lot of fish in the sea!
I think that depends on which woman your talking too. I know that men seem to think that all women are the same. But...... We're different on the inside too. Some women can't handle a large penis and some can. I prefer a medium size penis that is very round.
God wasn't stupid. He made your penis size to fit the perfect woman for you. Thats why some men are well equipped and some are not in my opinion. Also its more important that you know how to use the darn thing.
Technique is as important as structure, and control.
I think women just like a man who is fun and will try to make her feel great and who is not afraid to talk about sex.
penis size
Hi, This is my very first post to this site , I love it . I've already learned that so many people feel like I do about things and I shouldn't feel strange. I don't think penis size matters, It's the whole experience of haveing sex. Anyway like any women who has had children sometimes you feel like so man will be big enough.
I'd just never made the connection before, I suppose because it's OUTSIDE skin. I mean... I realize that sperm all tastes different (well, I don't personally know!...lol), and that women all taste diffferent, but I just assumed that external skin taste would all be about the same.
I dated a girl years ago, who also hated to give head, stemming from the taste of her ex-husband. While traveling to Gatlinburg one time, she got bored in the car during the trip and asked if she could suck my cock. Not being the fool, I quickly agreed and she "finished" me to completion - her very first time in years. She looked and me smiled, and said, "Yum!", Can I do that again?"
Seems there was a huge difference between his taste and mine.
He also was an alcoholic and drank lots of beer and whiskey.
I'd been drinking lots of water.
It's true - you are what you eat.
Yes it matters...big dicks make some girls cry! Average size makes different positions more possible. I mean if you gotta huge dick, theres a lot that women won't want to do-- for fear of being fucked in half! It's more in how you use it than how big it is. And taste really does matter. I never liked giving head until the man I'm with now. He tastes great, and I love the rush we both get when he cums in my mouth. I've actually cum while giving him head, that felt really good.
But I guess its all about personal preference, every woman is different in one way or another 8)
some guys make up for size with width and arch :)
and don't dog Tom's avatar, this site is mainly for the ladies is it not? He was simply appealing to the opposite sex :) (most of them...)
Christina
What is considered small, average, or big?
Wifey measured 7 1/2, she said I am the largest she has been with (only 3 other guys).
BTW, I hope you ladies do not equate height with penis size.
one thing to remember is: It's not the size of the boat...it's the motion of the ocean!
As for the size of a mans penis. NO, it doesn't matter. I have been with various sizes. If a man does not know how to use it, then it' all a watse.
Love me tease, me, make me beg. But don't think that your size is impressive.
i like my hubby's size dont get me wrong i wouldnt have married him if i didnt. i wasnt vertious at all when i got with him. but i have had guys in my past that were bigger then he was. i loved it , i have asked him if i could try it again. i was once with a guy that had a 14 inch cock he knew how to use it and i have a deep g spot thats not easy to find with a smaller cock. hubby gets why i want a bigger cock for those reasons. hes good to me in bed . but i want a to have an orgasm with a cock touching my g spot.
i was with nother guy that was tall and skinny that was a 12 inches. ( and just for petes sake everytime i found a guy with that large of a cock he's been over 6 ft tall.) so for me i guess it is size.
Taste does has to do with what you eat . again my man works out side in the hot sun all day he drinks lots of water. i have been with guys that drink smoke what have you they all tasted nasty . hubby and i tried him cumming in my mouth it was great. thou i havent done it latley cuz i still think it tastes nasty. but i wouldnt mind trying it again with him.
For those of you who don't think size matter boy do I have A guy for you.
Hes hung like an infant squirrel. Didn't matter when I was a virgin but Hell no now.
I also had a short term italian lover who could not only viscously attach me with it he could hang a wet towel, and maybe a coat or two off of it couldn't put a # on it but it was scary huge.... but really anything over 7 is almost too much!!!!
Is that... ALMOST too much!!!!
or
....almost TOO MUCH!!!!
???
well my husband is an alcoholic and smokes and his cum tastes horrible too! is there anything i can give him beforehand? like a mint? ha ha ha! i was just wondering if there was anything i could give him that would counter act the beer/smoke making his cum taste nasty. i really want to enjoy it with him, he is the only one i have never liked the taste of. :oops:
7 is fine but ill do a 9 any time... Couldnt help my self...
no size doesn't matter to me as long as it is fat :o
I think that once you have critical mass, good grooming, and proper maintenance the best penis is all about what's attached to it. I can't believe that I'm saying this but it's really about the man...the whole package. Now, you have to like the dick on it's own independently of the man BUT I have thought "more" of a specific dick just because of the rest of the package.
My vote is for how it's used and who's attached to it. :twisted:
I, like one lady previously posted, am quite small in most all areas.... I am with a man that took me months to get use to. I still can get hurt quite easily with him holding my legs above my head.
with my ex i was always worried, the first month of having sex, she bled almost every time... i thought i might be hurting her or something, but she kept begging for more, and i couldnt say no (japanese chick, not the hottest, but cute as hell)
i dont think i'm impressive, but i dont think i'm a millimeter peter either.
i dont have a woman's perspective, but all i know is i've always gotten an encore. (one time a girl said that if she could stand, she'd give me a standing ovation, but that i'd have to settle for an invitation to come over again)
I've had one guy that had one of those 2-3 inch stub dicks, hell yah i'm going to say size does matter. But I do have to say they sure know how to use those fingures.
"Size only matters if you dont have enough."
said by my rugby coach, my martial arts instructor, and by at least 3 girls I know.
Thats the truth in anything in life....LOL
I think this is how the saying goes....
Women who say that size doesn't matter has never had a small dick. Size matters ladies. We know it and you know it. I've never personally had any problems but it would suck to have a 3 inch cock and have your lady fustrated all the time. I guess you then have to be creative.