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Feminism Blamed for Viagara

Sun, 06/15/2008 - 15:41
Submitted by Carlin Ross

Well all I can say is what's fair is fair. If we have to strive to be a size 0, spend $2k for a handbag, and make $0.75 on the dollar, then they can have to have a hard dick!

Health experts say ever-younger men are increasingly turning to Viagra in a bid to keep up with modern women inspired by the strong female characters in films such as Sex And The City, starring Sarah Jessica Parker.

Relationship therapists are also seeing a rise in the number of men in their 30s asking about the impotence drug, traditionally prescribed to those more than two decades older.
Sarah Jessica Parker

Health experts believe young men are turning to Viagra to keep up with modern women inspired by Sex And The City, starring Sarah Jessica Parker (pictured)

Experts believe the men feel increasingly emasculated by today's women.

They claim that women, following the example of television and film characters, are more vocal about their desires and demand a higher level of stamina and imagination in the bedroom.

The pressure is causing an increasing number of men to experience 'performance anxiety' and, in extreme cases, is leading to diagnoses of erectile dysfunction, requiring specialist treatment. Dr John Tomlinson, a former GP and trustee of the Sexual Dysfunction Association, said he was hearing from an ' enormous' number of 18- to 40-year-olds worried about sexual problems.

He suggested advertising - such as David Beckham's Armani underwear campaign - glamorises the well-toned male body, which men find daunting because they assume it is what women expect.

He said: 'Men may feel emasculated by modern women and feminism has taken its toll. But most of the problems are psychological. I'm sure many of these men are fuelling the counterfeit drugs industry by buying their Viagra online, so the real picture is likely to be bigger than GPs are reporting.'

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Sun, 06/15/2008 - 23:25
avid2

Hey CB-This is Avid. I can't get into my old account so I started a new one.

I am really surprised by your casual acceptance of male sexual dysfunction to meet the demands of modern female sexuality. How is mens' performance anxiety and the use of serious prescription drugs to deal with that any different from anorexia or any other physical and psychological disease that afflicts women(for the most part) and is directly influenced by cultural messages? How is this acceptable but breast implants are vile tools of the patriarchy, forcing women to have surgery to meet "men's" sexual desires and expectations?

And since you brought it up, the size zero phenomenon is something that was created and is sustained by women. Statistic after statistic will tell you that most men prefer curvy, healthy-looking women, not skin and bones. The size zero phenomenon is hierarchical, allowing women to shame other women based on their general weight or body size/type. And 2K on a handbag is no different from 2K for a HDTV, an economically stupid decision based on the thought that more "stuff" will make one happy.

Mon, 06/16/2008 - 12:08
eleni223

I have to agree with Avid here. Most of this pressure is put on women by women. And although I feel that women don't always get the same attention when it comes to sexuality and health issues, I'm not so sure that I can be happy that men are now experiencing their own new pains.

For me, feminism has never been about getting revenge with men, but simply getting equal rights. I don't think men suffering is going to really further our cause or advance our needs.

I think that for men and women to truly understand each other we need to balance the scale, not constantly tilting it from side to side.

Mon, 06/16/2008 - 14:02
Carlin Ross

I agree with both of you. I don't think feminism is about making men feel like less at all. I don't need my man to pop a blue pill.

But what I object to is the media slant saying that feminism and Sex and the City is making men take viagara. Maybe its the constant barrage of television commercials, email solicitations, and Big Pharma pressure to sell the drug NOT WOMEN. My exasperation came off as callousness.

I think the same is true of the size 0 and $2k handbag phenoms. Men aren't assailing women with these messages - the fashion industry is the culprit.

I wasn't assigning blame to either sex. But I was feeling a bit relieved that men are also the targets of ads etc making them feel like less because it unites us in some weird way. And it opens up a dialogue on sex.....and the need for viagara does acknowledges female sexual desire which is a step in the right direction.

Mon, 06/16/2008 - 18:45
kayten

All the men I know who have admitted to taking Viagra did it for recreational purposes only and didn't need it, so I find the article interesting about male sexual pressure. I thought the lovers in MY past were the only ones to complain about that kind of demand!

Funny they finally get a glimpse of the woman's world to be always ready and perfect!

Mon, 06/16/2008 - 22:07
avid2

Viagra and what it represents opens up a whole can of worms when you are talking about sexuality. There is a section in Susan Bordo's "The Male Body" that talks about how the function and marketing of Viagra is not based around increasing men's sexual pleasure, but their sexual performance. Men's pleasure is secondary from this perspective, if even considered. Essentially, the purpose of Viagra is to increase women's sexual pleasure through creating an real erection that can mimic a fake sex toy. Now I'm saying this as a healthy 30 year old man, so I may be singing another tune when I hit my 50's and lil' avid can't do his thing. Still, it seems like Viagra acts similar to bad pornography, in that each sets up unrealistic expectations in the opposite sex in terms of normal sexual form and function.

Tue, 06/17/2008 - 01:44
kayten

And I think "overstamina" is one of the most negative sexual traits there is. I'd rather cum quickly and then rest and go again. And again. And again.