Do most guys like a finger in the ass during sex/head?

Tue, 04/13/2004 - 00:29
Submitted by gutterstars

My boyfriend is pretty kinky & fun overall (and not homophobic), yet startlingly resistant to a finger in his ass while we fuck. I just tease him about it, but he gets all uptight about it. I only did this before w/one guy & he loved it, I'm pretty sure this one would, too. It's just weird that this is the only thing that he won't do, & it makes me want to try it more. Should I push it or just drop it & be happy w/the status quo?

Tue, 04/13/2004 - 07:45

From my discussions with the male species I have come to find out that some guys love the finger in the ass while others just don't like it.

Has your boyfriend had a previous bad experience with the finger/ass?

I saw hold out hope and get him tipsy once and then do it.

I am in the same boat as you as my husband does not let me near his ass. What a waste. But maybe one day I can get him to let me wiggly around his back door.

Stay strong, Don't give up and if all else fails get him a bit drunk and take full advantage of him. :wink:

Tue, 04/13/2004 - 15:02

From my experience, lots of guys love it. I haven't met a guy yet who didn't like it once he let me do it. It is a huge turn on for me too.

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Wed, 04/14/2004 - 08:45

I love it. I find it's just the opposite to find a woman who likes to play around back there.
One other thing that maybe would help... have one finger that doesn't have an inch long, sharp-as-hell, finger nail on it that you use for this purpose. THAT'S not very comfortable at all and it becomes hard to relax and enjoy it, when you're thinking you could be cut to shreds back there at any given

But, hell yes, we like it (or at least some of us do!)

Wed, 04/14/2004 - 09:01

Tom you are one in a million. :D

Love you avatar. It looks TASTY 8)

Tom's picture
Wed, 04/14/2004 - 09:58

Thank you Kojak Kitty,

Is that a GOOD thing? Being one in a million of what exactly?

I love your avatar also.... It's what inspired me to put one up (so to speak...)

Hey! I think I see a match here...

Like directions... "...Insert Tab A into Slot B..."

Wed, 04/14/2004 - 12:19

I am glad I can still inspire such a rise out of a man. (so to speak)

It took me a good hour to find that avatar. It fits my personality.

Yes one in a million is a good thing. Most men are carbon copies of each other when it comes to sex. It's nice to know that their a few orginals out there that like to be explored and try a new adventure.

Oh and Tom, it would be "Insert tab A into slot B or C" (note slot D is not pictured)

I like anal & giving head so all slots are open for business. :lol: :wink:

Tom's picture
Wed, 04/14/2004 - 14:03

Wow... I think I'm infatuated!

I like trying all sorts of adventures...

My (ex)girlfriend and I (the one in the story on the other thread) liked to be tied to the bed and teased until she couldn't stand it. So did I. She also was willing to do many, many things... like fucking outside in the woods, naked camping which we did last summer, nude beaches (2 yrs ago), driving around naked on summer nights, etc... it always led to wonderful sex between us. I loved her sooo much, but she won't leave the asshole she's married to, until her kids are out of the house. Sigh... so I hope to find another one out there who likes that sort of stuff, but it won't be easy I fear. She was such a trooper.

And, speaking of slots... I gotta tell ya'... you're my kind of gal, alright!!
I love when all the slots are open for bidness!

Thanks for the smile you gave me today, Kitty.


Wed, 04/14/2004 - 21:59

Thanks for the advice, any more on how to do it, er, gently? Get him drunk, cut my fingernails, lick 'em. . . . anything else? Better during head or sex? Thanks again!

Tom's picture
Thu, 04/15/2004 - 11:28

How about talking him into sharing a bubble bath or a hot tub session with you somewhere, and while playing with him there... just sort of dabble a little and see how he responds. It worked with me.

I also liked it more while getting head than during sex, although I'm not excluding it while having sex. I just prefer it anytime the woman is comfortable doing it.

Perhaps a glass of wine or two, some intimate time alone with him, and gentle persuasion will change his mind. Be gentle, tell him it's something you'd like to do, be patient, and make it feel good. Once he's used to the idea, he will probably come around, unless he has some sort of homophobia complex about it.

Why do guys think that if something goes anywhere near their ass, it means they are a homosexual? I just don't get it....

Good luck.

Thu, 04/22/2004 - 13:30

totally do it, even the straightest guy. one of my best straight friends, my best gay friend and i were having a convo one day and the straight boy said that his girlfriend did it once and he loved it.... he also said if i told anyone he would kill me, but he said he would do it again n again. hand job? why not look around with your mouth back there? mm mmm mmmmm

Thu, 04/22/2004 - 21:22

Just so you know, you don't -have- to breach all frontiers. If he really doesn't want anything in his ass then I hate to tell you that it's totally his right. In the same way, you have the right to refuse anything sexual that wouldn't float your boat either. Wanting to get in there mainly because he is resistant isn't a great reason...if he wouldn't get pleasure then what, really, is the point?

Fri, 04/23/2004 - 08:11

Good point on the finger nail length, Tom.
My suggestion would be to start out using your tongue. Gently probe and tease to see how accepting he is (make sure he doesn't feel "unclean", so the bath before is a nice treat). I wouldn't just jump right in with the finger.....rather build up to it.

Fri, 04/23/2004 - 13:19

drolls over avatar... thinks and wishes i could get hubby to . i heard it makes the orgasm better is that true.

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Fri, 04/23/2004 - 14:17

It can. It just depends on his frame of mind. I'm convinced that a really good orgasm, has half to do with the person I'm with and how much I love them. I'm from the old school, or maybe just old fashioned, but more of the enjoyment for me, is being with the person I love, and giving them pleasure.

I'm sure that at college age, there are those that will experiment with sexual practices and find them new, exciting, and interesting. But as you get older and are with your mate, the person you've chosen to do life with, these sorts of things can make it not only more interesting and pull you out of a rut, but I also think it's "uncharted" territory that can be explored and found to be an exciting new venture for partners to explore.

So, as far as the orgasm being better, I think it mostly depends on where your head is, (pardon the pun) and who you are with. In other words, if this happens to be a HUGE departure from the "normal" encounter you've come to expect from being with this person, then yes, I believe it can add a lot to the experience. If it's simply experimental sex with someone who does it to me, and I don't really have a deep connection with that person... then it probably won't be as intense for me.

Hope that makes sense....

Just my two cents worth....