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this story is all ove the blogosphere today. So they're a few weeks from the wedding, her girls are searching the web looking for a male stripper for the bachelorette party, and they find a video of the soon-to-be-groom fucking another woman - and it's not amateur video it's straight porn.
Suffice it to say but the wedding is off. Then it got me thinking about love. If you're in love with someone, would you be able to walk away because they had sex on camera. It's not like he or she are virgins. They've had sex with other people. What if it was just a sex tape? Is there a difference?
I just don't think that I could let someone go for being a porn star. You could talk about it...he could quit. You're probably having unprotected sex anyway so whatever he has you have - and sex workers are generally cleaner than the general public because they get tested.
If love is supposed to be blind, then it shouldn't end the relationship. BUT I guess love isn't blind. There are definite deal breakers. Porn star is top of the list but what are the others???
What's the issue?
Fucking around is one issue but the issue here is "lack of communication". Apparently this two don't know each other well enough to marry each other. Funny thing is that most people do it anyway.
Bus Driver Fired for Being Porn Star
And the debate takes another turn. Is being a porn star grounds for being fired? Who's consuming all this porn anyway....such hypocrisy:
A bus driver is facing the sack in Belgium after it emerged that she is a porn star.
The driver, the reigning Miss Nude Belgium 2009, passed all her driving
tests following a six week intensive course, reports The Sun.
But the model, called Audrey, was ordered to choose a career after bus bosses spotted revealing pictures of her on a website.
Audrey, 24, said: "I was hauled before the director of human resources
and he asked me to choose between my erotic career and my new career on
the buses.
"He said that I had to sign a form pledging that I wouldn't do any more nude pictures."
Carine Zanella, spokesperson for bus company TEC, said its treatment of Audrey was nothing to do with morality.
She said: "We don't wish to see a member of our staff finishing a show
in the middle of the night and then picking up a bus at six in the
morning."
But Mrs Zanella admitted that Audrey was one of the most popular drivers in the history of the company.
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Not a big deal. If it was a
Not a big deal. If it was a one time deal, i would shrug it off. Carlin makes a good point, if she really loved him, they would have been able to talk about it first. I think it's kind of hot to find out that someone I am with did an adult movie.
Life after marriage...
...is a challenging adjustment. Tom's suggestion:Do not complicate it with unrevealed history at this level.
Postpone, not cancel!
I agree with gibbsfunction. The whole 'I'm working in the porn industry' would not bother me a jot - as you say Carlin, they get tested way more than the rest of us! - the simple fact of keeping something like that hidden would be more of a deal to me.
If it was a one-off deal, I can understand him not mentioning it - thats like failing to mention you went to a party or something - its no biggy.
If Porn Star was his genuine occupation, I reckon its quite a big thing not to have mentioned prior to the wedding... After all, surely the person you love (and going to marry) should be accepting of your situation no matter what? Obviously there are times when that doesn't apply...But something tells me that being in a porno isn't as bad as some things people have done in their pasts...
Woman cancels wedding after finding out fiance porn star
Postponing the wedding and re-evaluateing would be needed. Since porn is widely available, there was always a chance his past would resurface so it should have been discussed. She should have talked to him about her fears and reluctance and not let the discussion get to the Internet. People change directions and interests so it doesn't mean he would of been a bad partner.
Personally i'd put that in
Personally i'd put that in the "you should have told me" category. It would definately mean a serious talk in which i'd want some honest answers, such as why didn't you say anything, and are you still ding it.
Someone you're going to marry should be open about a general outline of their past sex life. Leaving out being a pornstar is a bit of a big omission. It seems very dishonest is the thing