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Why are all the wrong men attracted to me????

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Mon, 09/29/2008 - 02:57
Submitted by mssaigon73

I sometimes wonder why I can't seem to find the perfect guy for me. I have no problem attracting men.....they are just the wrong men.Married,jerks,players,"Mr. no job-no money-no car"... the list goes on. I am an out going person. I like to laugh and have fun.I think I am a good person.So why can't I find the guy for me? Here is an example of my luck. I was at work this past friday.I work in the recovery room at my hospital. I am not sure how it started....but I was joking around with one of the nurse anesthetist. I thought it was harmless fun. We run into each other near the locker room. I was still being playful. When he threw me against the wall and began to kiss me and fondle my breast. Now I am not complaining about the action.... it was actually pretty hot. The problem is he is married. I am trying to keep myself drama free at work. I don't mind having flings,but with someone at work who is married...... there will be complications. I try to avoid flings at work.... I have had them.And they are fun......but I try to keep everything on the "down low". I don't think it is anyones business who I hangout with from work.But women and yes even men like to gossip. So whats a woman to do??? I don't want Mr.Right for now, or Mr.Wrong in my life. I want to Find MR.Right for me.

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Fri, 09/24/2010 - 20:25
Sandara (not verified)

I like Dan Savage's video on finding "the one". He basically says that people aren't going to magically find that one person that's meant for them. He thinks there are many possible ones. That person becomes your "one" when both of you decide to round each other up to "the one".

Yeah, I get where mssaigon73

Sat, 09/18/2010 - 03:31
corvusmachina

Yeah, I get where mssaigon73 is coming from. I almost NEVER get hit on, and when I do, it's depressing because of who it is. Let's go through the list, shall we?

1. First time I was ever clumsily flirted with. It was seventh grade and it was with a kid whose head (I kid you not) was shaped like an honest-to-God Area 51-type alien, but with hair. Creepy little bastard, too.

2. The next one wasn't really into me. He'd made a bit with some of his friends that he could get me to go out with him by the end of eighth grade. He lost.

3. I got to high school, and three days in this 350-lb weirdo, who I've never spoken a word to before, tells me I have nice boobs. While I'm talking to a male friend. And he still to this day has no idea why I never liked him.

4. Once, in a Hot Topic, I was approached by a girl that looked like a 12-year-old boy. Since that was my first experience being hit on by a female, I tossed out something including "I have a boyfriend" and "I'm straight". And then I ran away. Well, not ran, maybe walked at a fast clip. But still.

5. My friend's drug-addled, low-functioning uncle had a crush on me for a long time. Every time I saw him he told me I was cute and would ask me out on a "friendly date". Whatever that means. This was an unbelievable low.

6. The icing on the depressing, un-romantic, Valentine's-Day-hating cake that is my life. A former friend, the boyfriend of an ex-roomate, came over because he wanted to buy my guitar. After a bit of haggling, he asked if I wanted to go fuck. Once I'd realised what he'd said, I laughed it off because I thought that he was SURELY joking. But when he asked again, about twenty seconds later, I saw that he was being serious, and I hurried him out the door. I mean, really, am I only good for when they're bored? And besides... I'm not even attracted to him. At all.

All I want is ONE decent guy in my whole God-forsaken life. One. Is that too much to ask for? I was pretty sure that was reasonable, but I guess fate wants me to die alone and unloved. It's like I have a sign over my head that says "Sane? In a normal weight range? Well then this one isn't for you!"

I have that problem too!!

Fri, 02/06/2009 - 16:11
KN Merriweather (not verified)

I have that 'I'm awesome' vibe going on as well and my problem is that I get hit on by both sexes! Grr...

There's nothing you can do but be more selective and try to examine how your friendliness/flirting has an effect on people. Role play with a best friend so they can tell you what needs to be fixed.

Sometimes what you may think is just harmless flirting could have sexual tones to it without being aware of it. My problem is that my general friendliness gets misconstrued as flirting! One time I was in a bar with my best friend and he nearly got into a fight with me, accusing me of coming on to one of the gay and proud woman there. I said that I was being friendly!! But apparently, my friendliness came across as flirting and they both thought I was flirting with her. Geez... All I was doing was just talkign about nothing. How can you confuse that for flirting???

Good luck.