Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
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Betty's Vaginal Barbell |
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My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir - EBOOK EDITION |
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Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop DVD |
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Betty Dodson Liberating women one orgasm at a time |
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Carlin Ross Sex, Politics & More Sex |
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Eric Amaranth Sex life coaching, real life erotica, and wellness |
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Lawrence Lanoff Reality Hacker. Sex Educator. Geek. |
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Liandra Dahl Sex Documentarian |
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LilithLand Women, Sex, Culture & Relationships |
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cajun sausage Lovin' Dr. Betty since 1996! |
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Christina Cicchelli Professional Pervert |
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Danny Wylde Male. Libra. Whore |
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Dr. Lulu History & the Material Culture of Sex |
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Emily and Ju Queer love |
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Eric Francis Astrology & Adventure |
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Jenn Parenthood. With Cursing |
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Jessica Kramer Liberating Birth |
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jexhibitionism |
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Kasini Poet. Educator. Catalyst. Mother. |
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LesleyS Redefining my sexual self after babies. |
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Logan Levkoff sexologist, sex educator, intellisexual, author, mom |
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Marisa Black Finding room for all of me |
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Marylou Naccarato Learn how to raise your level of “Sexability” |
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Palesa Art + Sex + Media + Empowerment |
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Princess What would my mother say? |
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Solo Sexualist |
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VirginMonoblogger Thought all virgins were the same? Think again. |
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WildOrchid A selfsexual, toy loving, possibly bisexual total virgin |
Relationships are hard. I've had many but most have ended poorly. My brother was always able to "be friends" with his exes. However, he has a penis and I think it's very different when you're dumped by pussy. Don't challenge me on this point because it's my consolation.
Staring at another breakup, I started to do some soul searching. I have no problem meeting new people, most fall for me (I'm not bragging but I do have the cavorka), but somehow it all gets fucked up. I think I'm too accommodating in the beginning...too honest...I'm agreeable until you do something to seriously annoy me and then I just walk. Not very adult but it is my pattern and I'm self aware.
Then, I decided to stop beating myself up. Maybe there isn't anything wrong with me. Maybe I'm tired of being perceived as perfect girlfriend material. And then it hit me. I know exactly what I don't want:
I don't want to be your fantasy
I don't want to be your mommy
I don't want to be your saviour
I don't want to complete you
I don't want to take care of you
I don't want to make you a better person
The TAO
We should try to balance the Ying and the Yang in our lives. Only balance will give us harmony and serenity,
See me and my story in the Art Gallery: http://dodsonandross.com/art/coming-age
What you don't want
Carlin, I think your list of "don't wants" would make you seem like the perfect girlfriend to lots of guys. From my own perspective...
I don't want to be your fantasy
Good, because I'd want the real thing.
I don't want to be your mommy
Good, because one is enough!
I don't want to be your saviour
Good, because I'm perfectly happy in my unredeemed state.
I don't want to complete you
Good, because that expression makes me vomit.
I don't want to take care of you
Good, because I've been taking care of myself quite successfully for years.
I don't want to make you a better person
Good, because only I can do that.
Actually, if you added "I don't want to change you in any way whatsoever," you'd be totally irresistible!
dunedin at http://dodsonandross.com/art/celebrating-it-just-it