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What do you do when your partner doesn't like to give oral sex????

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Mon, 10/13/2008 - 07:34
Submitted by mssaigon73

I received this interesting email from a guy i use to hangout with. He is getting married.He loves the girl,but his complaint about her is that she is too conservative sexually. This is what her wrote me:"the misses is a bit conservative in the oral department if you know what i mean. ;) she doesn't like to do it and when she does, it doesn't last very long. lol she's got skills but she does it for like 3 minutes =O. so how do i turn this around? "
I told him to join this site and ask Betty. :) He told me she doesn't like to swallow and gets grossed out when he cums on her. It sounds like to be she is sexually inhibited.Know he said he has spoken to her about it.He said she is just not into giving oral.Now I have also noticed in my experience that some men are this way too. They either don't like to go down on women or aren't experienced in doing it. I love to give and receive oral. I love a man with a skilled tongue.A skilled tongue can make me cum very quickly and I love that. ;)
So what would you do if your partner wasn't into oral?

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It may also be that she

Thu, 10/16/2008 - 14:48
eleni223

It may also be that she feels it's an all or nothing, regarding his cumming in her mouth. Perhaps if he was willing to meet her half way...promise not to cum in her mouth, she would then be more open to giving oral.
A lot of women don't like the taste of cum, or the idea of swallowing...that's nothing to be ashamed about. I personally get fed up hearing that only "real women swallow". I think only real women are brave enough to verbalize what they want and don't want.

A fine time to find out

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Wed, 10/15/2008 - 23:14
Nobilis

This is one of those reasons that this whole "no sex before marriage" idea sucks.

My advice is as follows:

One: Your mistake for not learning this little detail before getting hitched.  As Dan Savage says, "Oral is standard equipment.  If yours didn't come with it, bring it back to the lot."

Two: Now that you're hitched, you're stuck.  You made a promise to stick with her for better or for worse.  This is one of those "worse" things they're talking about.

Three: You can't change someone else.  You can invite them to change, you can express a desire that they change themselves, but you can't force change on someone who doesn't want it.

Four: Everyone has their kinks, the things they wish their partner would do but don't have the courage to ask for.  Find out what her kink is, and give it to her without question.  She might decide that your "kink" (it's not a kink, but she thinks it is) isn't so bad once you've unconditionally and unquestioningly given her hers.

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