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Fri, 08/20/2010 - 06:35
Submitted by 8765

Hello everyone,

So heres some background information, im 17 years old, a virgin, and have very fair sensitive skin.

So the other day i was at this guys house and things started to heat up fast, but he knew i was a virgin and wouldnt have sex. So we pretty much just did everything else instead. First it started with some kissing, thats when the biting began. Dont get me wrong a little bite here and there is nice but by the end of it i had a fat lip. Next came the boobs, this is my main concern. First it was nice he was just feeling them and everything, then he began to like squeeze them pretty hard, which again was okay, but then the biting started again. He really seemed to enjoy biting my nipples which is okay for a short period of time but he just kept going. I kind of gave him a few hints to stop, but he would only stop for a short period of time then begin again. The story continues but isnt really necessary to share for my question so ill just stop there. When i got home i was in a lot of pain, i kind of felt like i was punched in the chest, so i took of my top and took a look. OMG i had bruises all around both of my boobs, and my nipples were bright red, and looked like they had a little blood on them. Its been about 2 days and i still am in some pain. The bruised are a yellowy color now and i do have small scabs on parts of my nipples. The guy is very sweet, and id like to see him again despite this, so how do i tell him to basically just not be so rough without just blatantly saying it. Also do you think i got this reaction just from my sensitive skin? Thanks so much!

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That guy has to learn boundaries

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Fri, 08/20/2010 - 20:37
WildOrchid

If you plan on being sexual with him again you have to have a talk. Pick a non-sexual situation and explain to him that when you say "stop" you mean it. People who like rough play and want to be taken beyond their limits set a safe word that means "stop" when the usual words get incorporated into the play. So the person on the receiving end can always control how much pain s/he receives.

P.S. I looked up the cures. Apparently controlled trials show that there is no point in using arnica gel. Try rubbing the bruises. Should help them heal quicker.

also how do i get rid of

Fri, 08/20/2010 - 06:37
8765

also how do i get rid of these awful bruises faster? if i wear a v neck top people will think ive been abused