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Mon, 10/20/2008 - 01:58
Submitted by martin_t

Hi all, I have been visiting Betty's site for years now and really enjoy this new effort.

The genital gallery has always been a favourite of mine and I have used it to fantasise over and to build arousal prior to masturbation sessions.

I am married with three children and in most ways our marriage is successful, but in recent years my wife's libido has declined dramatically and I've resorted almost exclusively to fantasy and masturbation for stimulation. In recent months I've really felt that there's something missing from my sex life and I feel I need to share my fantasies and sexuality with another. To be honest there's nothing I'd like more than to be able to do this with my wife, but she unfortunately wouldn't participate. I've discussed mutual masturbation with her instead of intercourse but she finds the subject distasteful.

So I guess the help I'm hoping to find is another caring, completely trustworthy and discrete person to communicate with via email to share fantasies and sexual needs. Prior to marriage I had numerous relationships with both males and females and don't see sexual enjoyment in terms of gender. Having said that I would prefer a female penpal rather than a male but it's not critical.

I guarantee any contact will be completely discrete and will not cross your boundaries.
It anyone out there is interested you can email me at martintc999@gmail.com
It may take me a few days to reply because I need privacy but I will respond.

All the best in anticipation
T. Martin

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Sounds Interesting

Wed, 12/10/2008 - 20:01
lawesy

What a good idea.

Martin,  I left this post

Wed, 10/22/2008 - 13:24
Carlin Ross

Martin, 

I left this post unanswered because I wanted to see the community response.  I think the lack of response proves that my reaction to your post was on the money.

You can't put out a call for a new masturbation partner for a sex positive experience while bringing the baggage of your marriage into it.  You come off as needy and self-centered.  Why would anyone want to step into that emotionally charged situation?  

You should always project the energy that you want to receive; meaning, that if you want a positive, exciting experience then you should project that in your post.  

I think that this is why most women shy away from kinky sex and lose their sex drive within their relationships: it's always about the women making the man feel amazing so that he forgets about his crappy life.  We're everyone's mommy.  

Don't you see how that can be exhausting?  Sometimes we want it to be about us.   Sometimes we want to be wowed...we want to laugh...we want to feel joy...we want to have fun...and then we want to ride your cock like there's no tomorrow.  That's the recipe for great sex, my friend.

 

Absolutely agree with Carlin

Thu, 10/23/2008 - 21:46
eleni223

Absolutely agree with Carlin on this one.
I never answered because I wasn't sure if he was going to offer a price for these services or not...well, that and I just got back from my honeymoon...yes, after many many years together, we got married.