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Sun, 03/08/2009 - 22:15
Submitted by asenath

Hi everyone!

My first message, but not the last, I hope!

I wanted to ask you a question. Maybe it seems a little bit childish, but I would like to have some advice.

I will start from the beginning. I've always liked sex very much, though in the beginning I had some problems with myself. Nowadays, I have a new boyfriend, and my problems seem to have vanished in the air :) I enjoy very much.

The fact is that in our sex sessions, the penetration is so short! Maybe a few minutes, or less... We always start playing, masturbating, and I love to make him oral sex. We stop before he is reaching the orgasm, but I would like the penetration would last more... because I can't reach my own orgasm. Normally, I do the "ladies first", reaching one orgasm in the previous part... but... You know.

I hope it had been clear... Any ideas? Should we stop with the oral part before? Some technique, maybe going slower in the rythm of penetration? Maybe the problem is that we want it all :P

Thanks for your answers...

Love,

as.

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~~~As a guy who loves oral

Wed, 03/25/2009 - 15:23
camlost

~~~As a guy who loves oral sex...and who among us doesn't? I have often had the same problem.

My wife & I get frisky & play around a bit, lots of fondling & licking & sucking. Then when the time comes to actually get on with the show, I'm already ready to burst & it only takes a few minutes, if that, before my wife puts me over the edge with her amazing technique.

I've had musch success with the already mentioned "jacking the edge" technique, but what I prefer is to give a little back.  I get plenty of sucking before we start to actually fuck, then when I'm almost ready to cum, that's when I return the gift of the oral sex by going down on my wife, or using one of our many toys on her.  Sometimes I have to be careful not to reverse teh situation & have her cumming before I can get back insider her.  I do love the feeling of her intense orgasms.

So my advice is to encourage your partner to go down on you to make time for a longer ride, or keep some toys handy & put on a show with some help, sort of like the intermission in a long movie, give him time to go down for a snack.

tell him that he should

Sun, 03/08/2009 - 22:36
Carlin Ross

tell him that he should practice his control while masturbating.  He should masturbate and when he feels he's going to come he should stop and back off his orgasm.  A friend of ours calls it "jacking an edge". 

He needs to learn how to prolong his ejaculation.  The best method is to start and stop during partner sex.  So if you feel that he's about to come....jump off and kiss etc before getting back on.  You can be in control of how much fucking actually happens. 

C

Sure I'll tell him! Thanks

Sun, 03/08/2009 - 23:17
asenath

Sure I'll tell him! Thanks so much for your answer and for the work you do in that page :)

It's a kind of honour that you're attending my personal question, hehe.

Thanks again!