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I have medium-sized breasts. They were above average during my puberty but then other girls grew larger. My sister has AA and she's way hotter than me. If she wasn't such a nun we would be rotting away in prison for incest.

She also has problems accepting herself. Huge problems. And it's those problems that don't let her find a boyfriend not her breasts. Here are some of her pictures - she wore a heavy padded bra under that dress. Boys don't drown your keyboards in drool - you'll need them. unfortunately you can't see her ass on that pictures. She has a magnificent round ass - which she of course hates.

But my sister knows that in 20 years time my breasts will reach my navel while hers will still stick out proudly.

If you are looking for a porn actress with small breasts who doesn't always imitate a prepubescent girl try Sasha Grey (but watch out she does some extreme porn). I love her! Not only for her firm tities but for fingering her clit when she's fucking. For being so confident and aware of what she's doing in the business.

The entertainment industry wants us unhappy - will just sit there watch more TV. There was a study that confirmed that while magazines significantly spoil young girl's mood girls want to look at them anyway.

If they make us feel dissatisfied we are more likely to buy a new breast enhancing bra or cream. We are afraid of being not attractive enough, not cool enough, not efficient enough. Adverts just play on that fears.

And who gets paid for printing/airing adverts? The same media that show us full chested women.

That said on of my friends has large breasts. There are times when I can't concentrate on the conversation with her and just stare. She's cool about it but I don't feel that many women would appreciate that kind of attention.

The bigger the breasts are the harder it is to remember the face - I found it on my friends soup.io and can't agree more.

"See I don't want a guy to think "small breasts are okay" though- that doesn't make a woman feel sexy or hot, just "eh, she's okay". I appreciate your positive comment, but i want a guy who is crazy about me even though I have a really flat chest."

Not every guy is gonna find you hot. Not every guy is gonna find me hot. Just like not every guy thinks Megan Fox [or insert female ideal of the moment here] is hot. We're led to believe that if we don't possess a perfectly proportioned body, or the appropriate BMI, or the right bra size, or if our butts don't fill those jeans, we still have stuff to "work on". Fuck that. Everyone likes different things, despite what popular culture and peer pressure would lead you to believe. I guarantee there are a lot of guys out there who would go "crazy" over you, not just in spite of your small chest, but with that as one of the very reasons he finds your body fantastic.

Now you just gotta go out and find one of those guys. They're all over the place, trust me. But if ANYONE catches a whiff of you beating yourself up over not measuring up to some arbitrary standard, you're gonna instantly be a lot less attractive. I know it's cliched, but if everyone looked and acted the same, this world would be SO damn boring.

Also, from the guys I know that I've talked about this stuff with, EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM has said something along these lines: "If I'm in bed with a girl, I don't care if she's a little too chubby or skinny, or if she has stretch marks, or if her [whatever] isn't "perfect" - I'm just thinking 'holy shit, I get to sleep with her! This is awesome!" I know it's easier said than done, but PLEASE don't worry that he's critiquing your body while you're in the sack, I'm willing to put quite a bit of money on the fact that he isn't, he's just thinking some version of "HOORAY!"

I have to admit that I like breasts of all sizes. While I will notice a well shaped bosum immediately, I have found that the girl behind the bosum is what is important. And in my rather limited experience, women with small breasts tend to enjoy them more.

One gal with whom I lad a long term affair sported DDs or bigger, and she liked to show them off. Neat lady, but IMHO, her breasts just got in the way. She avoided all exercise like jogging, tennis, etc.and, quite frankly, undressed and/or in bed, she got little pleasure out of her breasts.

I also had a long term affair with a girl that basically wore a training bra. She acted embarrassed by her lack of size, and insisted on a heavily padded bra when dressed up. But she sure made the most of what she had. She was game for any activity, indoors and out. And she loved having her breast caressed, fondled, kissed and sucked on. She reveled in pressing those small boobs against my arm or my back in any ald all venues, and I loved it. She was a really neat person and I never regretted for a minute that she had small breasts

My wife of many years had B cups when we got married. She was another lady that really enjoyed her boob, both how they looked and how the felt. Now past menopause, she has DDs. Both of us preferred the B cups.

With apologies to admirers of John Donne, I might say, "No breast is an island, entire of itself; every breast is a piece of the continent, a part of the main..."

My point is that breasts do not exist in isolation, any more than penises: they are just parts of a much greater whole, the person who owns them. Yes, some men may express a preference for bigger breasts, but only in the same way as any of us (male or female) might say we like red hair or blue eyes: we are thinking of the body parts in isolation, not a part of a living, breathing person.

The only girl with whom I have had a truly serious relationship (or one which lasted any length of time, for that matter) was an AA cup size. Now I might say that, with no consideration of any other characteristics, I like rather larger breasts than that. But when I met this bright, sparky girl, did I think, "Oh, I can't possibly get involved with her because her breasts are too small"? Of course not. I liked her and found her sexy, something that wasn't affected at all by the size of her breasts. In no time at all, I found that I loved her, and couldn't get enough of her -- in the time that we were together, we shagged like rabbits! And I can't imagine that my feelings for her or her ability to satisfy me would have been any stronger had her breasts been bigger.

You are more than your breasts, and despite what you may think, men know and appreciate that women are more than their breasts (or bums, or legs, or whatever). A man who finds you attractive and desirable will do so on the basis of the whole of you, body and mind, not just an isolated part. So while you might think, "That's easy for you to say," it's nonetheless true that you shouldn't fret about the size of your breasts, any more than men should worry about the size of their cocks. Men who mouth off about only big breasts being attractive or acceptable are not merely shallow but juvenile. They are only expressing what they have been conditioned to think that men are supposed to believe.

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See I don't want a guy to think "small breasts are okay" though- that doesn't make a woman feel sexy or hot, just "eh, she's okay". I appreciate your positive comment, but i want a guy who is crazy about me even though I have a really flat chest. I wish flat chests were considered hot and that it wasn't portrayed to be a defect. Even Betty just wrote about how she was worried about not being sexually attractive enough during the groupsex encounters bc she has small breasts. I know its the complete package but men tend to focus on select body parts. Sure I'm a tiny girl I'm less than 5'2 and I weigh less than 100 lbs, but guys still act like they expect me to be sporting a DD instead of my AA. I wish all women could feel  beautiful regardless of their body type I mean I also like your comment BryanK, it was nice and I'm happy that you seem to appreciate the entire range of different types of women, but at the same time you referred to one type of female body type as a "teenage boys". Does it make a woman feel sexy to know that she looks like a teenage boy?? I don't really think that's a nice thing to say or think. Why do flat chested girls have to be compared to young boys? Can't we just be smaller, petite WOMEN? I'm not meaning to pick on anyone and your comments are appreciated, but these are some things that bug me living in this AA body- I've been told I look like a boy long enough in my life, when can these names stop?

I once had a girlfriend who had really small breasts but had large nipples that always seemed to be erect. I'm not sure if that was as a result of her being aroused all the time when she was with me or not. Anyway, she was a really attractive woman with short hair, specs and a very slender figure. She also had a wonderful sense of humour and a fantastic personality. Sex with her was fantastic and to be honest, her smaller breasts didn't bother me at all, in fact I rather liked them. I've never been out with a woman who had humongous breasts and I'm not sure I would like to. For me, small breasts are okay, it's the person who owns them that counts. Not all men like huge breasts so just enjoy what you've got.

Maybe its completly off, but i find similar to comparing men with small and large penis. Even though many women said, that small penis can do the job just as big one (or even better), some men having complex about their smaller cock.

have you looked at a fashion show lately? nooo breasts to be seen there. I can relate to how you feel, even though i'm on the other end of the size spectrum. The whole issue is that everyone wants what they don't have! big boobs = larger arms. i also have a pretty flat ass, i wish it were rounder. oh well.

Nothing anyone says will change your mind until you really feel comfortable with yourself.

"the media" makes problems for women in every aspect of our lives. i remember seeing an ad for bio oil, the woman saying she felt less of a woman cause of STRETCH MARKS! what a lot of shit. so relax and stop looking at TV

Peace! xx

Occasionally the skinny, compact girls make me go crazy. More so than any other female body type, honestly. I have a nickname for the type which I never say aloud: whippets. Whippets are these beautiful, elegant little dogs. (The comparison might seem demeaning if you don't realize that I grew up with five dogs and few human social occasions, so people constantly remind me of the animals.)

Don't worry about what your partner's thinking while you're trying to make love! He's  almost certainly thinking about how hot you are and how turned on he is and maybe the emotional depth of the circumstance rather than the way you stack up, and, from what I've heard, men who compare their current partner unfavorably to a past one are usually reacting from the same insecurity and defensiveness you experience--they're just handling it a lot less graciously.

And I think you mentioned something about trying to scrupulously groom and make yourself pretty according to the social norms, but I would like to suggest you consider abandoning that path. Wear weird clothes, no make-up, stop shaving, whatever. The men you attract while conforming as closely as possible to the mainstream cultural beauty standard are more likely to be the sort of men who judge the desirability of a partner by how well they conform to the mainstream cultural beauty standards, a standard which has already failed and betrayed you, so why not break peace with it and find a man who's a little more open-minded and cares a little more about you as a person, his genuine personal preferences, and each individual relationship than about social status and pop-culturally mandated desirability.

Try to post a pic to the gallery and you will see how many men will really like it.

Speaking for myself, i love everything that look natural - every kind of attempt to make tities look better or different in some kind of way /not to mentoin silicones/ is somehow dissapointing for me.

Big, small even saggy can turn me on, it is more about overall look, than just one part - tities.

While I agree with you all that it is a culture that makes us think this way, and the advertisers' ideal like you said Chu, I still can't help but be unable to accept my body. It would be different if I were a B cup or something and complaining about having a small chest, but at a AA it's like nothing ever grew there in the first place ( and there is nothing medically wrong with me). How can you learn to accept yourself looking like that in this kind of culture? Even this website tauts big breasts over small ones- not on purpose but really how many of these fantasy stories on this site have you read about girls with tiny breasts? no one ever writes about that..

I know its more important what's on the inside- and inside I know I am a kind and big-hearted person, but its hard to be at such a disadvantage when it comes to dating. Though breasts serve no real function to the male during sex, it is a big part of the initial visual attraction, and without those assets you become almost invisible. I have an outgoing personality and act with confidence (even though its false) when i am out. I take good care of myself, do my hair and makeup everyday and dress appropriately for my small body type, yet men only started paying attention to me when I started to wear overly padded bras.. ive had bfs that have loved me for who i am, but there does always seem to be that disappointment. though they say they dont care about how small my chest is, its written on their faces when you can tell that they might somewhere believe they are missing out on something-like being with someone who looks like a female..

Dear Fem85,

It seems to me that having a preference for any particular body shape is a bit strange and that if one's partner/s, or potential partner/s voice such a preference then one has been warned that trouble is probably on the way. One of the extraordinary things about humans is our sentience; we do not have to respond intellectually to our initial instincts or conditioning. And while commercialised and commodified body-shapes clearly have an impact on all of us, we can, equally, make a decision to relate to the whole person. It is incredible to me that many people have a very narrowly defined set of preferences concerning body shape and weight, skin colour, financial status, health and so on - as if they are specifying a new car or a washing machine - when, in my experience, the quality of a relationship is much more accutely defined by intellectual, ethical, political and religious compatabilities. 

Nevetheless, most people are also more likely to find people attractive, in terms of an instant response to initial impressions, by bodies that meet the advertisers' ideal; itself based upon a parody of what constitutes an optimised reproductive capacity. But while it might occur to any of us (clearly it does not occur to many more) that we are thus entering into a shallow and unethical discourse with the body-politic (never mind the politicised-body) we perhaps should simply shrug our shoulders and return our attention to the things that really matter. In other words, while it may not be possible to escape from the parody of an idealised bodyshape, we can make decisions to constantly promote the concept of the whole person. And as most of us are way outside the narrow confines of false perfections, our acceptance of the whole person is really the acceptance of ourselves - something to which advertisers, politicians and religious leaders are wholly opposed, for once we accept who we are, we can not be so easily controlled.

Best wishes

Chu   

PS, I'm not immune to the advetisiers ideal, and have never met anyone who is - indeed, whether opposed, supportive or indifferent, it seems to me we all make each personal choice into a political act whether we like it or not. And to answer your question more directly, the people one might wish to date are those for whom cupsize is an absolute irrellavence.

Smart talk about sex, avid curiosity about a new man, are billions times more valuable than an ample chest. A large clit could be valuable, large breasts are not.
Well toned thighs and butt can make for great f---ing, breasts contribute nothing.

If women were all flat chested, they would still be passionate women. Curious women. Intelligent women. Wise wives and mothers. More and more.

I am pleased to report that breast fixation is fading from porn. Somewhat replaced by f--k me platform shoes and an attempt to turn Anglo men into Brazilian butt fetishists.

As Joel said, don't let our discriminating, shallow and down-putting consumer culture get to you. You just have to start believing that small breasts are just as good as the big ones we keep seeing in ads. When it comes to body types there really isn't an ideal, just personal preferance. In the end, those you truly matter and are worth it will never be put off by breast size but will more likely appreciate the difference. 

Thanks Joelface, I do completely agree with you that we need to start appreciating our differences. The only thing that gets me is how can someone like me appreciate being different when all i see everywhere are images of women with  big, fake breasts or just big breasts in general. I just wish there was more representation from other types of the female body- seems like nowadays all there is is one type...

One of the largest mistakes humanity has made is to create an 'ideal' way to look. We are all different, and we all like different things, and we all look different. It is our differences we should CELEBRATE.

Often times its the most unique features of a woman that I identify as her best qualities. I'm sure you can understand my annoyance with the fact that our culture has told these women that the very traits I like are the ones they should be most ashamed of! FUCK THAT.

I have LOVED the look of curvy women, thin women, and everything in between.

CELEBRATE the fact that we aren't all the barbie-doll cookie-cutter ideal our culture promotes. How boring!

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23 - M - Critical Relativist and Feminist (Equalist) - Canada

Personally, I think small breasts are absolutely wonderful. While big
boobs do have their own appeal (as long as they are natural, implants make me shudder), women with small breasts somehow seem
more elegant to me. In the end though, breasts are breasts, I'd be
happy with whatever size and there are much more important qualities to
be looked for in women in my opinion.

but would anyone on here date a girl less than an A cup?

Small chests are NOT ugly!! I LOVE my wife's small chest. Not because I have a small tit fetish, though. I love her small breasts because of who they are attached to.

Thanks everyone it def helps to hear things like this, it's just that there seems to be so much disgust towards women who are small up top. I mean I've watched porn with a lot of my guy friends and the only time a girl doesn't have large breasts is if its some teen-fetish thing. I understand that with large breasts there is more to love, and i certainly think they look better aesthetically, but it makes me completely unable to accept myself and has cause a lot of problems in my relationships. It's hard to have sex with a guy when you are terrified of all the bad things he must be thinking about you or how much he must be comparing you to other women he's been with who have looked normal. maybe i do need to get with some guy who has a small boob fetish so that at least i would know that the person i'm with isn't feeling disappointed..

The problem is that the media controls the image that us women feel the need to aspire to - you are quite right with how it first obsessed with skinnyness, and is now focussing on the voluptuous image.

What they fail to mention is that each person needs to be treated individually. I have large breasts, but I can almost guarantee that you have better legs than me! Personally, I love women whatever size their breasts are. I'm sure men feel the same.

Any men (or women for that matter) that do have a preference over breast size arent horrible men - they probably prefer smaller/larger breasts like they prefer blondes/brunettes (or whatever hair colour). It is simply preference.

Everyday I look in the mirror, and I look at a bit of me I don't like - for example, my thighs arent as slim as I'd like them to be - and I mentally convince myself to love them, either imagining them to be different (skinnier), or accepting them and loving the curves. Sometimes a positive mental push is all you need! There will always be at least one person out there, if not a lot more, who will love you for who you are.

We all have insecurities, and the media never really helps us get over those, but at the end of the day, just remember celebrities can look pretty mank sometimes too!

p.s. You're skinny boyish frame type is the kind I've always been jealous of! Flaunt it!

Honestly, just try to love your own body. I know its hard im young and i have so many hang ups but being small chested has only made me feel down a couple of times in the past. I rarely think about it. I'm an A cup and slim and sometimes feel very flat chested but i have always been told my body is nice. Its more the shape that men notice rather than the size...from my experience anyway! I also know men that think smaller breasts are more feminine and sexy...i agree with that! Maybe a little bias there ha ha.

You shouldnt want to be with any kind of guy that is rude and judgemental about tit size anyway, stick to the ones that appreciate your body and the female form in all its varieties! Think to yourself....you've got small ones but they still do what you want em to...turn guys on and make u a perfectly sexy women....without the extra weight and dropiness of bigger ones!! 

Look, I love tits, I really do. When I am with my wife, just the sight of a gentle curve peeking out of her nightie is enough to drive me wild most times. I never tire of them, and am one of those guys who always looks at women chest-first.

HOWEVER - the size really doesn't matter at all. It's just part of the beautiful package that we are given to share, and we should be glad, and grateful.

I am a bloke, but it is high time that we as a species (that's men, rather than women!) realised one simple thing:

Tits may turn you on, but you should think of them as a source of pleasure for the woman you are with. Learn that simple lesson, and the size issue has gone right out of the window.

My wife is petite, is not massively endowed, but if I am bringing her to orgasm with my hand, the last step is always accompanied by my tongue caressing her nipples. I love it and, I think, so does she!

It's like willy-waving in reverse, isn't it?

Anyone who says not having big tits means you're ugly is a fuckin' cunt. I've always said that it's not an individual feature, but how it goes with the rest that matters. If you were skinny with giant tits, you'd look silly, as if you were gonna fall over from the weight of them. Any part of the body can seem out of place if it isn't proportioned to the rest of them. In your case, all I can say is that while I certainly like big tits, I like small ones too. One of my hottest hookups was with a coworker who had small tits, almost to the point where you could say she had none, on a night when it was just us working the graveyard shift. She made a comment about her tits being too small (she was apparently insecure about them, much like yourself) and reminded me that she did have them, even if they weren't so big. I laughed, held up my hands, and asked for proof, which she was happy to provide. And honestly? They were perfect for her. And they were sensitive, too, which is FAR more important than size as far as I'm concerned.

So I say you should relax, and realize that for every shape and body type, there's people who like it. And more often than not, what we think is popular because of the media is only really popular IN the media. Every living person has their own taste, their own desires, and their own opinions. Hell, I'd bet a week's pay that there's someone in your life, maybe at work, maybe just someone who sees you at the grocery store, that wishes to himself (or herself, let's not close any doors here) that they could get you in bed where they could spend all the time they want fondling, licking and sucking on your tits. (It might even be me, lol!)

Abstinence makes The Church grow fondlers.