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I am disappointed in some women. I work in a local hospital in the surgical unit. For the most part I love it. Normally there is a playfull banter among most of the people there.Which just makes it fun to work there. But lately I have been noticing a pattern. I am one of the single women working there.And I seem to be catching alot of flack lately for speaking to the men in the hospital.The funny thing is I am not flirting.I am just having conversation of the opposite sex.I don't want to have sexual relations with every man I am talking to.I am having fun.But it seems the married folks in at the job seem to think I am husband hunting or wanting to sleep with every man I am speaking to. So let me tell you how my week went. Monday night I stay an extra hour at work,due to coming in late. One of the housemen(a housekeeper for the operating room) stays until 1am most nights so I stayed with him so I wouldn't be alone. The comments started flying immediately. I nicknamed this guy Marky Mark..... He looks like a cross between Mark Walberg and Mark McGrath.....Pretty Hot combo!!!! ;) The older women kept making comments that they need to chaparone because they feel that I am going to corrupt him.Needless to say noone stayed. I let those comments go. Until Wednesday. On wednesday,I was speaking to one of the doctors that I am friendly with.Then the comments for my coworkers got nasty. One female coworker started making open comments infront of me to Marky Marky,that I have an STD,the comments were getting ridiculous.They told him to get tested. That I have HIV,herpes, syphillis, you name it,she said it.I was getting angry.And I know I could get this woman fired for slander.Another comment was made later on by one of the males in the unti who I am not particularly fond of.He said"if I paid attention to my studies,like I do on trying to score with one of the doctors in the hospital....maybe I would have straight A's". Now I am a single mother of a autistic child,and I work and goto school full time.He on the other hand is single,takes one class,and works full time. Playful banter is one thing.... but what they said went too far. I only have three more weeks to go at this hospital, I don't want to stir the pot.I know if I talk to them,they'll say they was only joking and to lighten up.Just for the record,I am STD free. I get tested on a regular basis.What married women don't realize is that they have no idea if their husbands are faithful to them.Stds are only found in promiscuity or "filthy" people. It could be found in the spouse that was unfaithful even if it was only one time.
I am not sure why women do this to each other. I am kind and respectful to everyone. I will speak to anyone.I am openminded and will talk about anything. So why do I get persecuted in the work place?The woman that made these comments always talk about sex with her husband, she always makes sexual comments at work.So I don't see why she felt the need to smear my reputation all over the recovery room?
I guess that is why I can count on one hand my true female friends. My male friends..... I have alot of. I guess because they accept me for who I am and aren't caddy and backstabbing. If I could work with people who were more like me.Straight forward,down to earth,fun people.Maybe I wouldn't have these issues.
I have been systematically
I have been systematically slandered for the past three years at work. I filed a complaint, and it stopped for awhile. Women do this because they are jealous. Especially if men pay attention to you. If you don' tseek the attention from men, but get it anyway, the women will hate you even more. They may overhear a positive comment about your personality or looks in the hallway and hate you for it, even though you did nothing and were'nt even part of the conversation! So you can't win. Just ignore them. I have made several good friends, but I had to allow for time to prove myself. My good friends know the slander isn't true, but it was very difficult in the beginning.
When women hassle you, take it as a compliment. Dont' bend, don't be overnice. Be known as a bitch to them, and to the men that test you to see if you're cheap (which yo're not). Treat your true friends as gold, that will keep them. Let the oters go.
Also, be sure to have a life outside work. And why are you being tested for STD? Why are you even exposing yourself to the chance of STD?
Slander in the workplace...
I find it frustrating that women are like this. It is true.They will smile at you while they are backstabing you. The woman at work continues to insult me and she thinks she is being funny.I don't mind playful banter,but it shouldn't hurt a persons reputation or feelings. I never noticed it in my past jobs.But since I have been working in the medical field.It is common practice.On of the Physician Assistants that i work with made a comment to me oneday," why can't more women be like us??" What I notice with her and women like her.She wants to be "alpha" woman. She can talk to men,talk sexually, and be popular,which is fine. But no one else can. She'll bash anyone if it will bring her on top. If I wanted to be a real bitch,I could file a complaint against her.The least that would happen to her is she would be written up.But I am leaving in two weeks. So I am just going to let it go. I know some people would say I should talk to her..... but I am sure she will flip it so I look like I am crazy. I am just going to leave the job and not look back.
Well behaved women,rarely make history.
Don't let it go, and don't
Don't let it go, and don't confront her. (Confronting her will basically give her time to get her ducks in a row to turn it around and make you look like the bad guy.) Make a complaint to your boss, informally. Tell him/her what's going on, and that it really bothers you, but you don't want to make an official complaint. Have a friend or two, preferably someone who has been there long enough to have the boss' respect and/or trust, to back you up. (Just make sure they're okay with you telling the boss to ask them about this mess.) Say that you don't want the hassle of filing a formal complaint, and you don't want to mess up her career or something like that. Your boss, if he/she is any good, will take her aside and tell her this shit has to stop. If she continues, then go ahead and lodge a formal complaint. Either way, you should get some peace in your last week or two of work. :P
This kind of behaviour is unacceptable in the workplace, or any other place, really. You shouldn't just let it slide.
Abstinence makes The Church grow fondlers.
cuntlicker..yup.
I've been reading a book by Natalie Angier called "Woman: An intimate Geography" which has a chapter titled "Spiking the Punch: In defense of Female Aggression" that says pretty much what cuntlicker posted. It's not that women are any less aggressive than men, it's just that female aggression manifests itself in ways that differ from male aggression (generally speaking of course).
I keep saying it. Sexism
I keep saying it. Sexism isn't the problem. It's not really men that keep women down. It used to be, sure, and there might still be some examples you could point out in your personal life. But nothing any man today does can possibly compare to what women can and will do to each other on a regular basis.
It's basically a kind of competition. For men, the competition has always been more direct, through physical confrontation, or social confrontation. The whole "Alpha" thing. Proving you're the biggest dog. And we all accept it for what it is. Might be someone gets a little bruised, inside or out once in a while, but it's nothing you can't smooth over with a pint or two. Women though, are scary. Based on everything I've seen over the course of my lifetime, there is no direct confrontation. It's all sideways, networking, building "alliances" if you will. Rather than compete directly, it's almost kind of a popularity contest, where you sabotage the other person's relationships while establishing your own, and never actually meet the other person head on. And it's all done with a smile, as if there's nothing sinister going on. That's the part that makes it scary.
Abstinence makes The Church grow fondlers.