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Sex and the suburban mother

Thu, 05/05/2011 - 11:41
Submitted by Heylin

May is mastaurbation month, yay! So I had some time to myself yesterday and decided to take some time and make a date with my best lover. Even though I had allotted myself a half hour, I was completely finished in 15 minutes. I realized that is the problem for most women in my situation. We're so used to multitasking and getting things done in a short amount of time that we can't even make a date with ourselves without it turning into another thing to rush through. Thankfully I'm an efficient person in all areas of my life so I was satisfied, but afterwards I wondered what made me rush so much. Partnersex is like that too, no wait, partnersex usually takes a little longer but it doesn't happen near enough. If I have some spare time, I want to fuck. My husband is even worse than me with the multitasking and the to do lists however and he uses the aches, pains, and headache excuses ad nauseum. Hey, orgasm cures lots of aches and pains (except for headaches, orgasm makes them so much worse for me!). Anyway, right now I feel like I've hit a sexual plateau! I'm pretty sure the cure will be some sex toys and hot fantasies (which by the way, I usually work out in my mind while taking my morning walk) as well as a mandate to myself to master the edging technique and increase my knowledge. Thanks to Betty and Carlin for helping me understand that I am responsible for my own orgasm and I know you will help me on my quest! (Orgasm for One sounds like a great mother's day gift!)

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Not a mom but I get like this too

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Wed, 05/25/2011 - 18:28
WildOrchid

The thing that works for me is coming at least once a day. I made a commitment this May and so far I've only broken the first rule only twice. Both times happened because I had long visits with my friend and was too sleepy when I went back and got ready for bed. We are having very explicit conversations tough, so they weren't totally sexless days. Once the drive to come already is satisfied and I have some time I sometimes - about 2-4 times a week - go for a second (and third, and fourth go). If I wasn't getting off daily I would get about three 5-minute quickies a week and that would be it.

Also - I'm buying toys like crazy. Just this month I got one glass dildo (copy of Bent Graduate, awesome), one rabbit (weak revolving motion - less awesome), one silicone dildo (looks like the Curve but 3 times smaller, I'm selling this one to the friend unused), one high end toy (Delight by Fun Factory - was on auction - just got it for $50, haven't received yet). I'm out of money and I need a new clit vibe. My Mademoiselle is nearing it's end. I'm hoping against hope that it's the rechargeable batteries getting old.

Thanks Wild Orchid!

Thu, 05/26/2011 - 00:54
Heylin

I usually get myself off at least once a day as well, quick little tension orgasms always work in a pinch. Things have been a little better since the kids got out of school, still can't go much longer than 15-20 minutes by myself or 30 minutes with him. Today I tried to concentrate on relaxing and edging. I marveled at how my inner lips felt like rose petals. My goal for May is to improve my technique and go from, "I've gotta get off" to "I have a full ala carte menu of ways to get off." I don't have a lot of toys and am staying away from vaginal penetrative toys for the simple reason that my body only seems to enjoy penetration once every 3 days (although sometimes I like to have sex twice a day with hubby, I think I do a better job of wearing myself out).
My problem is that when I'm with myself I'm usually distracted so I have to bring myself back. Today was better because I treated it like meditation in that I allotted myself a certain amount of time.

Edging

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Thu, 05/26/2011 - 18:56
WildOrchid

I sometimes have an ambition to try edging. It goes away before I get really aroused. I recognize it as a bad thing - the symptom of my laziness. The only way I could do edging would be if a dominatrix stood over me with a very unpleasant torture device and used it whenever I managed to forget myself. BTW that scenario is totally hot. If I incorporate my fetish into it I might use it for todays part of the assignment.

Delight arrived. The moron that send it forget to put the charger into the package and shipped it to my home address instead of my Granny's apt. as if I needed another row over how I'm spending my money. The thing is terrific, tough I'm afraid to use it before I do a full charge. I hope the charger arrives tomorrow.

Edging and orgasm control

Thu, 05/26/2011 - 23:47
Heylin

I think that's why I like certain BSDM porn because the orgasms seem more authentic. Edging is fun, I just either lose patience or fall asleep (although that was a very fun and nuturing experience). I also would like to try orgasmic meditation and eroto-comatose lucidity. Enjoy your new toy!