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I don't know how that fantasy started, but I think I will blame it on my ex, who we will call "Molly". We dated 10+ years ago in college and she was more experienced than me, and was definitely more open sexually. Molly played field hockey, and had the hot booty to show for it. With a great booty, comes attention from black men (I loathe writing that, but in this case it was true). She would tell me about the attention she got, and would then say something like "he probably had a big cock though! haha". On another occasion, Molly told me about an old marketing class project she was working on, where she, and a few classmates, had to interview a pro athlete. She later told me he hit on her, which Molly was pretty excited about. I asked  why she didn't go for it?  Molly responded by saying "I don't know, I think I would have probably like it too much".

I think that comment is what did it. My naivete towards women and  their sex drive, was officially gone, and I became very interested in what
fantasies women have. I knew as a guy, I was incredibly horny, but girls weren't  "supposed" to have such a sex drive, and if they did, it was a mental  thing, not a physical one.  However, instead of opening up to women in  general, I , of course, focused on my then girlfriend's thought about how she would "like it too much". I started watching some IR porn, with special interest into Lex Steele and his ladies. With much of the  pre-sex foreplay revolving around young women talking about how "curious" they are about black men's size, and how they didn't want their "boyfriend" to know...etc.

A few months later, my Molly's roommate Lauren started dating a black guy. Lauren was a field hockey teammate of Molly's and together, they were the "bad girls" of the team, who partied too much and joked behind the rest of the team's backs. Like Molly, Lauren was very sexual, and she was not quiet about much she liked to have sex with her black boyfriend, and how big he was.  Even saying that it "kinda hurt", but they would fuck like crazy.

Molly & I went separate ways, but my love of IR porn didn't go anywhere.  My next long term girlfriend was a few years later, when i was out of college. Jen wasn't a field hockey player, but she was a fitness freak and had a body to die for. Any chance I could to experience it, I would. She was very oral, and loved giving and receiving. During the time we dated, she had a co-worker named Ty (not his real name). Ty was a good looking guy black man, who did some local modeling. By the look of it at happy hours, he could have any woman he wanted, and had a preference for white women. Jen wouldn't hide the fact that she thought he was hot.

Ty especially gave a lot of attention to Jen. Often massaging her back(inappropriately) at the office. At happy hours,  Ty would get drunk and
rave about Jen's ass, even gently touching the top of it during hugs goodbye. I would see it, and instead of being annoyed, I was definitely aroused.

After one of these happy hours, we went back to Jens apartment to fool around. I  worked in how I thought it was sexy that Ty touches her a
little bit, which she seemed a little surprised, but not taken aback by. I asked if they've ever played together, which she said no. Since I knew she was into his looks, I asked if she would be interested in inviting him over for some fun (i would watch). To my surprise, she wasn't upset at all, but said it wouldn't be a good idea since they were co-workers. I'm sure I was disappointed, but she made a great point. It surly would cross too many boundaries. I was close!  We broke up a few months later, and around the same time, Ty moved on to another job. Of course, I was left with the "I wonder if they've ever...?" thoughts.

Now, it should be said that I'm not one of those guys who's into any  type of  BM/WF porn. I'm only into the "girl next door" type who's
desires to try out a black man to satisfy her curiosity,  coupled with a muscular hunk, who packs a punch down there. No bleach bottled bimbos, or guys the size of Allen Iverson.I'd have to admit, the skin contrast is awesome as well.  I'm confident in my looks, size, and sexpertise to know that I can make my  wife happy, so I'm not into the "wimpy" cuckold stuff.

Now, this leaves me with my current situation. I’ve been married to my wife “Katherine”for 2 years, we’ve been together for 5+. She's the love of my life and  everything, including the sex, is great. While I'm no Wilt Chamberlain (ok, bad example!) with my sexual conquests, Katherine has fewer experience.

Katherine's  two closest college friends were much more sexually adventurous than she was. I would dare (and she would now, too) call one a "slut", often bedding different guys almost every day of the week, while the other was in a few relationships, but  made the most of her time between them. Oh, I forgot to mention that the "slutty" one for awhile preferred big black men, often having multiple partners at the same time, while the other "dated" black men when she was between long-term relationships with white men.  When I heard that,  it was no surprise when Katherine said she went on "a few dates" with a black law student she met at a bar. My antenna went when I heard that  b/c, she previously said she would typically check out a guy's package on the 2nd date. In a later conversation, much to my disappointment, she said she went on one date with the guy, but when he dropped her off at home, that was it. She  liked him, but said she couldn't see a long term relationship with him  b/c she couldn't get passed his race. Her friends gave her a hard time  for passing him up.

Katherine was embarrassed to admit the problem with him being his "race", b/c she truly is far from a "racist". That said, it definitely played into my interracial fantasy, b/c Katherine had an attraction to black men, but seemed to feel it was still too taboo for her and/or her family. It was something she wanted, but felt she couldn't have-just like in the porn where the curious white girl tells the black stud how she's "always been interested in black  men and 'heard things about black men'". 

Like many people, Katherine & me are avid Netflixers.We were riveted by every episode of HBO's hit "The Wire", and she came away with it with a major crush on the character "Stringer Bell", playedby Idris Elba. Whenever he appears on our tv screen, she mentions "he's so handsome", but not in the same way she'd refer to Brad Pitt or Johnny Depp. They'd be "hot". I think she feels she needs to downplayElba's attractiveness because he's black. Katherine's very open to me  about her fantasy of being with a woman. Her favorite celebrity to fantasize about is the actress Ali Larter. So, it was no surprise she was excited (probably the only one) to see the movie "Obsession", featuring Ali Larter as an intern, obsessing over her boss, played by Idris Elba. After seeing the move, we both agreed it was pretty terrible, but in my fantasy world, Katherine was also an intern, who got to play with Larter, before Elba chose her for an "interview". Let's just say Katherine got the job!

Katherine & me used to work out together after work, but she was tiring of that schedule, and is more of a morning person than me, so she
started going to the gym in the morning. After a few sessions, she made a comment about how she's "friends" with the guy who works the front desk area. More of a passing thing, and I take the term "friend" as loosely as possible-friendly person she says "hi" to.

A few weeks later, we were boozing a little and she was saying how glad she is to get the workout over with in the morning. She then made another reference to her gym "friend", so I took it a step further and said "I bet he's got a big crush on you", she smiled and kinda nodded in affirmative, which caused me to ask "but the question is, do you have a crush on  him?!" She started blushing and said "well, he  is the good looking one over there". Since I walk passed the gym on my  way to work, I knew the guy she was speaking of was the big, friendly  black trainer at the gym. When i say "big", I mean about 6'3, 215lbs of  muscle, shaved head., and seemingly a nice guy as well. Just the kind of
guy I like to see with the "girls next door" in the movies.

Of course, I was turned on and when things were getting a little more "intimate" a little later, I mentioned how I like the idea of her  flirting and think it's sexy knowing another guy thinks she's as hot as I do-I figured I'd not get too weird on her.  I have noticed she puts on lipstick before she heads out in the morning.  End of that for awhile-that was probably mid Sept.

Then, a little more recently, we were again drinking some wine, when came out of nowhere with "I think my flirtation is a bouncer at a club." I was stunned she said  "flirtation" so openly, and not "friend", which is a loaded term, but  could be taken either way. I commented that I wondered which club it  was, which she followed up with, well, "we only talk for like 3 seconds, and it's kinda annoying". I interpreted it to mean  she was taking it down a notch after saying the word  "flirtation", making it sound like she's not that into it. I figured maybe he had invited her to said club.

Lastly, Katherine and me were recently  home watching a movie, having a couple of beers  Out of nowhere she told me to pause it and said: "At the gym today, I was reading some magazine and there was a little article about custom  made (for larger sized) condom company. It listed where they get the most orders from, and it was Washington, DC, 2nd was New Orleans and 3rd was Atlanta. It has to be because black men really do have bigger penises." I  responded that "maybe it really is true", and she said "I think it must  be!" I don't know what goes on over there, but Katherine continues to  work out in the mornings, I've even noticed she puts on lipstick before  she goes. It may mean nothing at all, but it definitely has captured my imagination and led to even better sex with her.  I hope one day we run  into her gym "friend" at a bar or club, and I can tell her to go say  hi/flirt with him, maybe even a turn on the dance floor to see if  there's chemistry. At least, I'll have a visual for my imagination...

If you've made it this far, thank you for reading and letting me get  it off my chest. Now, if you have a similar interest, I'd love to hear your comments, or if you want to send an email to me at irishfire001@yahoo.com and discuss further, feel free!