Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
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Betty's Vaginal Barbell |
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My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir - EBOOK EDITION |
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Betty Dodson's Bodysex Workshop DVD |
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Betty Dodson Liberating women one orgasm at a time |
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Carlin Ross Sex, Politics & More Sex |
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Eric Amaranth Sex life coaching, real life erotica, and wellness |
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Lawrence Lanoff Reality Hacker. Sex Educator. Geek. |
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Liandra Dahl Sex Documentarian |
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LilithLand Women, Sex, Culture & Relationships |
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cajun sausage Lovin' Dr. Betty since 1996! |
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Christina Cicchelli Professional Pervert |
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Danny Wylde Male. Libra. Whore |
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Dr. Lulu History & the Material Culture of Sex |
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Emily and Ju Queer love |
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Eric Francis Astrology & Adventure |
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Jenn Parenthood. With Cursing |
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Jessica Kramer Liberating Birth |
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jexhibitionism |
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Kasini Poet. Educator. Catalyst. Mother. |
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LesleyS Redefining my sexual self after babies. |
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Logan Levkoff sexologist, sex educator, intellisexual, author, mom |
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Marisa Black Finding room for all of me |
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Marylou Naccarato Learn how to raise your level of “Sexability” |
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Palesa Art + Sex + Media + Empowerment |
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Princess What would my mother say? |
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Solo Sexualist |
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VirginMonoblogger Thought all virgins were the same? Think again. |
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WildOrchid A selfsexual, toy loving, possibly bisexual total virgin |
Hi! I have a question about (female) masturbation. I've been masturbating for about 2 years now, and have had no problems having orgasms through clitoral stimulation and occasionally oral sex. The only problem is that I tend to be a little rough with myself, and can only climax if my muscles are extremely tensed up. Although this gives my glutes and leg muscles a nice workout, I'm afraid I'm mashing my little nub too hard.
Is there a way to reach orgasm without all this tension? Should I just be more patient with myself? I generally climax within 5 minutes or so.
Also, the g-spot-- what's with that? Recently, I've been inserting a finger into myself during masturbation (with a little discomfort- I'm a virgin) just to get more of a feel for what's down there. I know that the g-spot is just the urethral sponge, and I know what it feels like. I've tried rubbing it, but it's not exactly pleasurable. Is the sensation different for some people?
Thanks!
Okay, then. Thank you for the replies! I guess I'll just try masturbating in different ways (yes WildOrchid, fantasies certainly help!)..
Honestly, about the g-spot, I'm not surprised by your answers. Some women like it, some don't feel anything. There are plenty of other things that feel good!
It sounds like you still
It sounds like you still have fun with what you are doing, so if thats the case, keep it up.
However exploring can be fun. If you wanted to try something new make sure you're in the right mood for it. You're a wonderful orgasmic lady exploring your body further, and some things will work, some things won't. go along for the fun ride. I would reccommend a vibrator if you were trying to go it with less tension though.
As for the g-spot forget about it. A lot of women feel nothing. When someone has tried stimulating mine, i just felt like peeing. Penetration is fun, but a lot of people don't feel anything much where there g-spot is.
There is a lot of tips in
There is a lot of tips in the podcasts but basically the idea is to add other kinds of stimulation so you wouldn't have to depend on muscular tension so much.
From my perspective the better fantasy I have and the more I'm turned on before I start touching anything the easier is to orgasm and I don't need to tense muscles.
As for g-spot not every woman is so crazy about it. I'm not. Maybe someday I'll find a good toy and change may mind.