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I am NOT bi-curious I am BISEXUAL

Rachael's picture
Fri, 09/24/2010 - 23:28
Submitted by Rachael

I came out for the first time to the people i live with the other day. My friend said "you're not bisexual, you're just bi-curious" and "don't be silly you have never even had a girlfriend, how would you know?" etc.

So god damn annoying. Since when do i have to prove my sexuality to anyone?

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Good Point Rachael

Musings's picture
Mon, 11/15/2010 - 17:42
Musings

You're absolutely right. No you don't have to prove it. Frankly I would be a bit put off if someone were to say that to me. Sounds patronizing and how the hell do you know? Have you been with me every time i have sex with someone? And bi-curious and bisexual are totally different. I don't think a bisexual person needs an experience to know. In fact I think being bi-curious best describes a heterosexual who may be interested in a same sex experience. 
Being bi myself I resent the stigmas and ideas that society that both sides of the fence places on being bi. It is good to know though that many GLBT communities are now working rights and issues for bisexuals.

I suggest you practice and remove all doubt

Mon, 09/27/2010 - 17:37
Marti B (not verified)

I suggest it would be good for you to practice with a number girls and remove all doubt. I'm sure there are lots of fine experiences waiting in line for your fruit. Practice makes perfect after all.

I did indeed do that and I

Rachael's picture
Sat, 11/13/2010 - 02:22
Rachael

I did indeed do that and I think the message is getting through, thanks for that advice!

I did indeed do that and I

Rachael's picture
Sat, 11/13/2010 - 02:22
Rachael

I did indeed do that and I think the message is getting through, thanks for that advice!

That sucks

Sat, 09/25/2010 - 22:19
blueberryjuice

It's so rude when soembody who's supposed to be supportive of you dismisses you, or thinks they know more about you than you know about yourself. You don't have to prove yourself... Next time they make that kind of comment, just tell them that. "I told you I'm bisexual, and it's not up for debate. I don't have to prove my sexuality to you or anybody else. My word is enough." You can say it kindly but firmly at the same time.

You're so right. My problem

Rachael's picture
Sat, 11/13/2010 - 02:24
Rachael

You're so right. My problem is I try to avoid confrontation too much, so I would just laugh it off with them when really it would annoy me. But now I've had a girl round I'm pretty sure they believe me finally! Thanks for the advice!

I'm so happy for you

Thu, 12/23/2010 - 14:05
martiB

I'm so happy for you.  Now hopefully your girlfriend understands you and your needs.  For me, it was a while until I found a partner who understood. We're cursed, or perhaps blessed, with the need to be satisfied by the touch of both sexes.  My boyfriends always satisfied one side of me but the other side was no less craving for what it needed.  I'm lucky I found someone who is supportive and understands that attending to that other side of me never lessens his importance in my life.  The orgasms are different but something more profound is touched deep inside that is different as well. We should not need to remain unsatisfied because of who we are.
Good luck. 

Marti