Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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I am a physically and sexually active baby-boomer who wants to keep his sex life healthy as I get older. I am a fervent and regular masturbator but love my wife dearly and am also always interested in sex with her, when she is in the mood.
My wife knows I masturbate, especially when she is away. However I don't think she is really aware about just how often I do when she is home. Also, she doesn't know how very kinky I can get when masturbating. I've alluded to my solo sessions while we are making love and I think it turns her on, but we've never talked about it much in the sober light of day.  She occasionally masturbates too and usually tells me later, as she knows it turns me on. But she doesn't touch herself sexually nearly as much as I do.
She would likely be surprised that I've posted my cock and ball pics on the D and R genital art gallery: http://dodsonandross.com/art/ive-cum-long-way
I think she actually gets turned on by the thought of me naked and jerking off alone. But we are still both products of an era when masturbation was taboo and vestiges of that attitude linger...not necessarily on moral grounds, but more likely on the feeling that perhaps too much of my masturbation might take away from the potential for sex between us.
I am sensitive to that possible perception but find that masturbation keeps my sex drive alive and I'm even better prepared to have sex with my wife--when she wants it. My almost daily--sometimes more, solo sessions remind my  brain of those good horny endorfin-inspired feelings of sex and orgasm.
My wife is no prude and has always had a healthy sex drive, though that has waned as we get older. We've done the usual exploration of our bodies orally and otherwise and have engaged in some kinky things like bondage and  BDSM. She even found it very erotic to do me from behind with a strap-on. As I speak, she is away at a conference-----I'll be curious to welcome her back today as I have consitently encouraged her to follow through with our most recurring and vivid shared fantasy, one where she finds a sex partner (male or female) at such a conference and spends the night in the hotel room experiencing the excitement of getting naked with, expoloring and and making love to someone completely new. 
But I digress.....so, back to my conundrum: How do I ( or should I?) introduce the fact that I indeed have solo sex much more often than she thinks I do?  I would like to be more honest about it. I even get turned on by the thought of sharing tales of my private kinkiness with her...who knows we might just elevate our overall level of sexual arousal in the process.
As most D and R members seem to engage in solo sex, and may have experience in dealing with such a situation with their partner(s),  I'd appreciate any advice.
Thanks,

Ric