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Hickeys.....mark of passion or possesion?

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Mon, 06/08/2009 - 19:22
Submitted by mssaigon73

I love the idea of my neck being sucked,nibbled on, kissed but when the reddish-purple mark of a hickey is formed. I get frustrated cause it looks horrible.Being  that I work in the medical field I want to keep my appearance as professional as possible. But an unsightly hickey on my neck makes me feel like I have been branded. Just this past friday a lover of mine decided to give me a hickey on my upper breast. Being that it is summertime..... this is a huge no no.... I could tell from his actions he was marking his territory. Which cracks me up when someone feels the need to do so. I did the basic stuff to lessen the appearance of the hickey and luckily it worked. I didn't want to goto my company picnic with a hickey on my upper breast.

So what do you think???? Hickey a mark of passion or possesion? Love them or hate them????

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anti- hickey...for me!

Fri, 07/31/2009 - 05:29
daisy

I personally think hickeys look really trashy and extremely embarrassing! i can see the views about showing people you've had hot sex, fair enough. but sometimes i don't actually want to imagine it :P not cool for me, and i make my opinion known clearly to my partner!

Daisy

Hickey's Happen!

Fri, 07/31/2009 - 02:39
BryanK

I've always been anti-hickey for that very reason, and I've only ever left them by accident.  I remember once making out wildly with a woman I was dating (she was *very* fair-skinned) and seeing her neck covered in hickeys the following day. I was so embarassed! She reassured me it was no bigee, but needless to say I was more careful from that point on.

So yeah, I'm with you Carlin: it's about the intentions of the hickey-giver.

Unintentional

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Fri, 07/31/2009 - 01:12
born2love

For me I have a tendency to give hickeys in the heat of the moment when it's all hot and you're going crazy. I rarely get hickies though, even when someone actually tries to give me one, guess I just have tough neck skin.

There are always those times when you are just goofing around you intentionally do it but I don't see that as marking territory, it's just play.

i like marking my territory

Tue, 06/09/2009 - 09:42
gibbsfunction

To me hickeys are always fun. sometimes it happens in the middle of having sex, when we're just attacking each other, and i don't think that has to do with marking territory.

Sometimes it is a bit of a territory thing, or letting them have something to show off.

In a long-distance relationship currently, and when he goes i like to give him a few marks to show off (hickeys or scratches down his back). I'm quite explicit in marking my territory, in a joking kinda way.

Anyway, i like them cause its a sign i'm getting hot sex to show off to others.

Playful

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Tue, 06/09/2009 - 09:26
Nina

I've oddly never been given one without having a laugh about it before hand. Whenever I have recieved one, its always been a game - who can get the other person first!

Its really quite fun (but then, child at heart!). I'm sure I'd have completely different views on the subject had I recieved one in the heat of the moment.

For me, it's about intent. 

Mon, 06/08/2009 - 20:59
Carlin Ross

For me, it's about intent.  You so know when a guy is just marking his territory.  There's a difference when a mark is left behind in a moment of passion.  That is incredibly endearing and something to relish the next day while wearing a scarf around your neck.  HOWEVER, I have fallen victim to a territorial pissing or two in my time. 

When you're honest and tell someone that you're dating someone else but like to have a little fun on the side...it becomes a competition.  Although I'll admit that it's why I'm in the relationship I'm in right now *blushes*

 

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