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My name is Ana O. I'm 22 years old and I've live in harlem, New York City the past 3 years. I'm an artist and feminist. I study photography, and gender studies at the City College of New York. I'm in the mist of organizing a take back the night in harlem in response to the serial rapist who terrorized the community at the beginning of the fall season. I'm very interested in feminist politics and I am always willing to learn more.  I recently broke of from the roman catholic church, having felt not like a very good catholic for years, but certainly feeling the guilt which has plagued my views on relationships and sex since I was a child. I was taught to find a man, please him, marry him, pop out kids, feed everyone, and die. I said fuck that I want a career and sex with whom ever I please. Sure I have always had fantasies of my wedding day with the big cake and the dress, but recently I've started wonder if its a life time commitment I want or just to throw a big fucking party, I think the latter sounds best so I've been trying to throw more parties.  I have always dated multiple people at once since I was in high school, It just always worked out that way. I would find more than one person I like and ended up dating them both, very sneaky I admit but I'm not into commitment. I've been in committed relationships and felt like I was controlling or being controlled and it doesn't work with the person I am. My mother has always believed in no sex before marriage and no masturbation because she is roman catholic, although she does own a vibrator and totally had sex before marriage, she still teaches this and tries to make me feel guilty about my life style. After all these years she longs for a husband, and I say mom you don't need anyone except your self to make you happy. You have friends, a beautiful house, hobbies, and your vibrator. She never believes me but I have decided to give her betty's book for christmas and maybe that will change her heart.

I discovered this webside and community because recently I have been really down on myself about how much trouble I have with orgasms during sex. All my girlfriends seem to have problems as well so it has been hella hard to get an answer from them. So I was looking at sex positions online the other night and I stumbled across Betty and Calin's podcast, which I put on my ipod and enjoy on my walk to and from school every day. I also picked up orgasms for two and started pleasing myself on a regular basis. I feel like I'm making progress with this but I always run into trouble, but now I have you guys to back me up!

I'm really excited to be apart of this community and to talk more and meet yall!

-Ana O