Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross
Better Orgasms. Better World.
I am male, 42, hetro.
I have been having fantasies lately that my father and I are
together satisfying and loving a very beautiful young woman. Is this
normal? My father passed away some years ago. I don't know why I am having these now?
I have had many incest fantasies, but they are not with
members of my real family because am not really turned on by my
relatives, but instead these relatives are idealized generic parental or sibling units.
I was seeking counseling recently and the psychiatrist I was seeing
said my fantasies were perverted. This really hurt me, and I stopped
going to her.
I will agree that my incest fantasies are not conforming to what
society sees as "normal", but they were not abusive sex acts and
instead were very heart and love oriented fantasies, albeit wild and
graphically fun!
Are there others here that have similar fantasies? My wife doesn't
understand why I have these fantasies and she wants no part in them.
I have also always wondered what the sexual act of love looked like
between my parents, especially during my conception. Has any one seen
their parents make love, and has it been a turn on?
Lonely in my thoughts of love all around.
Forbidden Fruit
Hi I know I'm new and the original post was two months ago, but I thought I'd put my two cents in for the heck of it.
I too have had and still have these thoughts. I don't put much more thought into it other than it is a kink that you like.
I the late 80's there was a whole TABOO series of adult movies that fed into the fantasy. On erotic story site Incest is a very popular catagory, I don't think there is anything wrong with you.
It may become a issue if your fantasy spills into your real relationships, but until then I would not worry.
look at me, mom!
I'm 59 and in a relationship with a woman 5 years younger than me. Recent partners have been around 20 years younger than me. For some reason which I don't really need to know, I have gotten into the habit of masturbating in front of my current partner. She encourages it and is very supportive and admiring, sometimes holding my free hand at the time. Occasionally the word "mama' comes out of my mouth, yet my partner does not remind of my mom in the slightest, either physically or personality-wise (indeed she is from a different country).
When I masturbate I have to take all my clothes off and be completely naked and vulnerable, like a baby. Although I said I don't need to know the reason, I do have some feeling that I was ignored by my actual mother as a sensual, erotic being, and was only looked upon as a potential academic, like she was. So my upbringing, although supportive, lacked tenderness and physicality. Now I have the opportunity at last to be "seen" for myself, as I truly am, 100%, all the way.
Whether I am right in this feeling or not, it has happened very naturally and easily, is utterly un-perverted and pleasurable, and I may even go so far as to say it is therapeutic, even healing. I am very grateful to my partner for letting me act out this feeling and encourage you and anyone reading this to see if your (possibly incest-related) fantasies may be gently, sensitively acted out in a similar way with someone who cares.
Have fun and be honest to yourself and your partner!
PS - I really like the photo shown by the original poster (wish it was larger!)- is it your family?
family fantasy
No, you are not alone or perverted in having incest fantasies. I've enjoyed them for years. They are imagination with other people and situations involved and not my own family. With most families, sexual expressions are repressed and the relationship platonic. The mind is filling in the blanks of things it hasn't sensed. There can also be a longing for intimacy we didn't have in our real family.
incest fantasies
I think there are alot more people out there who have incest fantasies than there are who would admit to it. My own sexual fantasies involve being intimate, not f******, but pretty much everything else, with a generalized father figure as you say. I think it has to do with the need for intimacy and to be dominated , a connection to someone who will take care of me while I let go.