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fantasize about black men with dreadlocks

Wed, 09/10/2008 - 03:16
Submitted by shyandcurious

I am new here, like the new website, have been reading bettys website for a while. Am a shy girl who has lived a somewhat isolated life, am also a 32 yr old virgin.

I have had a thing for black men with dreadlocks, it started a few years ago, when I went to my 1st live reggae show, I was old enough to go to a night club, & ever since then I have fantasied about them. Is this weird? is there something wrong with me? I believe in racial equality, I would never want to hurt anyone, some people are or would be judgmental & say I am racist or objectifying black men. Am I a silly white girl with too much time on her hands? I even met a dreadlocked guy at a show & he gave me his number years ago, but I was afraid to take him up on it, as I live at home dont drive, & would be coming to the show with my family, specifically dad, & I did not think he would like it. I came here to about this because it seems safe here. It feels good to get off my chest, this seems like just the place for this where I will not be judged or attacked. Over the years at shows & drum circles I have met a couple of dreadlocked black guys & we exchange hugs, & it feels nice, I get a chance to feel their locks & skin. Recently at a night drum circle I met a guy & we had a lengthy hug, of which after I gently felt his beard on his chin & touched his arm, & his skin was soft, I would not do this if it did not seem appropriate, but he was hugging other girls & he came up to me, & was friendly, the vibe I got from him seemed safe for a couple of touches, he did not seem to mind did not say anything negative about my touches. I never go up to people talk or touch them unless they seem receptive, & dont mind, I mind my Ps & Qs. There are some nights while I fantasize & masturbate to thoughts of these guys I get overwhelmed with desire & end up using my toys all night. I have various fantasies, of domination etc, I woken up wet from dreams I could just have a make out session with one of these guys, just sitting at my keyboard thinking of their skin lips gets me hot.

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my girl lef da dreadlok man

Fri, 10/22/2010 - 23:48
Anonymous

my girl lef da dreadlok man an go fine ah man dat ur family dem wud b happy wid seen? u dutty white gyals don't no how fe luk afta de blak man u get yuh fantasy an den want nex man cus yuh all full ah shit and disease. I see nuff af yuh in da bars 1 minute yuh wid ah man den i see yuh wid im bredrin gwan fin yuh dutty disease white man AN LEAVE OUR RASTA MAN ALONE DUTTY BREED BITCH

my girl lef da dreadlok man

Fri, 10/22/2010 - 23:46
Anonymous

my girl lef da dreadlok man an go fine ah man dat ur family dem wud b happy wid seen? u dutty white gyals don't no how fe luk afta de blak man u get yuh fantasy an den want nex man cus yuh all full ah shit and disease. I see nuff af yuh in da bars 1 minute yuh wid ah man den i see yuh wid im bredrin gwan fin yuh dutty disease white man AN LEAVE OUR RASTA MAN ALONE DUTTY BREED BITCH

Shyandcurious, there's

Mon, 09/06/2010 - 04:55
corvusmachina

Shyandcurious, there's nothing wrong with you just because you're attracted to something specific. Hell, the kind of men I like are all sort of nebulous, too; I tend to go for dark hair, intense eyes, and large (not muscular, just physically large) bodies. The last may be mostly because I myself am not a small girl (5'11" and 200lbs) and I don't want to dwarf my men. Women, I don't care so much about height for obvious reasons, but I want to feel at least a bit small next to my guy, you know?

Don't let anyone judge you or bring you down. And you're not a little girl anymore. As long as you carry yourself as an adult, as a lady, then your father should have no problem with you at least having a boyfriend. Good luck finding what you're looking for!

I am a black girl,im 16 and

Sun, 09/05/2010 - 15:53
Peggy nkosi (not verified)

I am a black girl,im 16 and my boyfriend is 32 and we have been together for 7 months and i must say im quite lucky to have a hunk like him, he has dreadlocks and its great being in bed with him cause those things just make him seem wild, i love it!

As i read your comment, it

Fri, 08/07/2009 - 10:48
sdesire

As i read your comment, it very much reminds me of my situation. It is similar in too many aspects, althought i am a male. 22 years old and still virgin, having fantasies with black women, but there is a major obstacle, i live in europe so all this will most likely remain as fantasy. I dont know why, but for some reason i feel weird, when i talk about it with someone, even my friends... they look at me like some kind of fetishist.

I am too very close to my family, espcially mom... i feel you when you talking about your dad and worrying about his reaction. Its guilty feeling.

Hot black men w/locks & beard yummy

Fri, 06/26/2009 - 08:27
Christina Love (not verified)

Here are some links with lovely eye candy! I wish one of these men was with me right now! Oh, what I'd love to do with him!

http://hotchocolatefinder.com/wordpress/category/dreads/

http://hotchocolatefinder.com/wordpress/

http://sexyblackdudes.blogspot.com/

And hear thee, regarding dark skin and white sheets...I'd take a dark-skinned man any day with or without clothes laying on any color sheets. I do get your attraction to the contrast, as I have it, too. I look forward to having beautiful mixed babies someday.

As a matter of fact I also

Thu, 12/04/2008 - 11:26
Paulamaria

As a matter of fact I also have had fantasies of going with black men but in reality I have never taken the opportunity.  Whilst masturbating I have had, in the past, fantasies that in the cold light of day I would not dream of carrying out.  It is all in the game.

May I suggest that you try out a few other fantasies and see if you get as much gratification from them .  You might get a pleasant surprise!!

Don't give up your fantasies

Sat, 11/15/2008 - 16:58
Paulamaria (not verified)

Don't give up your fantasies as they are giving you good masturbation results.  I would endorse your suggestion that you should learn to drive.  Parents mean well but they really do restrict your opportunities to meet other people.  By all means keep looking out for black men but do not reject Hispanics or white men altogether as there plenty of good men among them.

In the meantime keep smiling.Wink

Enjoy the fantasy. You're

Wed, 09/10/2008 - 13:44
Carlin Ross

Enjoy the fantasy. You're not a racist or taking advantage just because you find some characteristic of someone appealing. Would it be any different if you liked blue eyes?

My man is a man of color and his skin is so buttery soft. I love the way he looks in white sheets in the morning - the contrast with his dark skin. Beautiful. Let's face it: black skin is superior.

And it sounds like you're having wonderful masturbation sessions so let your deviant mind go free....and maybe one of these days you'll act on it Surprised

dark skin fantasy

Wed, 09/10/2008 - 16:38
eleni223

I think everyone has specific things that they find attractive in other people. For me, I like big guys, wide shoulders and muscular arms can get me drenched just looking at them, ever since I can remember! I have never found thin men sexy.

I do wonder what is holding you back from living out this fantasy, if you could call it that. Personally, I think you have simply realized what type of man turns you on. Go for it.

black men

Thu, 09/11/2008 - 05:58
shyandcurious

mostly what is holding me back is my shyness, lack of experience, & independence, I am very close to my dad, we go to a lot of places together, am his only child, & he is not comfortable with the idea of me having any sexuality, still sees me as his little girl. The only way I see myself seriously dating anybody, let alone a black man is if I learn to drive so I can meet up with some one on my own if I happen to meet another black man. Also the demographics in southern California, or in my area anyway is mostly hispanic & white, so I think the numbers are a little against me for my attraction to black men. 

 

I do feel a little odd like I am going out for only rye bread, some people wpuld say I am fetishizing black men.

 

I also discovered a website with a forum all about black men white women, & it was a releif to read it; I was not the only one

Time to move on in life

Thu, 09/11/2008 - 12:11
eleni223

Shy....I don't know what your circumstances are, but you're 32....you are not daddy's little girl any longer and you must find the strength to move on in your life. He may be angry at first, hurt or even throw guilt at you, but he will always love you.

It's no wonder you are confused about life, you haven't even had a chance to experience it yet. Find your independence and you will find your sexuality along with it.

 yes you are right, I am

Fri, 09/12/2008 - 03:00
shyandcurious

 yes you are right, I am aware of this, that is why I have put it out here in a forum where people are non biased, to get input support. Its my dad who also has a hard time moving on or accepting things. but it is a little easier said than done, the cost of living is very high in my area, & I have chosen an occupation that does not pay well, but I like it none the less, am an artist. to move on I have to do it in increments, one little step at a time & plan. As for sexuality, I emailed betty about mine one time & she told me society narrowly defines it as just between a man & woman with vaginal penetration, & learned from her that it is important to know yourself 1st, through masturbation, that this is your center, & I have done this, so I think I have taken an important step in this area, I have already started to discover it. If that is not independence, dont what is, to be able to satisfy oneself without depending on another. I will not let society tell me what I need to do to be whole, & I will not just go out & look for sex with someone just so I can full-fill what society says makes me a woman, want to be careful as there are alot of risks. I am curious, but if I go about in a desperate manner because of my age, I feel I will more likely have a bad 1st sexual experience. based on various sources, internet, my girlfriends, etc, it will better to wait until I find someone who cares about me. I am open minded, but if it is meant for me so be it if not thats ok too.

 

Plus a have read that men can sometimes sense a desparate woman & they will either be turned off & leave you or try to control you because the desperation comes off as weak & easy to manipulate. There are alot of jerks out there, so I have to be careful, dont want to tear apart my family over a guy who may just come & go, but my family is all I have.

 

thanks for your non biased advice, maybe I will meet that someone one day.

And you are correct when you

Fri, 09/12/2008 - 13:49
eleni223

And you are correct when you say that sexuality is not defined simply as sex between 2 people. It is a package, that not only includes self discovery but self confidence and independence.

Becoming a whole woman doesn't even have to include a man, but it has been my experience (and I am not an expert) that once I became my own person everything else just fell into place, including my sexuality which didn't happen until I was 40 even though I had been sexual since I was 17.