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Erotic Photo Shoot... What would your partner think?

mrrosebud's picture
Fri, 02/25/2011 - 15:00
Submitted by mrrosebud

A few weeks ago, my wife was using my iphone and it happened to open to my email accounts.  What she found was an email exchange I had been having with a female photographer regarding an erotic/sensual photo shoot with me as the subject (e.g. Carlin's hot fucking shoot with Marie Claire.)  Well my wife was not happy at all.  She approaches me late that evening and confronts me with the matter.  While my wife didn't get mad, she made it clear that it was not okay with her.  Of course, I cancelled the shoot.  But here's my question:  Do others consider doing an erotic photo shoot somehow cheating on your partner.  I think my wife felt as if I were cheating on her.  Of course one might get highly aroused doing this sort of photo shoot.  But the purpose, for me anyway, is to capture the image of one's sexual and sensual self.  For me it's a form of personal expression.  By the way, the picture of me posted here was done for a college student's art project. 

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Seriousblack's picture
Tue, 03/01/2011 - 15:56
Seriousblack

My partner would think that I was crazy. 
I would love to have someone take erotic photographs of me. The pics are more for me, as I think that right now at 45yrs old I am in my prime mentally and physically and I would love to capture my moment.
If your wife was not mad then there may be some room to negoiate. Perhaps some alternative arrangement, such as her taking the pictures or being with you while the woman photographer takes the pics, thus ensuring that your virtue remained intact. You might even be able to coax into getting some pics done.
In the end I think it is a personal choice whether to pose or not and a partner should respect and trust that you know what you are doing. Even if they don't have to like it. 

maybe ask her?

Sun, 02/27/2011 - 05:45
Anonymous

I think that the idea of having a naked photo shoot is an awesome idea. However it could be confronting for your wife for there to be another woman at the other end of the camera. As a woman I can imagine that I might feel uncomfortable about that, especially if the photographer happened to be someone who you know as a part of everyday life. Perhaps you should ask her why she wasn't okay with it instead of assuming she thought it was a cheating behaviour. Maybe she felt like you were hiding from her, or it might have made her feel better if she were there for the shoot, for example. I think in situations like these open communication with your partner is really the most important thing because it is quite an intimate event. Good communication allows people to problem solve and it avoids people creating resentful feelings towards each other because at the least you can understand each other, even if you are different in the way you think. Be nice to each other & good luck!