Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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Don't worry about your body :) I know its hard to look at the media and also the people out with perfect bodies. I'm skinny but I wish I had some you know strong look or at least the shadow of some abs etc. But to get there I have to work on it. If you feel you can make your life better work hard for it and get to it.
My wife is a 245pound.. She's not the perfect magazine or porn star.. But I love her just like she is.. Shes got semi big boobs and a nice ass and she's the most beautiful woman ever in my eyes.. With her overweight and even a tummy which hangs a little... And stretch marks.
Your husband should feel the same way towads you.. Loving and supporting you.. My wife tells me I'm fat... And I'd tell her.. Shhh baby.. I love you like that. And I don't mind if she stays like that, love will always be the same. Although I'd like her to get just a little in shape just because I want her to be healthy and don't want anything bad to happen ever... Ever to her health..

Good luck! :D I

Hello Beautiful People,

Here is a lovely quote that helps me.

Don't be afraid of yourself, live your individuality to the full --- but for the good of others. Don't copy others in order to buy fellowship, or make convention your law. ~ Dag Hammarskjold (Markings, 1963)

Here is a link to a podcast regarding self confidence. It sheds light on some things we rarely ever regard as related to self esteem.

http://www.richjonesvoice.com/podcast/selfconfidence.mp3

Zara

PS I think it is pretty impressive to be able to make a human being inside your body Miss Chief. :)

I totally know how this feels.

I have stretch marks and I havent even had a kid.

I have to keep AT THE LEAST my shirt on. I hate taking off my pants. My thighs are an epidemic...and I don't even think it'd be so bad if I didn't jiggle so much.

I'm trying so hard to get over this cause I seriously can't enjoy anything, I'm so self conscious..about everything.

Ki.

Thanks everybody for the encouraging words.  I've started a few active steps to improve my self image.  No, I'm not perfect, but apparently I giver great head :-)

Today we have the perfect body type shoved at us on tv and in magazines. The truth is most of us don't have the perfect body and that's ok. Infact you have to learn that it's your own little imperfections that make you special. I myself like looking at photos of every day women that don't have the model like bodies. Like you my wife has the strech marks and the belly, but I love to see her naked. Relax and love your body for what it is good luck! 

You know those stretch marks are like battle scars on a soldier? They can bring you pride - they speak about the tremendous effort you put into bringing your child to life. Our history is written on our bodies. I always admire my mother when I look at the scar where her left breast had been. I can't imagine myself pushing past the pain as she did when she worked to restore her arm to working order after an extensive mastectomy. I would curl up on a bed and die probably. She didn't - she couldn't because she had two children aged 4 and 6. So she cried but she worked out lifting her arm milliliter by excruciating milliliter.

To love our bodies we have to throw off the shallow plasticky definition of beauty that our media feeds us. This image is crafted with intention to put us in a state of constant dissatisfaction and fear of rejection. Because unhappiness an fear are the most potent advertising tools. We are letting them brainwash us into buying anti-cellulite creams and firming up lotions because the more we buy the more they get for printing the adds.

As for getting out of shape... Exercise! I certainly haven't seen you naked but every person in those automatized times needs a weakly workout regime. Imagine how much you would have to move about if there was no electricity, cars etc. It will help you get healthier and more energetic. It will help you release all the "feel good" chemicals. And it will help you see your body in a different light.

It's time for you to learn to love yourself and your body.  Please read this post: http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/betty-and-carlin/2010/01/learning-masturb...

You're not alone and others have learned how to let go of body image issues.  It's a short life - enjoy it!

"I see my body as an instrument, rather than an ornament." - Alanis Morissette

Read several of the 'Ask Betty' archives on this issue. If the sadness won't dissapate, seek out a counselor. Professional help is sometimes the best answer.

See me and my story in the Art Gallery: http://dodsonandross.com/art/coming-age