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Cindy Gallop's TED talk: Make love, not porn.

Thu, 12/03/2009 - 22:37
Submitted by jexhibitionism

I found this TED talk very interesting... One that's actually about sex and hardcore pornography!

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FV8n_E_6Tpc

 

I also really like that she is not anti-porn (and admits to watching it regularly herself), but that the site "is simply intended to help inspire and stimulate open, healthy
conversations about sex and pornography, in order to help inspire and
stimulate more open, healthy and thoroughly enjoyable sexual
relationships."

This is the site - http://makelovenotporn.com/main.php

It's still in the baby stages, but I like the idea and I liked the talk.

Thought you guys might also be interested (:

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There is so much porn out there

Sun, 12/13/2009 - 19:36
anon (not verified)

I think part of it is the routine, same positions same motions, people are stuck in what has sold before. But with so much competition on the net there is stuff produced by women, or with real women (Amateurs), having real orgasms.
The downside is you'll have to watch a lot of crap to find something good.

Maybe the actresses should tell us what they liked or disliked during a scene, but I have the feeling it would not sell, and shatter illusions or fall victim to the FF Button.

I found the admission by porn actress Audrey Bitoni, that she prefers everything that is leading up to sex better than the penetration, interesting. At least she's honest.

http://juliland.com/itunes/Episode86_Audrey_Bitoni.m4v

And she admits she never came in her life (at 3:18min)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rAM5amq6h0g

She likes foreplay and making out, but stil does the usual porn penetration and nobody knows that it's not doing much for her.

Where to start?

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Fri, 12/04/2009 - 01:32
NickN

Dear Jex, many thanks for posting this. I thought Cindy Gallops short talk was excellent and is another take on much of what Betty and Carlin are doing here. But it's not just porn that sets sex in an unreal context. It seems to me that the way business is run, the way Government keeps existing hierarchies in power, the way in which mainstream advertising portrays relationships and the way the fashion and beauty industry advocate unrealistic and devisive images all add up. Porn is merely a less subtle version of the power-relations extant everywhere (yes, yes, I know I always come back to this subject) so the details of porn are less important (to me) than the meta-narrative it supports.

Whether or not individual men and women like or crave particular activities is not really the issue if each are concenting and in 'equal' partnership (either as a long-term thing or a one-off). It is, however, rare indeed that such mutual respect and sensitivity occurs in your average heterosexual encounter.

Porn is thus as much a sympton of the political and economic system as it is a driver. It would have been interesting to hear Gallop talk about her social political context as that is what needs to be changed if progress is to be made in the name of love rather than in the name of fantasy power relations.

best wishes

Chu