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calling all g-spot orgasmers

carlisleorama's picture
Sat, 07/04/2009 - 22:24
Submitted by carlisleorama

So I'd like to start a discussion about g-spot orgasms. I'm not really sure if I think they're a myth; for a long time I thought I was having them but then I started to question myself. Do you experience them? Think they're a myth as well?

I doubt mine for 2 reasons: first, I can't have them through masturbation, only when I having partner sex but through any sort of penetration (penile, toy, finger, even anally at times!). I'm so good at masturbating that I figure I should be able to do it myself if that's what was actually happening! Also, I don't think I have the muscle contractions that normally go with orgasms.

What I do have is extremely intense pleasure that lasts for a very long time after a build up of pressure. It feels very much like the build up to a clitoral orgasm, but the g-spot "orgasms" feel different from that. Not as focused, but also not less intense. Like I different sort of intensity that's more whole  body rather than genital focused. I have also had partners tell me that while they are fingering me, they can feel my g-spot swell up and then they can feel it disapate after I have "come."

I should state that it doesn't really matter to me whether I'm coming or not, I just want to feel good and believe me it feels great! I also have no problem having plenty of clitoral orgasms during sex, and I love them ever so much. I guess I just want to know other peoples thoughts and experiences and I want to maybe be able to categorize what this for myself. I do sometimes feel guilty saying "I'm coming" if that's not exactly what's happening. But maybe it doesn't really matter?

 

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I never thought I could

Petunia's picture
Tue, 07/14/2009 - 16:37
Petunia

I never thought I could have a g-spot orgasm, until I got a butt plug. Its only happened once, but it was a totally different, much more intense sensation. I used a plug during masturbation, sliding it in and out of my anus, and stimulated my clit with my fingers and BAM! It totally wowed me, I've never felt anything like that before. I'm convinced that there is a more direct route to stimulating my g-spot though my anus than vagina. I'll also note that I was TOTALLY drained afterwards, does anyone else experience that? I had to take a nap...

why do people say there r only 2 orgasms?

newbiehere's picture
Tue, 07/07/2009 - 08:27
newbiehere

 

i'm confused why people only say there is Clitoral and G-spot orgasms. Is that really true? I can have an orgasm from my parter stimulating my nipples with his fingers or his mouth. I can have an orgasm from tickling of my partners fingers at the base of my spine, or i guess this is called the small of the back? i can orgasm from phone sex without touching myself or moving at ALL.  i have orgasms from vaginal sex all the time and i don't think the g-spot is being touched at all in those cases... so i'm confused. how is it possible that i can have orgasms when it doesn't involve the g-spot or the clit, if those are the only types of orgasms?

 

i don't think orgasms are physical. i think that they are mental/cerebral. i have had the same type of foreplay/sexual positions with partners that i had NO mental connection with at all, and didn't/couldn't have an orgasm. when i have a strong mental/cerebral connection with a partner is when i've found i was able to orgasm without even touching myself and just from the phone sex/fantasy. i think it is completely psychological and has nothing to do with locations on the body like the clit or the g-spot.

i really hope that this post is taken as me being confused and not in some other manner... because i really don't understand.

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http://dodsonandross.com/art/cowrie-shell

cerebral connection

Eric Amaranth's picture
Tue, 07/07/2009 - 15:45
Eric Amaranth

 Hi Cowrie,

As a sex educator, I've decided that I only teach what I can consistently recreate in my partners, or what Betty or other teachers have delt with consistently. Also, if I'm with a partner who has, or claims to have, an orgasm with me or others, and I cant teach it to someone else, I'll maybe mention it in discussion, but I make no claims that I can teach you how to do it. This creates more trust in me by my clients that I'm not selling them smoke and mirrors or something that I have no idea what I'm doing and have no business claiming that I can teach it.

Nipple orgasms and orgasms from tickling the base of her spine would be examples of those that I don't teach for these reasons. Also, the orgasms you're having from these points may or may not be the same process in your body as ones achieved through clitoral or g-spot physical stimulation. Meaning, can you come exactly like you do from your clit or g-spot by having your nipples pleasured? There have been many occasions where women identify jolts of pleasure as individual orgasms, which I and Betty don't consider to be orgasms, or may be energetic-based, not physical body. As soon as we say that, feathers get ruffled and people get offended. Which is okay. It's okay because it's good to question ourselves and it's possible that their assumptions are not accurate. An ethical teacher of any kind strives for accuracy for their students/clients. Orgasms, for men and women, sometimes have the tendency to take on big-fish story qualities and there's limited ways of proving them in a hard science way that are sufficient in my eyes.

I teach more than just clitoris and g-spot and yes, orgasms are physical body and/or energy based (but still felt in the body) even if a psychological erotic stimulation gets you there. Psychological turn-ons that make us come really fast are very individual and are too inconsistent to teach. I show people paths to find those on their own. You never know when one will appear and you dont know how often they'll happen. So if you love your orgasms, great! I'm glad you've opened that part of you up. Now. Can you teach it to others, or is this just what your body has developed? If you find out a way to teach a large portion of women to have a nipple or small of her back-based orgasm, then definitely get out there and teach it, or co-write with me on it so we can unlock more doors to more ecstasy.

-warmth to you. E.A

 

Tantra

tom.penry's picture
Mon, 07/06/2009 - 20:01
tom.penry

Anyone interested in Tantra should search Kay Taylor Parker. In my mind she is the leader in this field. Maybe Eric, Carlin or Betty could get her to comment on this site periodically.

some questions and info from Eric Amaranth

Eric Amaranth's picture
Mon, 07/06/2009 - 16:31
Eric Amaranth

 carlisleorama, and Ms. Anonymous, do these orgasms happen from friction-only stimulation of the g-spot and only the g-spot or is there pressure against the g-spot also, or just pressure and no friction? If it's during "sex," which I'm assuming means penis or dildo/vaginal intercourse, then that's going to be friction unless a certain position is used which allows the glans of the penis/dildo to press against the front of the g-spot as it's going in and then the top of the penis rubs against the surface of the g-spot on the in and out stroke. I've had sex with this position, which I havent blogged on yet, while the woman held a magic wand against her clitoris and she really loved the combination. 

If it's friction, how fast is the friction you're using? Is the speed random or is it always the same everytime where if you go too slow or too fast, the "orgasm" won't happen or is much harder to reach?

As you see from my blog post on female ejaculation during intercourse, my partner Julie utilized rapid localized friction against the body of her g-spot, or g-crest as it's now being referred to as well, from front to back and kept my glans concentrated on that space and no deeper into the vagina beyond the g-spot. This gave her maximum constant stimulation of her g. Also, as you'll see, she had defininte autonomic contractions with each g-spot orgasm.

To Ms. Anonymous, you mentioned anal orgasms. Can you say more about this, if you return to the site? I'm going to write about this and distribute what I know of these clit-free anal, or I should say rectal, orgasms and would love your info and credit you anonymously as well at least as another woman who corroborates what I'm teaching.

 carlisleorama, the tantra community has a strong belief in the g-spot as being the energetic center for holding negative emotions, if there are any to hold, that pertain to a woman's sexuality and perhaps other issues in her past. They claim that g-spot massage will bring those to the surface gradually and eventually, she'll be able to have g-spot orgasms similar to what you describe where the very pleasurable sensation isnt in your genitals, like your clitoral orgasms are, but elsewhere in your body. Energetic orgasms, perhaps. Visit www.teenidakini.com. She may be able to help further! I'm beginning my immersion into the energetic side of human pleasure potential, and I'm also wary of charletans in the neo-tantra community because I'm fully aware that it isnt hard to portray energetic orgasms to onlookers, whether or not the person is knowingly deceiving for $$$ or is not a fraud and honestly thinks something is happening when that something isnt, or is overblown in that individual's account to others. I have a thing for accuracy and authenticity. :)

As far as it mattering, it matters more to a sex educator like me than anyone else who isn't being paid to teach the public ways to build their sexlife. You can look at it as, "let me show you how to make me feel incredible!" Because your super-pleasurable response may be yours alone due to varying factors that arent repeatable or easily repeatable in others without doing things to get to where your body is at right now in your life.

 

Friction Vs. Pressure

carlisleorama's picture
Mon, 07/06/2009 - 19:00
carlisleorama

I'm so glad you responded Eric! I read your blog post on female ejaculation, and let me tell you: very hot. And interesting! I can also ejaculate, but through a much different route. I can ejaculate by using a vibrator on my clit, which I know Betty would say is something else entirely but I disagree ;) Of course, just because I can ejaculate one way doesn't mean I don't want it all, and I would love to be able to do what your friend Julie was capable of. It's gonna take a lot of practice though, not that I'm opposed to that. Ha.

As far as your friction vs. pressure question, I would say it's actually a combination of both. It can only happen for me in certain positions with certain lovers. With my 2 current male partners, is has to be doggy style with one and missionary or cowgirl with the other, and I'm 100% sure that has to do with the shape and curvature of their dicks. But, it also has to be very hard and very fast, and even then it won't always happen. It's always a surprise to be when it does, I'm never expecting it. I therefore think I also have to be in the right frame of mind for it, and not thinking about it or trying to make it happen at all. Almost anyone can get me there with their fingers (except me! how sad...) and in that case I would say it's mostly pressure with a bit of very rapid friction, almost like tapping it really fast.

I have had these "orgasms" through anal as well, but it's happened very few times and mostly when one female lover in particular was fingering me back there. It also happened once when I was very drunk and having anal sex for like the 2nd time with my boyfriend at the time. In all cases it has been g-spot stimulation through my ass, and pretty much exactly the same method of friction and pressure.

It's funny you should mention tantra; I was trying to explain this g-spot pleasure I've been experiencing to one of my partners last night, and he said the exact same thing as you! I should definitely look into tantra more, I've been meaning to for a long time. But it sounds like I may have started to learn a bit about it through experience without even reading about it.

Thanks for your thoughts and questions, Mr. Amaranth. Let me know if you have more... I joined this community because I could talk about this sort of thing all day ;)

next question

Eric Amaranth's picture
Tue, 07/07/2009 - 15:18
Eric Amaranth

 Oh i have more for you...

How are you doing a tapping pressure with a penis moving back and forth inside you, creating friction? A finger can tap on a g-spot, but a penis can't. There isnt enough room. The only way a penis can do that to a g-spot is the position i described where my glans runs into the front of the g-spot, the over it, then back again to run the glans into it, then on over it, then back again over and over. Maybe if the penis is small enough you could move with shorter strokes and get more pushes of the glans into the g-spot in the positions you describe because he can move in shorter thrusts due to his length...

an advantage for smaller length guys. Yes, every size has its advantages, and depending on the woman he's with.

The other way is for the woman to be at a standing position, man slides into her ass from behind, and presses his cockhead specifically into the division tissue between her rectum and her vagina, and against her g-spot, over and over. That is all pressure on the g-spot in that case. No friction. So, are the penises tapping it really fast, as you say? Or are they rubbing back and forth over it rapidly and pushing into it like im doing?

You gave me more corroborating evidence for what I'm going to teach as well. Glad to see a pattern forming. :)

 

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carlisleorama's picture
Wed, 07/08/2009 - 00:33
carlisleorama

Well now I'm confused... just kidding! Eric- I don't think that the way I come from the penis and from fingers is actually the same. Sorry, should have clarified. I suppose there could be something similar happening though. Both of my current male lovers could be considered on the average side on length, and I would say I actually have more g-spot orgasms with the smaller of the 2. But I also sort of thought it was a mental (I'll get to that in a minute Cowrie) because the less endowed dude is also my newest lover. I could almost get off just looking at him ;)

Cowrie, I totally agree with you that orgasms can be mental, I just haven't had the pleasure of that experience myself. I have to be doing something with my genitals, but if I'm thinking about something hot or watching porn or with someone relatively new to me, then I or anyone else doesn't have to be doing much down there. I have heard of the nipple-gasm before, as well as the elbow-gasm (!), wouldn't that be neat? I do wonder what sort of physical response people have when they have these sorts of orgasms. Can you feel it in your pussy? Do you have uterine contractions? Or is it more of a whole body tingly bliss like what I described with my g-spot orgasms? Do tell!

to Carlisle

newbiehere's picture
Wed, 07/08/2009 - 03:08
newbiehere

Hi Carlisle - Elbow-gasm sounds even stranger than my gasms. lol.  I don't really know what you mean by uterine contraction... so if you could explain that one, it'd be great... Um, I'll try to explain... When I have an orgasm, or at least what I consider an orgasm (I've been told that it actually is what I'm having), I first get insanely wet beforehand and with wherever the stimulation is, whether it's nipples, just my skin, clit, vaginal, wherever, my hips naturally just start bucking slowly and of course there's all the vocalizations, but when the orgasm actually comes, everything stops. i freeze.. kinda like i'm on lockdown. i stop breathing, get really stiff, everything kinda clenches, i sometimes (depending on what kind of position i am in) get a short burst of my whole body shaking and then i collapse. this is the same thing that happens whether it's nipples, phone sex, or vaginal intercourse. it all feels the same and all goes down the same way.  the only time my orgasm feels completely different is with oral sex. it takes me just moments with nipple stimulation or vaginal penetration to have an orgasm, but with oral sex, it's a completely different sensation and experience and so my orgasm takes longer and it feels slightly different... more calm... like the whole process is the same, all the same things happen, but it just seems like to a lesser extent?

i am just EXTREMELY sensitive. my skin on my entire body is insanely sensitive. i'm one of those people that you read about in those turn of the century love stories and you'd say "yeah right" to - but i actually  have lost my knees beneath me from being touched on the elbow or arm by a guy.  I think that this sensitivity obviously results in my ease of orgasm and also multiple orgasms. my current parter tries to see how many i can have in a row. i think i lost count at 12 as the most so far... i think a LOT of it is a combination though w/ the mental stimulation of my partner. like i said before, i've done the same things w/ other partners and never had orgasms, b/c there wasn't any kind of mental connection with him... but when there's a connection there it's insane w/ the sensitivity, etc.

also, if it has any bearing... i don't masturbate, i lost my virginity extremely later than my peers, and i'm relatively new to all of this stuff...

You can find me at:

http://dodsonandross.com/art/cowrie-shell

She Is Not Alone (And By "She" I Mean My Vagina)

Sun, 07/05/2009 - 02:54
Anonymous User (not verified)

I'm glad you wrote this. Personally, I can have g-spot orgasms via masturbation which involve the typical muscle contractions. When I'm having sex, however, I have a different sort of g-spot orgasm. This is more like the one you describe- the intense pleasure. I also clench my vagina and will occasionally ejaculate, but it does not involve the "typical" waves of contractions. Because of this, sometimes I feel like I'm just tricking myself into believing that I had an orgasm (no idea why). But if the same happens to you, then I guess it's not just me having these "atypical" orgasms!