Betty Dodson with Carlin Ross

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It's wild to read what Peter said here, since about 10 years ago, when I was 23 and a virgin, I wrote to Betty about it on her old school site, and it was posted there. I've lost my virginity since then, but I don't have the courage to show my penis here (yet).

Carlin, I guess like everybody else can see, that obviously you did the right thing-but I guess you knew that anyway.

I've looked at this site a lot lately, but only now just joined. I look forward to interactions here.

I wanted to write this for 3 days.  Tom, you were so right about the depression back lash thing that follows the euphoria.  I'm not a depressed person by nature.  In fact, I probably have an overdeveloped sense of self.  I'd have to to get through my childhood, law school, and several disastrous relationships.  It's called survival.

The first sign was not setting my alarm and sleeping through an appointment.  I never forget anything or let my game slip EVER.  When my phone rang, I woke up and had no idea where I was.  I looked around the room and nothing looked familiar.  If it wasn't for Lola, I don't know what I would have done. 

My mind has been in a complete fog.  I can't remember things I said or agreeing to meet up with a friend for a drink.  It's kind of scary really.  And the more fucked up I feel the more attention I get from everyone around me.  Walking to Betty's, this totally hot guy started taking my picture.  I asked him why and he responded that there was something so beautiful and tragic about me.  Weird, right?  And my phone is ringing off the hook like everyone from my past and present knows something I don't.

What I'm realizing is that the single greatest shortcoming in my life is not letting the people in my life feel needed.  I see need as weakness and I think that being strong and confident is what's appealing.  Sometimes its good to be depressed and let the people around you make you feel better.  It's ok to show your veins. It's ok not to be perfect.

I guess what I'm talking about is trust.  I know that I'm a better person today than I was a month ago.  I've learned so much from Betty about the woman I'm destined to be and how to be a better human being. I love her in a way that I've never loved anyone else.  She's the greatest.

And today, for the first time in several weeks, I feel sort of happy.

"most people are fools, most authority is malignant, God does not exist, and everything is wrong" Ted Nelson

You have a beautiful penis.  Thank you for your kind words.

Advice for a virgin: masturbate frequently, let yourself enjoy your sexuality because masturbation is sex, and when you find someone that you're attracted to open your body and your heart to them and just feel the sex.  I mean that you shouldn't over think it all.  Just relax and let it happen.  Enjoy every inch of their body.  Don't rush to penetration.  Kiss, touch, caress, and play.

If you have more concrete questions, I would suggest contacting our male sex blogger Eric Amaranth.  He knows it all and is available for phone consultations.  Email him: eric@dodsonandross.com

Thanks again for helping me through my transition.  C

"most people are fools, most authority is malignant, God does not exist, and everything is wrong" Ted Nelson

I can only say sorry to hear that you did all the work in that relationship, but atleast you have your freedom not to mention you look gorgeous so you still have a lot of time left to find that so called one...Who knows, I don't know hopefully that made you feel somewhat confortable about the whole mess. BTW yeah I have been here before. http://dodsonandross.com/art/my-penis sadly yeah, im still just a virgin I have posted my genitals to help your cause to have people feel comfortable with what they have instead of what they dont have.

PS. If you have any Pointers for a 24 year old virgin by all means throw them my way.