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Advice For a young first timer pls..

Thu, 05/12/2011 - 18:12
Submitted by Xilent

Hey!!
My gf wants to have sex (wild sex) with me..she's 13 and im 14..I know were young but she really wants too. And im afraid that if i dont have sex with her she would find somebody else to have sex with..She's really important to me becuase she saved me from killing myself..My uncle used to  beat me up everyday and i would always think about killing myself..(I lived with him because my mom had to go to another country so she could earn more money..and my dad died when i was 3 but my uncles in jail now..)So i cant afford to lose her....We have been together for 2 yrs now..Turning 3 on oct.14

I want to pleasure her soo much that she wont even think about having sex with another guy..I need help..I never really watched Porn (and i dont have plans too..Well maybe if it would be the two of us LOL) so i dont know what to do,How to let pleasure her, and how to start..I need to know what to do to pleasure her soo much..She told me i could do anything to her as long as she liked it How would i know if she likes what im doing?..like she told me to lick her vagina when we have sex but i dont know which part of it to lick and she told me she wants deep,wild sex and all that stuff...

Any Advice pls?? 
And sorry for the bad english.Im from the philippines :D
Ooh and pls try to say words that i could understand lol

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Wed, 01/18/2012 - 19:11
clonedike

Sounds like you really love her -- that's great, and the most important thing. I agree with the other responder -- there are so many pleasurable, fun things you can do without penetration. Don't rush into it. Give her long, loving oral sex and I bet she won't complain. And kissing wildly never goes out of style. Relax, take it slow, and talk a lot. 

Hi Xilent There are many

Sat, 05/14/2011 - 02:42
Anonymous

Hi Xilent

There are many articles all over the site that could help answer these questions.
I've picked out a few here that might help.

Safety is extremely important when it comes to sex and here are two articles written by sex life coach Eric Amaranth that address that: http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/eric-amaranth/2011/03/eric-amaranths-safe...
http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/eric-amaranth/2009/05/advanced-condom-tec...

It's up to the two of you to decide together, but I would suggest due to your young age, avoiding penis in vagina penetration altogether to avoid an unwanted pregnancy.There are alot of fun ways to have sex without penis in vagina penetration.

I'd throw away the notions of "deep wild sex" and read more on female sexual response and pleasure.

Here are a few articles and videos that might help you figure out how to pleasure her, but one of, if not the most important thing is communication. There's nothing wrong with asking what your partner likes. Ask her how she likes to masturbate, or even get her to show you how she does it, and feel free to show her how you like to masturbate. Mutual masturbation is just one of the many fun ways of having sex. If she doesn't know what she likes, try different things while paying attention to her responses and asking her which parts she does or doesn't like.

If she is not too familiar with her own sex organs, try getting her to read this guide by Dr.Betty Dodson: http://dodsonandross.com/sexfeature/first-time-orgasm

And here are a few articles and videos for you to get an idea of what to try. Just remember every woman is different and communication is still key:

http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/lilithland/2011/03/tutorial-performing-or...
http://www.yourtango.com/experts/eric-amaranth/how-bring-woman-orgasm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azJx0vyCidw
http://dodsonandross.com/blogs/carlin/2008/10/1-sex-toy
As for porn. It could be fun to watch as a couple but Please do NOT use it for your sexual education or as an example of how to please a woman. Almost all porn is made for the sole purpose of arousing the viewer and is often based on fantasy and not genuine representations of human sexuality. There is some porn which is intended to be educational as well as erotic such as many of Tristan Taormino's films.

I don't know if the options available to you due to your location and financial situation but you might want to look into the Books & DVD's and video section of the D&R site.
Like I said before, there's tons of information on the site if you look and you could always try asking Dr.Betty herself here: http://dodsonandross.com/contact (select Ask Betty in the category)

Good luck!