15+ things we do to make ourselves cum (from the D&R Readership)

ChrisOnline's picture
Thu, 07/29/2010 - 21:48
Submitted by ChrisOnline

I regularly look over at the Popular content list on the left side of the D&R home page. I like to see what the majority of visitors here find worth their time. Don’t you think the
owner of the Precious Pussy Tattoo should sell advertising time? That post is always
listed under popular content. Then there’s the Gallery. Knowing what is was and what it has been reduced to makes me sad. I still maintain hope for its full restoration. Many days I think about submitting a picture, even though an ID is required. Just haven’t got up the nerve yet!

But the one that has been bugging me, the one I would like to see bumped off, is the post titled 
15 tips to make your girl cum (from Men’s Health). I don’t have an issue with the content. The tips are not bad. It’s just that one of the main thrusts of
D&R, one of the main reasons I cherish D&R, is all the great content around
how we, us women, need to own our sex lives, our sensuality, and therefore,
take responsibility for our own orgasms. Ownership of our sex lives is lagging behind,
and weighing heavily on the other aspects of our efforts to assert ourselves in
the workplace, in our communities, in our politics, and in our personal

Men’ Health gives tips to men who have girls for whom they need to provide an orgasm.

I’ll bet the D&R readership can list a lot more the 15 things that help us get ourselves off. Let’s try! Maybe together we can knock that Men’s Heath post off the home page’s most popular list.

I’ll start. I hope you add to this list:

15+ things we do to make ourselves cum (from the D&R Readership)

  1. Most often, I need a really hot, taboo fantasy running through my head as I tumble over the edge of a really good orgasm.

Good tips for men here.

tom.penry's picture
Thu, 09/09/2010 - 09:43

I am getting a lot of knowledge from this thread. I really appreciate the contributions.

8. Positive Stress Relief

cogold13's picture
Wed, 09/08/2010 - 17:59

Masturbation is a great way to utilize STRESS.  When my mind is going a mile a minute about some thing I gotta do, or presentation I gotta prepare, or meal I gotta cook, or....  It sure helps to get in an unplanned quickie, especially if my next task/location is the reason why I'm (was) stressed.  As much as I love to tease and warm myself up, there are times when I just want to get off immediately.  Stressful times usually bring me up & out of my angst quick and HARD!

Yes...total stress relief!

ChrisOnline's picture
Thu, 09/09/2010 - 08:33

Yes...total stress relief! Re-balances the relative importance of those things that tend to consume us. And thank for getting the numbering back on track :)

Breathe deeply

Sun, 08/29/2010 - 15:07

In the beginning, while I'm building arousal, I breathe in deeply and slowly, using my diaphragm. On the exhale, I let out a low, primal moan. By breathing like this, it almost feels as if I am moving my arousal from my gentials to all the way up my torso.

5. Talk about specyfic orgasm/arousal trigers

Sat, 08/07/2010 - 15:15
WildOrchid (not verified)

There are things that make a person aroused even when s/he's very tired or down with a cold. They are super useful when you seem to do all the right things but you're not getting anywhere. For me it's butt play, for somebody else it might be having a big toe sucked or a couple of spanks. Trying to guess that kind of thing might be difficult if it's something unusual. Just ask. If we have explored enough enough we already know the answer. But remember - you can't judge or laugh at our turn ons.

4. Get really close.....!

Sat, 08/07/2010 - 12:50

Once you get close to orgasm, stop all stimulation for a few seconds! Start again, and then once you get close again - STOP! After doing that for a few times I'm guaranteed a great O.

May you be like the lotus flower, rooted in
yet emerging from the murkiest of waters.

#4 The Sleepygasm

Mon, 08/02/2010 - 10:55
Palesa (not verified)

4. I relax my mind and body so that I can be open to whatever feelings come up and respond to them with curiosity instead of fear and judgement. Some of my most powerful orgasms have come when I was 50% asleep and 100% aroused. I think this is due to the fact that by this time all the things that I was thinking about in the day have finally started to subside and my body can begin to focus on itself.


3. Using my hands to cum

Sun, 08/01/2010 - 01:54
Lisa M (not verified)

3. Using my hands to cum before I use a vibrator.

2.  don't forget the nipple

BellaFigura's picture
Fri, 07/30/2010 - 18:54

2.  don't forget the nipple play!!!  I always start my masturbation sessions slow,  romantic and relaxing but when I want to turn it up a notch, a bit of cold lube (or spit!!) on the nipples and then little pull or pinch always gets me to the next horn level...